Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuba siqonde ukuba le yimeko ephezulu. Le yimeko ewela ngaphantsi kwendlela yokuphila. Ngokomzekelo, ukugula okubi okanye ukufa komntu osondeleyo, imfazwe, ntlekele yendalo okanye kwintlekele ye-anthropogenic. Izinto ezinjalo ngokuqhelekileyo zenzeke ngokungalindelekanga. Ukuba umntu ulungele ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kuzo zonke iimeko, oko akuyi kuba nzima kuye. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, yonke into iyodwa. Kwabanye umntu obenalo ne-banalasso kunye nomthandayo uya kuba kakhulu kangangokuba amava angakhokelela esibhedlele esibhedlele, okanye nangakumbi ngokukhawuleza. Kubalulekile ukuqwalasela ubukho bombono womntu ngamnye kunye nomyinge wamandla angaphakathi ngaphakathi. Omnye uvakalelwa enkqweni nakwiimfazwe, umntu ufa ngenxa yesifo senhliziyo emva kokuxothwa.
Ukuthintela ukungalindelekanga
Qaphela ukuba yiziphi iimeko eza kuba zibi kakhulu kuwe, kwaye emva koko uphuhlise isicwangciso sokusebenzisana nabo. Okokuqala, zama ukuphepha iimeko ezinjalo. Kutheni ubhekene nezibhamu, imisebenzi esongela ukuphila, ukuba unokwenza nje ukuba ugxininise le meko? Ukuthintela kukugcina isimo esifanelekileyo (rhoqo siyincedo), ukuba ufunde ukuzibona wena kunye nehlabathi elijikelezayo kwimizuzwana yonke, ukufikelela kwizixhobo ezifihlakeleyo zomzimba kunye ne-psyche, uwakhuphe ngexesha elinzima.
Kufuneka uqalise inkqubo yokuqwalasela yonke into engakwazi ukuyenza. Emva koko, kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo uya kuba nako ukwenza izinto kwiimeko - ngokukhawuleza. Qonda, ngaba uloyiko lweemeko ezibi kakhulu, uyazi ukuba uziphathe njani kuzo? Ukuba uloyiko, ngoko kuqala ulwa noloyiko, lo lulo lutshaba olukhulu lwamandla, ulunxungule, lufana ne-parasite.
Unokuwunqoba njani ukwesaba kwakho
Thatha indawo epholileyo, ehambelanisiweyo, umgangatho wakho wokuphefumula uze ukhumbule imeko, uyethusa. Ngenayo, uzama ukwenza ukuba engqondweni yakho iyethusa ukuba usinde kakhulu. Yenze ikhanyise, jonga umzimba wakho kule meko, uze ugobise ngokwengqondo, ubangele ukwesaba nokudideka kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngako oko ke akunakwenzeka ukuba kubonwe ngamava - kujonga nje ngokuvela ngaphandle. Gqiba ukubukela imeko "Ndiye" emzimbeni wakho, ngqondweni ngiphume emfanekisweni uze ubukele ukuxhatshazwa kwakho ukusuka kwicala. Kancinci ukunciphisa ukuxhomekeka kwakho kwesoyika, ukwesaba umgama kuwe, njengefu elimnyama. Khumbula, ukuba unako, nayiphi na imeko ukusuka ebomini obusedlulileyo, apho, phantsi kweemeko ezifanayo, uziphathe ngayo kwaye unobuncedo. Ngokwenene le nkqubo yokungahloneliyo kwimeko yimeko yangoku. Yenza oku maxesha amaninzi, kude kube yimeko leyo izakuyeka ukugqithisa.
Oku kuqinisekisiwe: ukuqinisekisa ukuba imeko ezimbi kakhulu azikuhoxisi wena kwaye ungakuxhasi amandla, kufuneka ulungele ukukhupha, ukuphelisa ukulindela okukhulu kwezinto ezingaphumeleli, kwaye usebenze engqondweni yakho kwinkqubo yokuziphatha ecacileyo kunye nokuziqonda kwiimeko ezinzima. Ukuphendula ngokuchanekileyo nangona naluphi na ingozi uthetha ngoqeqesho lomntu oza kutshabalalisa. Ingqondo yakho kufuneka iqule iinkqubo ezininzi ezisisiseko zokuziphatha okugqithiseleyo: "ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza," "ukuhlaselwa kwangaphambili kunye nokulwa," "ukukhangela ngokukhawuleza indlela yokuphuma," "ukuphelisa ngokugqibeleleyo" kunye "nokukhupha ihlazo."
