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Drachun kunye nomxhaphazi
Ulwa neyona nto incinci, ikhupha abanye abantu, amathanga kunye neemfesane, ngelizwi lakhe kwaye emehlweni akhe kukho inzondo yonyani kuye. Unina uyamesaba ngaye kwisiqonga apho uhamba khona, kuba akadingeki ukuba aqalise ilitye kwelinye umntwana-kwaye oku kunokuba nemiphumo emibi kakhulu. Ngoko ke, bazama ukuhlala kude naye.
Wena ngokwakho ungabi ngethuba kwaye ungabethuki nje ngenxa yokukhathala okungapheliyo apho ungumphumo weengxaki zemihla ngemihla, ngamanye amaxesha kunye neenqobo zangempela iimfazwe kunye nomhlali wakho, owanelisekile kwintlungu yomntwana. Unentloni ngabanye oomama, kwaye uhlupheka, kungakhathaliseki ukuba unquma kuzo zonke iindleko zokugcina uhlangothi lomntwana wakho kwaye ume ukukhusela kwakhe ekuhlaselweni kwemfundo kwabanye abantu abadala, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ujoyine inkundla yokumangalelwa kwaye kunye kunye naye, lebhokhwe. Le nto ibonakala ingathembeki kuwe. Oomama abaninzi kwiimeko ezinjalo balinde ukuba umntwana akhule kwaye abe nobulumko. Enyanisweni, le ndlela iyalungisa kuphela xa ubugwenxa be-crumb buyeneminyaka yobudala.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba awuyenzi nto, ngokobudala buba bubi kakhulu kwaye ukubonakalisa umsindo ngomntwana omncinci kunokukhula kwithuba elide kwisiphepho somoya. Kwaye ezo ndlela oye wazifaka kumncinci omncinci ngaphambili, umzekelo - ukubamba phantsi kwe mouse, uthathe kwaye uvale imizuzu elineshumi elinesibini kwigumbi elitshiywe kwinqhosha, ukuze udibezele aze acinge - akafanelekanga. Kutheni? Awukwazi ukukhulisa umntwana omdala, kwaye akayi kukhonza isohlwayo, kwaye ungalindi. Ngoko kufuneka usebenze ngoku.
Kutheni kunjalo?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, zikho izizathu zokuba umntwana wakho unobungozi kunye nehlazo, kwaye usebenzisa intetho yengane encinci. Kwaye ezi zizathu zinokuba zihluke kakhulu, kuba ngamnye umntwana uhlukile kwaye uhlukile.
Iingxaki zezempilo
Kwaye akuyimfuneko ukuba ugqirha oyifunayo yi-neurologist. Ingaba yi-ENT, kunye ne-gastroenterologist. Ingane yakho inokuziphatha kakubi ngenxa yokuphazamiseka okusemzimbeni, into engakwazi ukuyichaza, kuba isetyenziswe kuyo, ivakalelwa njalo. Iingxabano ezifihliweyo kwintsapho. Ingane yakho ayayazi ukuba uMama noTata baye balahlekelwa ukuqonda, ukuba kwisimo sabo sengqondo omnye nomnye unobundlobongela, akakho xa ecacisa ubuhlobo. Kodwa umntwana ungumqondiso, uvavanyo lothando kwintsapho. Uthando luyidla, njengesityalo kunye ne-carbon dioxide. Ngaphezu koko, uthando kuphela aluyanele. Isimo sengqondo saloo malungu omndeni omnye komnye sibalulekile.
Kwaye ukubonakalisa umsindo ngomntwana omncinci kwenzeka kuphela xa kukho iingxabano phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Ngokomzekelo, unyoko okanye umkhwekazi beza kukunceda umntwana. Wena okanye umyeni wakho uye wenyuka neengxabano ezindala nabazali bakho, ezithatha ukususela kwiminyaka yakho yeshumi elivisayo okanye kwelinye lamalungu omtshato onokungaqondani nomama womnye. Zonke ezi ngxaki zikhokelela ekuziphatheni kakubi kwintsana, eyona isiseko sokubonakalisa ngakumbi umsindo ngomntwana omncinci.
