Mhlawumbi, ukunika impendulo engabonakaliyo kumbuzo othi "Ngaba kukho uthando phakathi kwendoda nentombazana?" Akunakwenzeka. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ayikwazi ukuwamkela yonke indawo kwaye enye leyo iyavuma ukuba yonke into iyavumelana. Emva koko, abaninzi bethu baqinisekisa ngokucacileyo ukuba akukho uthando kulo mhlaba! Nangona kutheni bathetha njalo-lo ngumbuzo. Mhlawumbi, ngenxa yothando oluye lwaphula intliziyo yabo.
Ukuphikisa ukuba uthando phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana ayikho, mhlawumbi, iyisiyatha kwaye ayinanto. Ngaloo ndlela siphumelela bonke ubomi obuqaqambileyo kunye nezibini ezonwabileyo ezivelele kwiimvakalelo zabo kwaye zenze isithandane. Yintoni, ukuba akunjalo uthando?
Abachasene nale mvakalelo ecacileyo bathi uthando alukho kwifomu ecocekileyo, ukuba isoloko inemvelaphi ethile, masithi, inomdla onomdla, owuthintela Uthando lobo bungqina obungenakuqhaqhaqha. Kodwa yishiye le miganci: kungekhona zonke izithandwa zifuna into evela kubathandekayo babo.
Nangona hayi, into encinane engalunganga. Sonke sidinga into esithandayo. Kwaye, okokuqala, sithetha ngothando, ukufudumala, ukunakekela, ukunyamekela. Sidinga iimvakalelo, sifuna ukunqwenela. Sifuna ukuphinda siphinde siphumelele umzuzu omnandi wokuqala kunye nokubanga, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukhangela amehlo akho oyithandayo, ufuna kuzo esinye isibhengezo sothando. Kwaye ufuna ukubiza yonke "imfesane kunye nezinto zokuzimela"?
Okokuqala, uthando lubonakaliswa ngumntu onomdla wokuxhamla kumntu. Kubonakala ngathi ngaphandle kwakhe awukwazi ukudla nokusela, nokuba ukuphefumla kuba nzima. Uziva uncedo olukhawulezileyo ukumbona rhoqo kwisibini, ukucacisa isandla sakhe esiludumele, ukumbamba kunye nokuba nje ube khona, ubuncinane ngokubukeka kuthinta izixhobo zakho ezizithandayo. Utsho ukuba ubophelelwe ngumpawu wezinye iimvakalelo ezinamandla - umzekelo, ubuhlobo. Kodwa, uyabona, ukuba umntu ungumhlobo wakho osondeleyo, awuyi kuvakalelwa imvakalelo echazwe ngasentla. Ewe, ngaphandle komhlobo uya kuba nexhala, ufuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabahlobo bakho abalungileyo. Kodwa xa umntu obathandayo ebonakala ebomini, nokuba ngabahlobo abasondeleyo bangena kwimvelaphi.
Uthando luxhalaba. Lo mnqweno wokusindisa kuyo nayiphi na ntlekele, ukuhlaselwa, ukuba ungavumeli nabani na ukuba bakhuphe. Unonophelo luvelisa zonke ezo zinto ezinomsoco kwaye ezinomphefumlo, zithenda ezithandana nothando lokwenene. Apha uhamba epakini yasebusika, uphefumula ngephunga elimnandi lentsha. Kwaye uyaqaphela, kodwa uhlala ebophe intsimbi yakho yobunzima ngokugqithiseleyo, ukwenzela ukuba umoya ogqithisileyo ungagxininanga iindlebe zakho. Ucela ukuba unxibe iiglavu, kwaye ukuba uyabakhohlwa ekhaya, uya kufudula izandla zakho zonke iindlela zakhe. Uya kulungisa isambatho sakho ngesantya sokubeletha, lonke ixesha uzama ukugubungela i-chin ekhuphayo ebushushu. Yaye xa ufika ekhaya, ngokukhawuleza uyathumela kwindawo yokuhlambela ukuze ahlambe, kwaye uya kulungiselela itiye elitshisa elitshisayo.
Yiyiphi enye into enokuzixhalabisa ngokwenene? Asikhulumi ngothando lomama kumntwana wethu ngoku, ngenxa yokuba ukubizwa kwegazi kunye nomzimba wesisu kunamandla kunabo bonke abanye iimvakalelo, luthando aluzange ludlule, awukwazi ukuyitshisa entliziyweni yakho.
Nangona, mhlawumbi, akunakwenzeka ukusho ngokubanzi ukuba kukho uthando omnye kuphela. Emva koko, loo nto ithetha ukuba sihlala sithetha ngothando nangethuba, nangona kunjalo, xa amazwi omthandane asuka emlonyeni wethu, siyaqiniseka ukuba siyayithanda. Futhi musa ukunyathela ngokuzenzekelayo le mvakalelo, besithi bayamangalisa kwaye baqulunqwe, kuba uthando ebomini luphela. Mhlawumbi uthando luvakalelwa kakhulu kwaye luya kusivakashela ezininzi. Emva koko, yintoni enye, ngaphandle kokuqinileyo, okwenene kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, uthando olufanayo, lunokusenza sibe nolonwabo olwenene, ukunika umnqweno onzima wokuphila nokuthandwa?
Nangona nje intliziyo yomntu idinga uthando, Uthando luya kuba khona kwaye luqhakaze ngaphakathi kwethu. Ngamanye amaxesha kuzisa intlungu, ukudimazeka kunye nentukuthelo. Nangona, kulungile ukubiza loo nto "uthando." Uthando luyinto elula, engenangqiqo eyenza intliziyo iyicule, ingabandezeleka. Yaye ukuba ivelisa intlungu-ke ucinge: ngaba lo lu thando? Mhlawumbi ufumana udibaniso lomntu kumntu, kodwa akafuni ukuba ube ngowakho? Ngaba ndimele ndivumele ukuvakalelwa okunjalo kutshabalalise emphefumlweni wenu? Emva kwakho konke, ukukhahla ubomi bakho kuloo nto. Ngubani ongeke aziqonde imizamo yakho, ingabe usengozini yokulahlekelwa yintswelo yangempela ongeke uyiqaphele ngenxa yokungaboni kunye nentliziyo yakho?
Ukufumana uthando kuyonwaba olukhulu, ukuyigcina - ubugcisa bokwenene, ukutshisa imihla ngemihla. Nangona kunjalo, ndikholelwe, uthando lufanelekile! Uthando lufanelekile yonke imibingelelo ehlabathini, kodwa uthando lokwenene aluyi kukunyanzela ukuba wenze imibingelelo enzulu.