Ukuba kukho kakhulu
Ukuba imeko ephosakeleyo yenzekile kwaye yaqhekeka kuwe, yenze ngokucacileyo - ngqo kwiimeko. Abacimi bomlilo banomthetho onjalo: xa abantu abajikelezeyo bevuthayo, abantu bafa kwaye yonke into igubha ngokumemeza - kufuneka ulondoloze owokuqala oza ngengalo. Phuma nje emlilweni, ngaphandle kokucinga, ngaphandle kokuhlalutya ukuba ubani omele akhululwe, kwaye ngubani ongayenza emva koko - ukwenza nje loo mfuneko. Ukuba ufuna ukulwa kwimeko ephosakeleyo - ulwa, unganqikazi, ungamelana, kodwa ungangeni kwi-stupor. Ungalokothi ubonise ukwesaba okanye uhlazo lwakho, gcina ingqalelo ecacileyo, eqokelelwe, ngokugxininisa kwimiba. Ungaziphindaphinda iifomula ezikhuthazayo: "Ndizolile", "Phambili", "Ndiya kuphumelela", "Yonke iya kuhamba kakuhle".
Ingozi ephambili ye-prilyuboy-musa ukuyeka ukwenza konke okuyimfuneko ukugcina ingozi, musa ukuwela kwi-stupor. Qhubela ukulwa xa uhlaselwa, nangona amandla akho engalingani, phuma usebenze wenze izinto zansuku zonke ukuba ulahlekelwe ngabantu abathandekayo, ulwela ukuphulukisa nangona ufumane ukuxilongwa. Nangona kunjalo, khumbula - oku kukhanyela kusebenza kuphela ukuba ibhalansi yangaphakathi, kwaye ngoko ke amandla, igcinwa.
Indlela enamandla yokuphuhliswa kwamandla kwiimeko ezigqithiseleyo yayisetyenziswa ngamaSamamura aseJapane. Isiqubulo sabo sasithi: "Ekulweni, yenza njengokungathi usele ufile, kodwa walwa ngamandla okuphila." Le ndlela inika urhulumente okhethekileyo wenkampani engenampilo kunye nentando esebenzayo. Umntu oqondayo lo mgaqo unjengomkhosi onamandla. Yisebenzise kuyo nayiphi na imeko enzima - uziva unamandla okufihla ngoko nangoko.
Indlela yokuphelisa ukukhathazeka kwengqondo
Kuphi na ukukhathazeka kwengqondo emva kokunyanzeliswa kwengxaki kubandakanya? Ukusuka kwi-spasms yalabo okanye ezinye izihlunu ezikhumbuza intlungu ebangelwa ngamava amaninzi okuxinzelelo kwengqondo okanye ingozi yangempela. Nayiphi na ingxaki engundoqo yengqondo ikhuphelisa nokuphefumula. Kwakhona zithwala ngokwazo imifanekiso yento eye yasihlupha. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, amava enzima aqoshwe kwimeko yethu. Ukucima le nzakala, kufuneka wenze oku okulandelayo:
- Nciphisa ngokupheleleyo imisipha;
- ukulungelelanisa ukuphefumla, ukuqinisekisa ukuba izikhumbuzo azibangeli ezinye izifo zokuphefumula;
- ukususa iziboniso ezingekho phantsi kweemeko, ezibangele ukukhathazeka, ukukhupha izikhumbuzo ezidandathekileyo;
- ukubuyisela ukuvakalelwa kwengqondo epholileyo.
Ukuba, ngokomzekelo, wabuhlungu kakhulu ngenxa yokungcatsha okanye ukutshatyalaliswa komntu othandekayo, okokuqala oko uya kufunda ukucinga ngexesha elidlulileyo ngaphandle kokuxhamla kwemisipha nokungabi nokuphefumula. Zama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba le ntlungu iyanzima.Zama ukubona umfanekiso weli meko kungekhona njengendawo ebumnyama, kodwa ekugqibeleni, uhlakulele esinye isimo sengqondo kwiimeko - ukuba ungazivuyo, ngoko ungathathi hlangothi. Ukuba wenza ubuncinci inxalenye yeendlela ezicetywayo, ngoko uya kukwazi ukuhamba nayo nayiphi na imeko ephezulu kunye nelahleko ezincinci zamandla angaphakathi.