Umfazi onesizungu ufuna ukudibana nawe

Imida ethi "Ukutshata" ineminyaka emininzi ithintela izikhundla ezinamandla kwiziphumo zokuprintwa kunye neencwadi ezikhoyo ngoku. Kwaye sincothula ngokuthe ngcembe kwi-stereotype yokuba ukubhala isikhangiso "njengowesifazane oyintombazana ofuna ukumazi" into engcolileyo.

Nangona kunjalo, xa unqumle ukunika eso simemezelo, ngokukhawuleza umbuzo entloko yakho yiyo: njani yokwenza lesi simemezelo? Ukuze udibanise lowo ukulindeleyo.

Ngubani umbhali? Abasetyhini, ukunikezela ngeentengiso kwiindawo eziziwayo, banokuhlulwa kwiindidi ezine eziphambili:


Unqwenela - lo luhlobo lokuqala lomfazi onqwenela ukuba afunde. Kubandakanya abesifazana abaqaphela ngokukrakra ukukrakra kwedwa kwaye balungele ukuzidela ukuze bafumane umhlobo, eminye yemikhwa yabo ukwenzela ukudala intsapho. Olu hlobo lwabasetyhini aluhambi kwiiklabhu, ii-cafes, izitrato kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zamaqela ngethemba lokuzilana. Okokuqala, bacinga ukuba kukulungele ukuqaphela umntu ngeencwadi, kwaye okwesibini, ukuba umntu akaphenduli ileta, uya kuhlawulelwa kwihlazo ukuze ahlalise udonga ngokudanisa ngokuhlwa. La mabhinqa ayabaluleke kakhulu ngokubonakala kwabo kunye namakhono abo. Isibhengezo esiqhelekileyo somfazi omnye wesalathisi sibukeka sihlambulukile kwaye sibhalwe phantsi. Ngokukhawuleza kubonakalisa ibhinqa elingenayo imilingo kunye namabango akhethekileyo kumkhethiweyo wakhe.


Inamandla - uhlobo lwesibini lomfazi onesibini ofuna ukujwayelana naye. Eli bhinqa litshatile kakhulu, kwaye akesabi ukutyelela iindawo ezixakekileyo ekukhangekeleni okhethiweyo. Ubhala isikhangiso kwiphephandaba ngaphandle kokuphelelwa lithemba, kodwa ngokusesikweni ukuba olu khetho alukho ngaphezu kweminye. Ubhala isikhangiso esinamandla kakhulu, esilungele ngokupheleleyo nentloko yakhe. Ucinga ukuba ufanelwe indoda enhle. Kwaye le nto ibhinqa elifanelekileyo lifanelekile!


Iqhayiya - uhlobo lwesithathu. Njengomthetho, lo mfazi akayedwa. Kodwa ulwalamano lwakhe olukhoyo ngesizathu esithile aluhambisani naye, kwaye ubeka isikhangiso ephephandabeni, enethemba lokuphumelela okukhulu. Isibhengezo somfazi onjalo sinezibango ezinkulu kumlingane. Unokuzikhethela, kodwa akayeki ngokukhawuleza kumntu othile, eqhubeka nokufaka isicelo sesibhengezo, enethemba lokuba umntu uya kuphucula. Ngokuqhelekileyo abo bafazi abalungileyo, abaxabisa izinto eziphathekayo kunye nokubonakala kwazo.


I-Narcissistic yindlela yesine yowesifazane omnye. Le ntombi ayikho into enzima. Ngokomzekelo, uyazibuza njengamaTaliyane asemnyama. Uya kubhala kwisibhengezo sokuba unesilwane kunye neenyawo zikaSharon Stone kwaye ufuna ukukwazi isiTaliyane. Uya kubhalwa kunye neminyaka elishumi emva kokupapashwa kwesi simemezelo. Enyanisweni, kungekhona phakathi kwababhali apho kuya kubakho ubuncinane isiTaliyane.


Ngubani na ophumeleleyo? Udidi olugqibela, ngokukrakra ngokwaneleyo, luzuza kakhulu ngaphantsi kwabesetyhini bohlobo lokuqala. Izazi zezenkolo zithi abafazi abavakalisa ukubonakala kwabo nesithunzi sabo, kunye nokwenza iimfuno ezithile kwixesha elizayo abakhethiweyo, bafumana iileta ezingenakulinganiswa ncamnye kunezo zibeka izibhengezo ezithobekileyo kwiphephandaba. Iingcali zengqondo zichaza oku ngento yokuba amadoda ayesaba ukungahambelani kunye nomfanekiso ogqibeleleyo, kwaye angayenakuphikiswa, ungazami ukubhala. Kwaye abafazi abathandekayo abafumani iileta ezivela kubantu abaya kuba nomdla kubo. Abasetyhini bohlobo lokuqala bafumana inani elikhulu leeencwadi.

Amadoda afana nothobekileyo, abanobuqili, abafaki ama-women's special claims. Uhlobo lwesithathu lwabasetyhini, njengomthetho, fumana iincwadi ezincinci. Ukuzithemba nokuzinza kwala mabhinqa kubonwa ngabantu besuka kude. Iimbali ezimbini zokugqibela zabasetyhini abangashadile zifumana zikhethwe ngeposi ngokungafaneki. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, unganiki idilesi yakho yasekhaya kunye nefowuni - kungcono ukuba nebhokisi lakho. Inhlanhla!