Iingcamango ezigqithisileyo malunga namadoda
1. Ukuba umntu akayikunika imali kuwe - unomusa
Isiphetho kwingcambu asilunganga. Amadoda amaninzi aya kumayeza amakhulu, kuphela ukutsala ibhinqa abayidingayo. Luhlobo luni. Kodwa emva kobusuku obushushu okanye ukuqala kobomi kunye, konke oku kunokuphelisa ngokukhawuleza. Iqhawe liyanqotshwa, ngoko kutheni ukuqhubeka nomzamo? Ngenxa yoko, ukukhathazeka kwabasetyhini kunye nezikhalazo, bathi, ngenkathi uhamba, wathenga yonke into, wanikela izipho, iintyatyambo kunye neesekese, kwaye ngoku kubonakala ngathi ufuna ingxelo kwi nganye kopecks.
Ngaba ufuna ukuqonda ukuba umntu unomusa? Ngoko ke kukulungele ukugcina oko kwenzekayo kwimihla ngemihla. Ngaba uzimisele ukushiya intonga ukuya kubalindi, ngaba uyasindisa ekuthengeni, ngeteksi ... Ngaba umntu unokubuza ngobubele ukuba uyabaxhasa abazali bakhe ngemali? Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba owakhethiweyo ucinga ngeengcamango zonke, nakuba enika izipho - cinga ngako. Nangona kunjalo, awuyikungabaza: ngokukhawuleza uza kuziva ukuba "ukupha" kuwe.
Kwaye kanye indlela efanayo, ukuba umntu ebudeni bokuqala bebudlelwane akaphuthumi ukuchitha imali kuwe, ke ungagqiba ekubeni unomdla. Indoda, njengomthetho, iya kufuna ukusebenzisa imali kumfazi, ukuba uyayithanda. Ukongeza, unokwesaba ukuba uya "kugijimela" kumntu osisigxina, kungenxa yoko akayikukhawuleza ukutyhila amandla akhe emali. Ngaloo ndlela, akusikho isibonakaliso sokumangalisa, ukuba ngomhla wokuqala umntu ulinganiselwe kwikhobe yekhofi okanye isimemo sokuba nje uhambe. Kodwa ukuba uthengela ngezandla ezingenanto okanye ecela imali ngemoto entsha - qaphela.
2. Ukuba le ndoda ithatha inombolo yefowuni yakho - inomdla
Akunjalo. Kukho iqela lamadoda eqokelela iinombolo zefoni zazo zonke izinto. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba uya kubiza. Amadoda athambekele ekuthathe inamba njengaleyo, makube njalo.
Mbizele yena-kwaye ngokusabela kwakhe, uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufuna ngokwenene. Ukuba akazange akhumbule konke onokuthi, okanye akazange enze i-aphoyintimenti kwingxoxo yonke - phuma inombolo yakhe kwimemori yakho kunye neencwadana.
3. Ukuba indoda iya endlini - inenjongo enzulu
Akunjalo. Unokuba ngumntu onohloniphekileyo kwaye onobungcali. Umntu onjalo akakwazi ukuvumela umfazi ukuba abuyele ekhaya ngokukhawuleza ebusuku ... Kuyadabukisa ukuba abaninzi abafazi bacinga ngamadoda kuphela ngobudlelwane obusondeleyo, bemkela ububele obulula bokubonakalisa inzala yomntu. Ukususela ekuziphatheni, unokukwazi ukunyuka kuye kuwe inkomishi yekhofi, kodwa akukho nto ilandelwayo - kuphela ukudumala kwakho.
4. Ukuba ulele - unamalungelo kulo mntu
Iyona mpazamo yowesifazane. Nangona umntu elala nawe, akuthethi ukuba ulungele ukwakha ubuhlobo obunzulu nawe. Kwabaninzi amadoda, inyaniso yezo zesini ayikwazi ukuba nayiphi na intsingiselo.
