Akukho ngqiqo ekuchazeni okanye enzima umngeni we- Oedipus okanye i- Electra edibeneyo kwintombi . Uzalelwe ebuntwaneni, xa inkwenkwe ifuna ukuba unina abe yedwa kuye, kutheni ebona uyise engumlingani. Intombi iyakuthanda uyise kwaye ifuna ukuba ibe yedwa kuye, ebangela umona wakhe ngunina. Olu bunzima luhlala kumntu nakwimimandla yabantu abadala, enefuthe elikhulu ekudalweni kwentsapho.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bafuna ukutshata, ngaloo ndlela bafumana indawo yabo kumama okanye uyise. Umntwana "Ndinguye" kumntu ukhangele umama "Ndingu" kwintombazana okanye ngoyise "Ndinguye" kumntu. Umntu onjalo ufuna ukuba umfazi wakhe athathe indima efana neyakhe unina: wayeya kummkela, amnyamekele kunye nesondlo sesisu. Ngokwahlukileyo, ibhinqa elithintekayo kule nkxwaleko, lifuna ukukhuselwa kwindoda, leyo uyise ayinike yona. Kukhangeleka ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo kwi-Oedipus complex, kodwa inciphisa ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo emtshatweni.
Inkqubo ye-Oedipus (okanye i-Electra complex) idala iingxaki ezintathu eziphambili ezikhusela indoda kunye nomfazi ukuba babe nolwalamano oluvisisanayo:
1. Umnqweno wokulondoloza isimo sezinto ezazisengumntwana. Ukuthetha ngokuthandana nomzali wesini esahlukileyo, siyaqonda ukuxhomekeka kulo mzali, kwaye kungekhona ukuziva ngothando. Kwenzeka ngexesha xa umntwana exhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumzali wakhe. Ngako oko, inkulumo ethi "ukuthandana nomzali wesini esahlukileyo" kuthetha intswelo yalo mzali, kuba ngaphambili wayelisekile zonke iimfuno zomntwana. Intetho kule meko iphathelele isimo sengqondo esilungileyo.
Abantu abangazange bazimelele ngothando lwabazali, oko kukuthi, abazange baphule i-Oedipus complex (okanye i-Electra complex), ukuba babe ngabantu abadala, basadingeka ukwandisa ubudlelwane obufanayo nomzali njengoko bebuntwaneni. Xa umntu onjalo edibana nomfazi onenjongo yokugcina ubudlelwane bokuthandana naye, unelungelo lokukhipha umfanekiso womama kwaye alixhomekeke kumfazi, ngaloo ndlela ufumane umthandi-mzimba enyameni. Ngenxa yoko, uya kudibanisa unina nomfazi wakhe, kutheni uza kuqala ukuphatha umfazi wakhe othandekayo ngendlela efanayo nokuphatha umama wakhe ebuntwaneni. Indoda iya kubona kuye imvelaphi yokwaneliseka kweemfuno zakhe kunye nomkhonzi ofanelekileyo. Uya kuwusebenzisa kwaye akasoze akwazi ukubathanda ngokwenene. Kukwafanela ngokufanelekileyo kumfazi ophethe i-Electra enzima.
Ingxaki iba nzima xa umntu ephangiwe ngumzali, okwandisa i-narcissism yakhe kwaye wayenethemba lokuba yedwa. I-Narcissism iyajika ibe yinto emangalisayo yongamandla onke. Umlingane onjalo, njengoko wenzayo xa esemntwana, uya kufuna ukuba iqabane liyanelise iimfuno zakhe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba iqabane alenzanga oku, i-narcissus igxotha i-scandal, ihlazo kwaye isongela ukuyeka. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu ubonwe kwiingxaki ezinjalo, obanikeza iimfuno ezingenangqiqo kumlingane wakhe, uya kufumana uvuyo emtshatweni.
2. Ukuziva unetyala. I-Oedipus inkxalabo ihlala idala ingcinga yecala, kuba kwinqanaba elingaphantsi komntu umntu uyaqonda ukuba unxulumene nomzali. Kungenzeka ukuba umntu uya kubeka ityala lakhe kwiqabane kwaye uya kuqwalasela ukuba akafanelekanga uthando lwakhe, kwaye le ngqiqo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ubudlelwane obunjalo bomtshato bubonakaliswa ngamaxesha ovuyo kunye nokudandatheka kwaye, mhlawumbi bangaziqondi, bafuna intlungu nokuhlupheka njengendlela yokuhlenga ityala.
3. Ukungalingani kubuhlobo. Ukuba omnye wabafazi abathintekayo yi-Oedipus complex, oku kubangela ukungalingani ubuhlobo, kuba elinye iqabane lidlala indima yomntwana, omnye umzali. Kodwa ulwalamano oluhle kwiibini luyakwazi kuphela ukuba iindima zikayise nomama zilinganiswa. Okokuthi, umntu uyakwazi ukubona intombi yakhe njengomama, ukuba unokuziphatha njengoyise. Ngenxalenye yalo, umfazi angamphatha umntu njengoyise, ukuba unokuziphatha njengomama. Kule meko, ubudlelwane babo abukho uthando lobugovu.
Kuphela kwamanani amadoda namabhinqa amandla angama-50 ukuya ku-50 aholele ekuphumeleleni othandweni. Ukufezekisa ukudibanisa okunjalo, indoda kunye nowesifazane kufuneka baqale banqobe ukuzingca kwabo ukuze bagweme ukutshatyalaliswa kweqabane, okungahambi ngokukhokelela ekuhlahleni nasekudakaleni.