Yintoni amadoda ayifunayo? Asiyiqondi ingcamango yabo. Bathi baxabisa ububele kunye nokuxhaswa kwabasetyhini, kodwa bona ngokwabo baqhawula emva kobunzima bastards. Bakhangele umfazi ongenabugovu, kodwa bathandane kunye "neqela-gerl" elinjalo, onothando lwawo luthathwa ngumntu ukuba azalise ubomi bakhe noGucci, Maserati, Tiffany. Baphupha ukudibanisa i-destiny yabo kunye nomfazi onokuyiqonda nokuxolela, aze atshate nomntu onokuzithethelela. Ngoko iphi na inyaniso, kwaye yintoni amadoda ayifunayo kwabesetyhini?
"Khangela, jonga, mamela abantu, kodwa ungakholelwa oko kubonakale kuziphatha kwabo. Funda phakathi kwemigca! "- cebisa iingqondo zengqondo. Indoda ifuna ukubona ngaphandle kwayo ibhinqa elixhalabileyo, kodwa lingafuni; ukungabi nabugovu, kodwa ukwazi ixabiso; ukuqonda, kodwa unengqondo yakhe. Kwindoda "umgibeli" kukho uluhlu lweemfuno eziphambili, ukuzaliseka kwayo okuya kuvumela ukufumana loo mhlaba ophakathi kwaye unike loo ndoda into ayilindeleyo kulwalamano:
Ibhedi
Kubantu, ihlala iqala kuqala. Ngaloo nto awukwazi ukuphikisana nokubhena kwizwi lesibindi, kungekhona isistim. Iyakwamkelwa kuphela kwaye ixolelane. Indoda ifuna ukuzonwabisa. Ibhinqa lendoda lihlala liwumthombo wolonwabo: ubugcisa, ubuzibulo, umzimba. Ubume babo, njengokuba abafazi banesidingo somfuzo kumntu onokufumana umkhuseli kunye nomkhuseli onokunika ubomi obusondelene nokukhuselekileyo yena kunye nabantwana babo. Ukunika umntu ubusuku obuhle ngumsebenzi omnandi kumfazi. Indoda eyanelisayo ngumntu othobekileyo. Umfazi oyinyaniso uya kwenza ubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye ne-anchor, isiyobisi, umlutha, kwaye indoda iya kuphinda ibuyele kuye enye "dose". Kodwa kutheni ubuyela emva, ukuba awukwazi ukuhamba?
Ukunyaniseka
Ukukwazi ukunika umntu ubulili obuphezulu kufuneka uhlale epheleleyo ngokunyaniseka. Ngaphandle koko, isithandwa sothando oluphezulu kakhulu luya kuba yindoda ehlaziywe kwaye iyancitshiswe ibe lwaneliseko lwangaphambili "lwezandla zesiseko." Inkcazo yale nto ifanele ifumaneke kumntu wesilisa. Xa umntu efumana ukuzonwabisa ngokwesini kwintombazana, ucinga ukuba ngoku nguye kuphela kuye, kwaye ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba akukho mntu uya kufumana le mihlali kuye. Ngako oko, amadoda ahlala ekhwele kakhulu kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo abhekisela ekutsatsheni abafazi babo kunye nabanye "abesilisa". Ukuqwalasela kubo, ukumamatheka, i-decollete enzulu kunye neengubo zangaphantsi ezibizayo abanokuzibona njengento yokudlala umdlalo. Amadoda ayedla ngokuqonda zonke ezi ziqhenkqo zobunqunu besifazana, kwaye kunye nokumomotheka okungenasisindo kwindoda yomntu kungabangela isizathu sokubuza ukuthembeka komfazi wakhe.
Ukuhlonipha nokuqatshelwa
Ubuhlobo obuninzi abuhlakuli okanye budibanisa ngenxa yokungabi nhlonipho kwindoda. Abasetyhini banako ukuthobela intlonipho ebudlelwaneni, ngokuphosakeleyo becinga ukuba sele isichazwe ngokucacileyo: "Ndihlala naye, ngoko, ndiyabahlonela." Ukuqwalaselwa kwamalungelo abantu phambi kwentsapho, abantwana, umsebenzi, uluntu-umsebenzi ongenamsebenzi wesetyhini. Awuyi kukuhlonela kwaye uyayiqonda into eyenziwa ngumntu, unokuya efuna intlonelo kwenye indawo, kungekhona nje omnye umfazi. Yena, umzekelo, unokunikela ngakumbi ukuba asebenze okanye ahlale ehlala kunye nabahlobo abahloniphayo kwaye bayayibona impumelelo yakhe, nokuba yintoni na - ibhizinisi, izinto ezithandwayo, ukuzonwabisa, njl. Ngoko ke, umntu kufuneka ahloniphe konke okukuyo: ixesha, izibonelelo, iitalente, ubuchule. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, musa ukuthula. Thetha ngokunyanisekileyo, kodwa makungabi ngamazwi kuphela, kodwa ngezenzo. Umzekelo, ukuba ufunda ukunyanzelisa ngemali imali ayenayo, uya kuqonda ngaphandle kwamazwi ohlonipha umsebenzi wakhe, ixesha kunye nempilo. Ukuhlonipha kuvelisa intlonipho. Kulula kakhulu ukuba abantu abaninzi abakuboni oku njengesisombululo kwiingxaki zobudlelwane. Kwaye akukho nto!