Khumbula: ukulala ngesinye into, ubudlelwane buhluke ngokupheleleyo. Ubudlelwane - oku kukuthi uhamba kunye kunye, unomdla oqhelekileyo, abaqhelana nabo. Ukuba awubophekanga nayiphi na into, ngaphandle kwebhedi, kucebise ukubiza into ethile.
5. Ukuba uyavuma uthando, ngoko uyayithanda
Enyanisweni, kumadoda, amagama athi "Ndiyakuthanda" ayithwali nantoni na. Umntu unokuthetha oku ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo: ngokuqhelekileyo ukufumana ibhinqa ukusondelana okanye ukufumana ezinye izinto. Eli binzana lingathetha kuwe nje isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo. Kwaye kukho namadoda avuma ukuba athande ngokunyaniseka, ngaphandle kokukhohlisa, kodwa ... rhoqo abafazi abatsha.
Iingcamango ezingamalungu ngabantu besini
Abasetyhini bacinga ukuba amadoda ngesini aqikelele kwaye ayaqondakala. Ngokuqhelekileyo bacinga ngamadoda, ukuba bangumatshini obunomtsalane, bahlale bekulungele ukulwa. Yingakho thina bafazi, kaninzi senza iimpazamo ezininzi ngexesha lobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ezi mpazamo zingabangela lula iingxaki ebomini obusondeleyo. Isizathu salokhu kukungaqondi ngokuqhelekileyo iimpawu ezenziwa yiqabane lakho.
Iingcali zengqondo ziye zachonga ezine zezona zinto ziqhelekileyo ezingabonakaliyo kwimiba engathandwayo.
1. Abantu abadinga i-caress emva kwesondo
I-Sexologists ithi abantu bafana nokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, bangaphantsi kwabasetyhini. Ngokulula, indoda isoloko ichitha imizamo eninzi ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kunokuba ibhinqa. Ngamanye amaxesha nje akanayo amandla okwaneleyo ekugqibeleni.
2. Amantombazana angathathi ngokukhawuleza ukuzalisekisa iiminqweno zesini zesini
Ngokuqhelekileyo ingxaki kukuba umntu akakwazi ukuqiqa iingcamango zakho. Ibhinqa idinga ukuba indoda iqikelele ngobukho bemfihlelo yakhe yesondo kunye neeminqweno. Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi unamahloni okuthetha ngokusobala. Kodwa ngesondo, akudingeki ukuba ulinde inceba esuka kwindoda yokuqonda, kodwa kungcono ukuzivumela ukuba uyintoni into oyifunayo.
3. Abantu bafuna isondo rhoqo
Le nkcazo isebenza kuphela kubantu abatsha abangenayo ingxaki ngomsebenzi okanye ubudlelwane beentsapho. Bonke abanye abameli besilisa abaneminyaka engama-22 nangaphezulu ukulala ngokwesondo kufuneka bafumane iimeko ezithile. Xa uneminyaka yobudala, umthwalo omncinci wokuba uxanduva luwela kumagxa omntu, ngoko akusiyo nje umcimbi wemizuzwana ngaphambi kokumonwaba. Ukuxhamla kuxhomekeke kwizinto eziliqela. Ubukho beengxaki ezifanayo emsebenzini kwaye unokubulala ngokupheleleyo umnqweno wokulala ngesondo.
4. Abantu banokulala ngesondo ngaphandle kokuvakalelwa nayiphi na imizwa yowesifazane
Abasetyhini balungiselelwe ukuba ngexesha lesondo emzimbeni wabo ngumveliso we-hormone oxytocin, ojongene neemvakalelo. Yingakho isiqingatha sesibini sabantu sinokukwazi ukufumana amava, ngaphandle kokuvuswa komzimba, kwakhona ukuphazamiseka kwemvakalelo. Kubantu, yonke into iyahluke. I-oxytocin ayivelwanga nonke, okanye iveliswa kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukufumana ulwalamano lomntu kunye neqabane, kufuneka uzame ukwandisa i-prelude.