Indlela yokuhlala kuyo, ukuba akukho namandla kwaye akafuni nto

Wonke umntu ufumana imeko ebomini bakhe xa intsingiselo yobomi ilahlekile, iquka ukulangazelela okungapheliyo, imibala yehlabathi iphela, kwaye enye ifuna ukuphazamisa eli hlabathi okanye lilisuse ebusweni bayo. Ubuqhophololo bentela kukuba luthanda njenge-swamp, kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo kulo, kukhangela ngakumbi. U-Khandra uba ngumdla, ukunganakwa - ukuxinezeleka, kunye nokudandatheka - ukungabi namdla wokuhlala. Ungayinqoba njani eli gama kwaye unqande ukulila nokuphila kwakho kwehlulekile?

Kukho indlela yokuphuma. Iingcali zengqondo zineendlela ezibonakaliswe zixhobo zokulwa nemiphumo yepen. Kodwa okokuqala makhe sibone izizathu kunye nemiphumo. Intshaba kufuneka yaziwe ngabantu. Nabahlobo kuhlale kulula ukuxoxisana nabanye abantu abangaziwayo. Ukuphuma kwimeko "yokungabi nciphisa" kuya kunceda izakhono ezizodwa eziphuhliswe ngabaqeqeshi beengqondo. Baza kukufundisa indlela yokujongana nokudakumba nokuxelela ukuba wenzeni, xa izandla zakho zihla, awunawo amandla anele kwaye unqwenela ukuhlala.

"Intsholongwane" yepen

Uphi ukukhathala okuvela ebomini? Iingcali zenzululwazi zithi i-propensity states to state stress is inherited. Nangona kunjalo, i-genetic predisposition ilandelwa kuphela kwi-40% yamatyala, ama-60% aseleyo awela kwezinye izinto. Ngethamsanqa, i-pentile yelifa iyaphathwa. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuqhubela phambili ukuphelisa imiphumo, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda izizathu ezibangelwa zona. Iingcali zengqondo zidibanisa ukunganakwa ubomi ngenxa yezizathu eziyisithandathu ezibalulekileyo:

1. Ukuxinezeleka.
2. Avitaminosis.
3. Ukutya.
4. Iengqondo ezingaphezulu.
5. Umthwalo womzimba.
6. Ukufumana amayeza.

Ukunyangwa kwengqondo embi

Ngezizathu ezibonakalayo ezicacileyo. Uninzi lwabo lunokupheliswa ngaphandle kokusebenza kwiingcali. Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza kunye nabangenalwazi abanokuxinezeleka, okungeke kuthathwe "ngokungabonakali"? Bahlala bebeka isimo sezulu ngesimo sengqondo. Kwi-psychotherapy, kukho iindlela ezivumela ingqondo engacatshangayo ukuba 'ihlambulule amanzi' kwaye ibonakalise imbangela yangempela yendiza. Iingcali zengqondo zithi abantu abaninzi abaxinezelekile banamathele kwiimeko zobomi obunzima kwaye aboni indlela yokuphuma kuyo. Ukusebenzisa ubuchwephesha bezobugcisa u-Elena Tararina uye waqulunqa isicatshulwa somlobi esinceda ngaphandle kwengxaki kwi-psyche ukuba aphile ngembali embi yobomi bakhe kwaye aguqule iimvakalelo eziyingozi kwizinto zobuchule.

I-Technique "Ukutshintsha Ukunyanzeliswa Ngamafutha Ohlaza"

Inkqubo kukupenda amava akho, kungekhona ngeepencilisi okanye iipenisi eziqhelekileyo, kodwa ngeoli. Usuyile oyileji. Ukungafani kwale ndlela kukuba ukudweba ngezinto eziphathekayo, ezibonakalayo, ezibonakalayo, eziplastiki kukuvumela ukuba ungacingi ngomgangatho kunye nencazelo yomfanekiso, kwaye uzigqibelele kumava. Le nqubo ibizwa ngokuba yonyango lobugcisa kwaye isetyenziselwa ukuphatha izimo zokudandatheka. Ikuvumela ukuba ufumane kwaye ulungelelanise imbangela yepen, ukucacisa iimvakalelo eziwonakalisayo, kuphucula imvakalelo kunye nokutshintsha ubomi. Ukufumana iimvakalelo uya kufuna iimpepha ezincinci zamaphepha, ioli yelanga kunye neepotton buds.