Nomona
Umntwana wakho unomona kuwe usana olutsha usapho, mhlawumbi kumyeni omtsha, ukuba uthe watshata okwesibini. Okanye - kokubili, ukuba umntwana wesibini wazalwa emtshatweni olandelayo. Kodwa izinto ezinjalo ngokuqhelekileyo ziphawulwe ngokucacileyo: umama ngokwakhe kwiimeko ezininzi uyaqonda ukuba ebomini beemvumba zakhe apho kukho utshintsho olukhulu, kwaye unako ngoncedo lobundlobongela obonisa ukukhathazeka kwakhe. Ngendlela efanelekileyo yokuziphatha yabantu abadala, umntwana ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda ukuba akukho nto inokukhathazeka ngayo. Impawu zobunjani. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba intsana ikhawuleza, inomsindo, ingapheliyo ngokwemvelo. Umoya onjalo! Okanye uhlala ebukele ukuvutha komsindo komnye wabantu abadala (kwaye ubona ukuba umsindo uphumelele kangakanani)! Ungakulibali ukuba umntwana uyibuko lakho, akubonakali nje kuphela izinto ezilungileyo, kodwa kunye nobubi obuphakathi kwethu. Kwaye kulula ukukopisha indlela oziphatha ngayo, kuba umama nobaba bayimodeli.
Uphangwa kwaye ungakhuselekanga
Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho akazi ukuba ngubani ophetheyo ekhaya. Kungenxa yokuba abantu abadala kwintsapho bayakhokelwa kuyo yonke into ngeminqweno, iminqweno, iimpawu zentsana ekufuneka athathe inxaxheba yinduna. Kwaye nendima enjalo kumntwana ayinakwenzeka. Uyakhumbula ukuba uluphi uhlobo lomphathi? Eyona nyaniso: ukhuselekile. I-crumb isenzima kakhulu ukuba ngumphathi wakho, kodwa, xa ufumene le "post" ngesandla, uya kulwa nalo, kuba ihloniphekile.
Izigwebo ezinzima
Ungafanelanga (okanye ukwanele) uhlwaye umntwana. Ngokomgaqo: Ndifanelekile - hlala kwikona, hlala ngaphandle kweTV, iipesele, amathoyizi, njl. Mhlawumbi wena, ukwesaba ukuba uya kuwa (ukukhubeka kwikona yetafile, i-naretsya iindlela zokuhlamba izitya), pha kamisa ilizwi lakho ngaphezu kweemeko ezibonakala ziyingozi kuwe. Ingane yakho ivakalelwa njalo. Uyaqiniseka ukuba "akenzanga nto yohlobo." Ngokukhawuleza - ukucaphuka kwabazali bakhe, ukukhala, isiluleko esibi, kulo mzekelo, ukuziphatha okugwenxa kwe-crumb kudibaniswa nokuhlala utyhafile. "Kakade ke, kubalulekile ukuba ujezise abantwana, kodwa kulungile, ngakumbi ukuba akukho into ebalulekileyo, njengokuba, xa isenzo kunye nemiphumo yomntwana kufuneka kukhunjulwe ngenxa yobomi, akahlawulwanga "ngokukhawuleza", kodwa engaphantsi kunokuba afanelekileyo, ngokokuba emphefumlweni wakhe kwakukho indawo engasiyikuthuka, kodwa ukuzisola isazela. Umama ongafuni. Oomama abaninzi, emva kokutshintsha umsebenzi onomdla wendima yomfazi wendlu, emva kwexesha baqala ukuziva bekhathele kwaye bephelile. Bacinga ukuba baye baba bubudenge, banobubi, bengahoywa, ukuba ubomi buyekeke ngonaphakade. Ukunganeliseki ngesiphelo salo, ukucaphukisa, ukukhathala kuqokelela kwaye kungaphunyezwa ngentshiseko kwintsana njengesizathu salolu meko.
Kwaye ukuba ngaba ngexesha elifanayo unikwa ixesha elifutshane, ngoko, ngexesha elifanayo, uyamkhangela, ngoko ke, abantu abadala.
