Yintoni ekufuneka iguqule ekuziphatheni ukutshata

Nangona i-propaganda esebenzayo yebhinqa, abaninzi abafazi basoloko bephupha ngokuzonwabisa oluselula lwabafazi-intsapho. Kwababhinqileyo abathile, umtshato uba ngumqobo wokulungisa. Kunzima kakhulu ukufumana ukungaphumeleli ebomini bakho bobuqu xa bonke abahlobo bakho sele befumene umnikelo osindelwe ixesha elide kwaye badlale umtshato. Kule meko, ngamnye umfazi uyazibuza: "Kutheni ndingatshatanga?". Ukuze uphendule lo mbuzo, izazi zengqondo zicebisa ukuba zihlalutye zabo iimpawu.

Indlela yokwandisa amathuba okutshata: iingcebiso ezisebenzayo

  1. Musa ukuxhonywa kwiingcamango zokutshata. Oku kuyinto yokuqala yokufundwa ngabasetyhini abanomdla wokufumana uphawu oluthandwayo kwipasipoti yabo. Amadoda aziva ngeenkuthalo lo mnqweno, kwaye uyawagxotha kwizinga elincinci. Ibhinqa elithemba kakhulu umtshato alikwazi ukunika ithuba lokulungelelanisa kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano.

  2. Qinisekisa ukuba zeziphi iimpawu kumntu kuwe ebaluleke kakhulu. Abafazi bahlala bexakeka: abanye bafuna yonke into kanye, abanye abazi into abayidingayo. Kwimeko yokuqala, ukuhlolwa kwabo bonke abaviwa abanokuqala kuqala, ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukungafani kancinci kumfanekiso wesalathiso kubonakala. Kwesibini, ukukhangela okusebenzayo kuqala ngokuphanda zonke iinketho ezikhoyo. Akukho nanye kula maqhinga aya kuzisa umphumo oyifunayo. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa ukugqamisa amanqaku amaninzi, kwaye zikhangele indoda ezayo ngokuhambelana nemigqaliselo ephambili.
  3. Vumela ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo. Ubukho bamava obusondeleyo ubudlelwane obusondeleyo buvimbela umntu ekusekeni ubomi bakhe. Oku kunjalo ngokukodwa kubasetyhini abaye bafumana umtshato obuhlungu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuba baqale ukuqala kwaye bafunde indlela yokuthembela ngayo amadoda ngenxa yokwesaba kwakhona ukuvazeleka. Kodwa abo bafuna ukuphinda bafumane ulonwabo, kuyimfuneko nje ukutshintshela izikhumbuzo ezimbi zexesha elidlulileyo kwiingcamango ezintle malunga nekamva elihle.

  4. Ungesabi ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwakho. Amanye amalungu esini esilungileyo abona umtshato njengesithintelo senkululeko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, isimo somfazi sithatha uxanduva olutsha olunxulumene nobomi, imicimbi yasekhaya, ukukhuliswa kwabantwana, njl. Ukujongana nokuloyiko akulula, kodwa kunokwenzeka. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba umfazi otshatileyo akayi kulahlekelwa ngumntu, kwaye ingcamango yokuba umfazi omhle kufuneka ukuba ngumfazi wendlu kuphela yintetho echazwe kuluntu.

  5. Zithande kwaye ungagqityi ebudlelwaneni. Le ngcebiso inceda kubafazi, apho amadoda aphuma khona enesizathu sokuthi ayidalwanga yintsapho. Kwimeko ezininzi akukho nto ngaphandle kwesizathu, kuba akukho nto yokucinga. Enyanisweni, amadoda aphethwe ngumsindo. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto, kodwa enye yeengcali eziphambili zeengqondo zibiza ukungabikho kwempilo enobulunga obufanelekileyo. Njengoko umkhuba ubonisa, amadoda akaxabisi abafazi abenza izinto eziyingozi kubo. Nangona umtshato usenzeka, bobabini abatshatileyo baya kuvuyiswa, kwaye umyeni, mhlawumbi, kwixesha elifutshane uya kuqala ukukhangela umdla ngakumbi kumantombazana.