1. Yakha umoya othoba umphefumlo wakho: isiqhumiso sokukhanyisa, ubeke umculo ozolileyo okanye ucime yonke into uze uhlale ucace.
2. Vumela ukuba uhlalutye kwiimeko ezimbi ezikuthintela amandla kunye nobukhulu. Phila ngengqondo kwaye kwiinkcukacha ezininzi iinkcukacha ziphazamise uxolo lwakho.
3. Gxila kwiimvakalelo. Makhe bathethe, bathethele wena (umemeza, ufunge, ufuneke) ukuba bafuna kanjalo.
4. Dlulisa amava akho kwiphepha uze udwebe ezo "zilo" ezenza zonke iimvakalelo zakho eziwonakalisayo.
5. Yenza umzobo kwiwindow uze uyihlole nge "x-ray" yakho. Le "yifomati" kunye nokuxilongwa komphefumlo wakho ogulayo.
6. Qalisa ukuxilongwa ngokucacileyo komfanekiso: yibiza igama; Chaza oko ubona kwiphepha; Cinga ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ungeze iinkcukacha kumzobo oya kunciphisa ingxaki kulo. Lungisa okanye wongeze into eya kwenza umfanekiso uphumelele.

Yenza inqubo rhoqo xa uwela emgodini weemvakalelo, ulahlekelwe amandla kunye nenjongo yobomi.

I-Technique "Ukwazisa ngeminithi emithathu"

Le nqubo iza kunciphisa ukukhathazeka, ikuvumela ukuba uzibonele "apha naphahla", ivela kwi-"self-immolation" engenakuthi "kwaye ukuzimela" kunye nelizwe apho kubonakala ngathi yonke into ayifanelekanga. Utshintsho kwimoya yakho uza kuva emva kwiseshoni yokuqala. Ngokusetyenziswa kweteknoloji ngokufanelekileyo, isimo sakho sengqondo sigqityiweyo.

1. Hlala phantsi, kodwa ukhululeke. Uziva unentembelo emzimbeni wakho.
2. Gxininisa iingcamango zakho, kodwa ungakhathazeki ngabo, kodwa zijonge nje zibhade ngomnye. Ngoko udala umgama phakathi kwakho kunye neengcamango zakho.
3. Qaphela imvakalelo yakho, apho unamathele kwaye ngoku udibana nentlungu, ukudumala, umsindo, intukuthelo, njl. Musa ukuwaphika kwaye ungamkeli. Qaphela ukuba banelungelo lokuba.
4. Ndiva umzimba wakho. Phawula indlela ezivakalelwa ngayo ngeli xesha. Bamkele, nokuba kukho ukungathandeki, ukungqongqo, ubuthathaka, ukuphazamiseka, kunye nokunye.
5. Hlola ukuphefumla kwakho. Uvakalelwa njani, ngexesha lokuphefumla, esifubeni sakho, isisu sishukumisa, njengoko umoya udlula kwimpumlo, umlomo uze uzalise imiphunga.
6. Gxila kumzimba wakho ngokubanzi. Yamkela nayiphi na into engeyiyo, nantoni na kuyo - kwiimisipha, ukuphefumla, izitho zangaphakathi. Ngenyameko ukususa uxinzelelo ngokuthi "ukuphefumla" kukho ubomi obutsha kunye namandla amasha. Ukuphefumula, ukukhulula konke okuphazamisayo. Phinda uze uzive ukhululekile.
7. Ukuphumeza le nkqubo, akudingeki ukuba uqhotyoshelwe emithathu imizuzu. Inokuhlala ixesha elide njengoko ufuna ukuphumla. Into ephambili, ungakulibali ukuyisebenzisa xa uziva ungenamandla, uxinzelelo, uxinzelelo, okanye awukwazi ukulahla iingcamango ezingathandekiyo.

Amasu acetywayo yindlela eqinisekisiweyo yokungena entle xa kukho konke okubi. Musa ukuba nevila ukuze uzibonele kwiimeko zakho ezixinezelekileyo, kwaye ziya kuba yintsapho yakho ye-psychotherapists, apho ungayilungisa khona nawuphi na umzuzu onzima ebomini bakho.