Ukubulela nokunyaniseka
Abasetyhini abaninzi bakuthola kunzima ukuyiqonda, kodwa ukubonga akubalulekanga kunobhedi. Akayi kuba nobudlelwane nomntu, uya kumkhangela ngecala. Ngelishwa, ubuchule bokubulela nokumnceda, njengommiselo, luyinto ehambelana nolwalamano olutsha. Ukuhlala ndawonye iminyaka, ngaba nayiphi na imisebenzi. Indoda yakha indlu, ityala umthi ize ikhulise unyana, kodwa ungayithathi nto. Le ndlela iphosakeleyo! Amadoda afana nabantwana, kufuneka adunyiswe ngodongwe oludliwayo (ingakumbi ukuba aluphumelelanga namhlanje), mbulela ukuthobela (ukukhupha umdaka, wathenga umkhonto, wambamba umkhwekazi kwidacha) kwaye uyayithanda impumelelo (ipeyinti yocingo, ikhusele i-thesis, ifunyenwe izigidi). Akukho sikhuthazo esikhulu kunomntu kunombulelo onyanisekileyo kunye nokunyaniseka. Lo ngumlingo wangempela. Hlola!
Ukunyamekela nokuqwalaselwa
Into ephambili apha kukuqonda ukuba yiyiphi inkxalabo yakho kumntu wakho. Ngamnye wabo unengcamango yakhe malunga nokubonakaliswa kokunyamekelwa kwabasetyhini kunye nengqalelo. Omnye ukwanele ukuba umfazi othandekayo uphuza ikhofi rhoqo ekuseni kwaye akayi kukulibala ukuphosa ityeksi yetyuwa apho, njengoko umntu ethanda; umntu akakwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwenguqu yansuku zonke yamasheki ngombala wekhati ebhokisini lebhokhwe yeso sisebenti; kunye namanye amadoda, mhlawumbi i-degree ephezulu yokunyamekela iya kuba ukubonelela lo mfazi kunye nosapho ngelixa ekhulelwe ngekhefu lomntwana. Nangona kunjalo, kodwa ukugcinwa ngokugqithiseleyo kwezi zithethe zemihla ngemihla, izithethe okanye izenzo eziqhelekileyo zenze ukuba ubuhlobo bube yintando.
Inkxaso
Umntu onenkalipho, ophumelelayo, oqinileyo kunye onobukrakra udinga inkxaso. Xa edala ubudlelwane kunye nomfazi, unethemba lokuba ngenyameko yegama lala ma-cinematographer "baya kuba nosizi novuyo, kwintsimi kunye nentlupheko, ekuguleni nasempilweni." Uya kudibanisa ubomi bakhe kunye naloo mfazi, nokuba, nokuba umhlaba wonke uphambene naye, uya kuma emva kwakhe aze amnike iikharriji. Unokuba luncedo kumntu, ugqugquzele ngokuzithemba kuye, unikele ngenkxaso xa ewufuna emoyeni, kwaye uya kwenza konke kwaye ngakumbi nakwebuhlobo bakho.
Xabiso losapho
Intsapho yamadoda amaninzi iyinjini yeempumelelo zabo. Indoda, ngokungafani nomfazi, iyaziwa ngakumbi kwilizwe elingaphandle-lenza umsebenzi, ikwazi ukuzimela ngokuzimela kunye nokuhlonishwa njengentlalo. Kwinqanaba elithile lobomi bakhe, xa ebeka isiseko, akayidingi intsapho. Kuphazamisa. Kodwa ngaba ufuna into eninzi? Hayi, ayikho. Iziphumo ezintsha ziqala ukulahlekelwa intsingiselo, kwaye ukuqonda kwangaphandle akusayi kumnika ukuzaliswa kwangaphambili kwengqondo yobomi. Izibalo azithethi xa zibiza ukuba abantu basapho bahlala ixesha elide. Unomntu onokuphila. Kubantwana, kubafazi babo, ngokuhlala kwabo, bafumana intsingiselo ecacileyo kunye nokufezekiswa kwemvelo yabo yamandulo. Mkhangele indoda kunye neentlobo zentsapho, bonisa iintlobo zobomi bentsapho, menze axhomekeke kwintando yakho, kwaye uya kuhlala nawe ngonaphakade.