Amadoda ahlala ekhononda ngokungabikho kokuqonda kwengqondo yabasetyhini, nokuba kunjalo, ukuphela kwayo. Mhlawumbi oku kungenxa yokuba bona abazi ukuba yiyiphi ingqiqo, kwaye njani kubonakala ngayo ngamazwi nangezenzo? Nangona ebuntwaneni, bakha imbono ephosakeleyo yeepatheni ezinengqiqo. Ngokomzekelo, endaweni yokubonisa umdla wakho intombazana ngokusebenzisa iiskese, uncedo, okanye ukuvuma ngokunyanisekileyo, baqala ukukhohlisa, badonsa ii-pigtails kunye nokubonisa iimpawu zabo ezimbi. Ukukhula, amadoda aguquka amancinci, aqhubeke efihla imfesane yabo kumfazi ukuba asebenze nzima kwaye ahlale ehlekisayo amahlaya, ukunganakwa okanye ukungahoywa ngokupheleleyo. Indlela yokuqonda ngokuziphatha okungenangqiqo umdla womntu kwaye uqonde ukuba uyakuthanda?
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"Ubhale yonke into ebusweni bakhe!" - iintombi zithi, ukuqaphela ukunyuselwa kwendoda ongayiboniyo. Khangela ngokuthe ngqo, mhlawumbi ebusweni bakho, umlomo wakhe uvule ngokumomotheka, ubesebenzisa ngokusesikweni ngephondo lwelwimi lwakhe okanye aze azibethe. Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngokuchasene noko, ngokukhawuleza uyaba nengqiqo kwaye anzulu. Emva koko jonga amehlo akhe. Kuzo, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kufumana inyaniso, apho angazifihla khona. Indoda enomdla ibukeka ilukhuni kwaye ihlala yinto enesihawu ngayo ixesha elide kunemigangatho evunyelwe ngumyalelo. Kungokuthi yena, njengaleyo ngqungquthela, akanako "ukuthatha amehlo akho" kuwe.Izwi neNtetho
Ngaphantsi kweempembelelo zamahomoni, ilizwi lomthandi ngoxolo luzaliswe izandi ezithambileyo kunye nesandi esilula. Ngoko ke, ukuba unesihawu kumntu, kwaye ufuna ukukholisa wena, kuya kubonakala ngegama lakhe "ukukhupha" amanqaku okanye ilizwi elimnandi. Kodwa ukuba isigxina sezwi soloko sithandeka ngakumbi, ngoko intetho ingaba nayo yonke indlela. Ukususela kwimincili kunye nokugqithisa kwemvakalelo, indoda iqala ukuginya iileta, zithetha ngokungaqhelekanga okanye zithwale ingqiqo epheleleyo. Uyiqonda le nto, ihlazo, kodwa ayikwazi ukuthula, iqhubeka ikhupha umlambo we-delirium, owenza unengqiqo kwaye ubonakala uyisidenge.Ulwimi lweelwimi
Enyanisweni kwaye inyanisekileyo ngumzimba. Kunzima ukulawula, ekubeni "phantsi kwezinga" leemvakalelo. Ngoko ke, imiqondiso eyenziwa ngumntu ngethuba le ncoko, ngokucacileyo ichaza ngesimo sakhe sengqondo esifanelekileyo kuwe. Ngokuqinisekileyo unjengomntu, ukuba:- Akazi apho angafaka khona izandla zakhe. Ungazi ukuba ufuna ukukuchukumisa, kukugubungela, kodwa ngelixa engakwazi ukwenza oku, kufuneka uwathathe ngesenzo esithile. Ngoko ke, ukuba umntu uthetha kunye nawe ubambe izandla zakhe emapokothini, uhlutha izithupha zakhe kwi-strap okanye uvale yonke iminwe yakhe "esitshini," qiniseka ukuba akakukhathaleli.
- Ulungisa umtya kunye neengubo, zibukeka njengeemoto ezingabonakaliyo. Ngoko uyaziqonda ngokugqithiseleyo umnqweno wokuba mnandi kumfazi wakhe. Ukuba nawe uzibamba ekuthinteni ukungenazicathulo zakho ngeenwele zakho okanye i-skirt epholileyo, yazi ukuba uvelwano luyafana.
- Ikopisha imiqondiso kunye nokuhamba kwimizimba yomnxibelelwano. Indoda eyakuthandayo inokuthi, ngaphandle kokungabaza, isibuko sesandla sakho, ukunyakaza kunye nokunyaniseka kwentloko okanye ukunyakaza komzimba. Ngoko uzama ukuba "ngumoya" omnye kwaye uzibeke yena.