Hyperopeka
Ingane ikhululeke kakhulu ngengqalelo yenyameko kunye nokunxibelelana ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba nayiphi na inxibelelwano engeyomfuneko kuye. Uhlala ezama ukuphepha ukunxibelelana ngokuziphatha kakubi kulabo abafuna ukuba ngabahlobo naye. Ukongezelela, unina unina, ongenakuhlala ngaphandle komntwana wakhe ngomzuzu, akanalo ithuba lokuba yedwa, kwaye le mfuneko ayinabantu abadala kuphela, kodwa kubantwana, uvakalelwa ngamaxesha onke phantsi kwezinto zokunyamekelwa ngumama, oku kwenza ukuba , ukugquma ngaphandle ngentukuthelo kunye nobudlova. Inqwenela. Ukuba usabela ngokugqithiseleyo kwizenzo ezingafanelekanga, uncinci unakho, ngaphandle komdla kunye nentshisekelo, kufuna kuwe oku kuphendula. Kufana nokwamkela okonwabileyo kwi-movie engabonakaliyo, apho umdlali wecala axabela amaxesha alishumi ngokulandelelana ngesithuba sobani esifanayo.
Ubudala obumnene
Okanye mhlawumbi umntwana wakho usemncinci kwaye akanako ukukwazi kwaye akakwazi kakhulu? Akwazi ukuba angazibuza - uyayithatha, akayazi indlela yokuthi: "Buyela emuva" - uyaphonsa. "Akazange acinge ukuba abanye baziva bebuhlungu kwaye baphinde bacaphuke.
Ukwenza Abahlobo Iintshaba
Ukuze umntwana angabi nobudlova, zama ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi izizathu zingasichaphazela ukuziphatha kweemvumba zakho. Emva koko zama ukukulungisa. Uze usebenzise amacebiso angqinisisiweyo. Zama ukunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kwengqumbo kumntwana omncinci, umbonise indlela othanda ngayo kwaye uyamxabisa.
Ngexesha leengxabano zomntwana wakho kunye nabanye abantwana, wena, nangona kunjalo ungaqhelekanga, kungcono ukuhlala ecaleni lentsana yakho, kwaye ungamhlaseli kunye noomama abathukuthele ngabanye abantwana. Oku akuthethi ukuba yonke into eyenza umntwana wakho ilungile, kuba ingowakho. Kodwa akufanele ube ngecala labatshutshisi kwaye, makungavumi, kwakhona ugqibe ekubeni umntwana wakho unobungozi, uyasabeka, angenakulungiswa. Musa ukubonisa ukucaphuka kwakho nentlungu ngenxa yokuziphatha kakubi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, vumela impendulo yakho ibe yincinci engqondweni.
Musa ukuqonda ukuxabana komntwana. Ungazi ukuba ngubani owaqala ukulwa, ngubani olungileyo, kwaye ngubani ongendawo. Indlela efanelekileyo yokukhusela umntwana ngokuphepha kwindawo yokudlala. Kunceda ukumthabatha xa evumela into enjalo. Awudingi ukuchaza nantoni na. Intsana ikhunjulwe kakade: iziphatha kakubi - uhambo lwaluphelile.
Ncedisa umntwana ukuba aqonde oko akuvakalelwayo, achaze ngemimiselo yokuba abanye abantu bayabuhlungu xa bebuhlungu. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba achaze ngamagama oko akuvakalelwayo noko akufunayo. Ngokomzekelo, awukwazi ukunyusa uSasha, kodwa uthi kuye: "Kha wuleza, nceda, apha imoto yam iya." Ungaphuthelwa uKatyya ezandleni zodonsa, kwaye unikele: "Masidlale ndawonye." Katya akafuni? Ngoko kulungile ukuhamba. Ukubonakaliswa kwengqumbo kumncinci omncinci ngamanye amaxesha kusekelwe ekuqondeni ngokuvisisana nabazali. Cacisa ukuba umsindo onokukwazi ukuwenza umntu ubalwe yintsiba yintshaba eyinyani: umntu onqabileyo ofuna ukumphanga, umbhusi ohlasela ilizwe lakhe, kodwa kungekhona kwinkwenkwe yommelwane uKolya, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona kumama wakhe. Thembela umntwana wakho uze uzame ukuqonda izizathu zomsindo.