Enyanisweni, kukho abazali abafunda iincwadi ezininzi ezifanelekileyo, apho iingqondo zengqondo zixoxa ngokukhulisana nokufundisa amandla okuthetha nomntwana, kodwa ngelanga ungekho wonke unina onokufumana ixesha lokufunda iincwadi. Unokubanceda njani abazali abangayazi malunga nokukhuliswa kwabantwana abangazi ukuba nzima kwaye ngexesha elifanayo, ukuba babe ngumhlobo osondeleyo kumntwana wabo ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa igunya labo, nakhu iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo kubazali abaza kunceda ekukhuliseni abantwana babo:
Iingcebiso ezixabisekileyo kubazali:
- Ungaze uzame ukufundisa umntwana ukuba unesimo esibi. Khumbula, yodwa imvakalelo yakho emihle izakukunceda uqhagamshelane nomntwana wakho.
- Imfundo kufuneka ihlulwe. Phakamisa ibha ngexesha, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe.
- Khumbula ukuba abantwana bayabonakalisa. Bawuthatha umzekelo kuthi kuthi benze ngokuqhelekileyo ngendlela esenza ngayo ebomini bethu.
- Ukunxibelelana ngokuphumelelayo nomntwana, sebenzisa kuphela ifom yengxoxo evakalekileyo, ecacileyo neyimfihlo. Intetho inokuqineka, kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni ephosakeleyo okanye eyingozi. Iphimbo elizolile kunye nelifihlakeleyo lingadlulisela kumntwana iingcamango neemfuno zabazali.
- Yiba ngumhlobo osondeleyo womntwana, ongeyimeko elungileyo uya kunika iingcebiso ezilungileyo, akayi kugweba isenzo sakhe.
- Mfundise ukuba azithande yena kunye nabo bajikelezile. Oku kuya kumenza azethembe kwaye ancede ekusetyenziseni ukuthetha nabanye.
- Funda ukuzingqongqo, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo. Ukuba uhlala ubonisa uthando kumntwana kwaye uyamxhaphaza kuphela xa kuyimfuneko, oku kuya kunika iziphumo ekukhuliseni kwakho.
- Mfundise amandla akhe okuxhasa imigaqo yakhe ebomini.
- Hlala uphulaphule umntwana ngokunyamekela, ukhangela amehlo akhe, kuphela uya kuziva ukuba iingxaki zakhe kunye noluntu lwangaphakathi luyakuthanda.
- Zama ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nomntwana wakho ixesha lakho lokukhulula, ukuze uhlale eziva eyimfuneko kwaye ethandwa.
- Ungalokothi uhlukane nokuxabana nomntwana, kuqala uyenze uphinde uhambe kwi shishini lakho.
- Ndimdumise ngokuhlala ekhaya ngoku kwaye uya kuhlala ehamba ekhaya eziva efanelekileyo.
- Njalo umxelele ukuba uyinto enhle, kodwa engcono kunabanye, ukuze angakhukhumeli kwaye azikhohlise.
- Cinga ngoluvo lwakhe nokukhetha. Ungamgxeka, nangona ungavumelani naye.
- Mfundise ukuba aphendule ngezenzo zabo. Hlala uvavanya izenzo zakhe, kodwa kungekhona kwimeko yakhe, kwaye ukuba akaqondi into ethile, phawula impazamo yakhe, uxelele indlela oya kwenza ngayo kwindawo yakhe, ushiya ilungelo lokuzikhethela nokwenza isigqibo.
- Ungaze ucinge ngeempazamo ezenzileyo. Yonke into eyayifanele ihlale kwixesha elidlulileyo.
- Musa ukumnika iziqulatho, ungafundeli izifundo, ungavumeli ukuhlekwa kobubi okanye ukuthelekiswa okunokuhlazisa okanye ukumlimaza.
- Ukuba udidekile okanye uyaphoswa ngumsebenzi wakhe - xelela ngaye. Kodwa ungagxininisi ekuziphatheni kwakhe, kodwa ndixelele nje ngeemvakalelo zakho.
- Ukunciphisa ubuninzi bokulawula ngokugqithiseleyo, njengoko oku kungabikho nto leyo ekhokelela ekuphumeleleni.
- Musa ukumbamba amathemba amakhulu kuye, awakwazi ukuyiqonda. Okokuqala, kucacile ukuba unqume oko ufuna ngokukodwa kuye, uze uqinisekise ukuba ufuna ntoni yena kwaye uzama ukuvumelana kwinqununu kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo.
- Kwiintetho, thintela ukuzithiba ukuze ungaphumeleli intsingiselo ebalulekileyo yencoko.
- Isiphakamiso sakho sifanele sibe semvelo yempembelelo, eyahlukileyo kunye neyoqhubekayo kumntwana.
- Thetha naye rhoqo, njengomntu omdala, ngaphandle kokuninzi kwamagama amaninzi.
- Kwiingxabano, ukuba kunokwenzeka, kunikezela, ukuze umntwana angavavani ukungabi nabulungisa okungapheliyo, ngale nto ufundisa umntwana ukuba anikezele, uvume ukutshatyalaliswa kunye nephutha.
- Ungayithandi ingqondo, italente, ubuhle okanye isipho, kodwa nje ukuba yintoni.
- Khumbula ukuba kufuneka uququzelele iimpawu ezibalulekileyo ezibalulekileyo: ulawulo, inhlonipho kunye noxanduva. Khumbula ukuba abantu abaphumelelayo ngabo bantu abangazange baphelelwe yintliziyo, bahlonele abantu abazungezile kwaye bayakwazi ukuphendula ngezenzo zabo.
Enyanisweni, kulula ukunika iingcebiso kubazali malunga nokukhuliswa kwabantwana, kodwa kunzima ukuphumeza, kodwa ukuba ufuna ukukhula, umntu onomdla, onoxanduva, onothando nompumelelo, kufuneka uzame ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuba ungazisoli " kwimfundo, kodwa ziqhayisa kuphela ngomntwana wakho.