Lona akulona igama lezenzululwazi lichanekileyo: lithe tye kwaye ngexesha elifanayo lichaza ngokuchanekileyo ubunqamle bomntwana ococekileyo okanye othobekileyo. Ezi zimpawu zigqatso ngakumbi kwiminyaka engama-3 ukuya kweyesi-7, kwiminyaka yobudala. Ngelishwa, akukho ndlela yokufundisa abantwana abanjalo, okanye ayihlulelanga imithetho yokuziphatha kunye nabo. Kodwa ngelize. Abazali kunye nootitshala kufuneka bajongane nabo njengoko bechazwe ngamava abo kunye nemeko. Ngoko ngokuhamba kwexesha, "ukukhanda" kuya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo, ukuba uyintambo, kwaye "ukuhamba", ukuba uhlale egcina. Ngoko bakhula, bahlakulela ngokwabo ubunzima obuphantsi, ngelixa iphoso labo ekuziphatheni okunjalo akunjalo. Oku kuyingqayizivele kwezimvo zabo kunye nomlingiswa, kwaye kuphela imfundo-yokugqibela. Kuya kuba luncedo ukuqwalasela nganye yeentlobo zeenkcukacha zabantwana ngokubanzi.
Okokuqala kufuneka uhlangabezane "namantombazana amancinci" (aba bantwana abangenasifo). Nabo bonke akulula, ngakumbi kubazali: abantwana abanjalo abahlali bemi ngeyesibini, akunakwenzeka ukuba bavalele into ethile, kunzima ukukulungisa ngexesha kunye nendawo. Xa ndijonge umntwana onje, ndifuna ukuwufanisa kunye nenxalenye ehambelayo ye-mercury, apho iwele khona, iqhuba kwaye iphule izinto ngokwazo. Izizathu zolu hlobo ziphambili zizinto ezininzi: ukususela ekukhathazeni okulula kunye nokuphela komonakalo wengqondo.
Abazali kufuneka baqonde into ephambili: akunzima kubo, kunzima umntwana ukuba akwazi ukujamelana nokunyaniseka kwakhe kuphela. Iingcali zeengqondo ezijongene neengxaki zabantwana abangasondelanga kakuhle, zenzele inkqubo epheleleyo yokwenza iingcebiso kubazali be "Shustriki." Nazi ezinye izinto eziphambili:
1. Yiba njalo kunye rhoqo;
2. Zama uhlale uthetha ngokuzithobayo kwaye ngokukhawuleza;
3. Musa ukothuka ngomsindo wakho okanye umsindo. Konke oku kuqhelekileyo, ukuba kuhlolwe kakuhle. Ukuba uqala ukucaphukisa, akuthethi ukuba ulahlekelwe uthando lwakho ngomntwana wakho ongenasiphelo. Kufuneka nje ufunde ukuhlukanisa indlela yokuziphatha kwakhe, okukucaphukisa, kubuntu bakhe. Tshela umntwana: "Ndiyakuthanda. Andiyithandi xa uphula amathoyizi akho uze uwaphose ngegumbi ";
4. Zama ukuphepha ukuthintela rhoqo kunye nokuphazamiseka - "thintela," "ungaboni," "awukwazi," njalo njalo;
5. Qiniseka ukuba unika umntwana ngoluhlu oluqinileyo kunye nemigangatho yemihla ngemihla. Ukuqulunqa (ngcono kunye nomntwana) ishedyuli ebanzi yokulala, ukutya, ukuhamba, imidlalo, iiklasi kunye nemisebenzi ejwayelekile yendlu. Zama ukuthobela le shedyuli, nangona umnqweno womntwana wokuhlala ulahleka kuye. Ngexesha elide, uya kusetshenziselwa ukulinganiswa, angeniswe kwinkqubo yobomi.
6. Musa ukunika umntwana zonke iityshi kanye. Nika enye okanye ezimbini kwaye uvumele ukuba badlale ngokwaneleyo, ngoko unako ukunika enye. Ukuba wayehleli etafileni ukuze atyebe, makabe phezu kwetafile akukho nto ingabonakaliyo, kuba umntwana ongenakucima akakwazi ngokuthintela konke okumthintelayo okwangoku.
7. Ngenxa yokunyuka kokwandisa komntwana wakho, zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba akukho bantwana abangaphezu kwe-2-3 abathatha inxaxheba kumdlalo ngexesha.
Kubalulekile ukuba umdlalo we-arsenal yomntwana ococekileyo uqulethe abaqulunqi abahlukeneyo, iipuzzle, imidlalo yebhodi yesiqhelo. Musa ukukhathazeka ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukuhlala ngokukhawuleza phezu kwabo ixesha elide. Yiba nomonde kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyadlala nayo hhayi kwibhola kuphela, kodwa, umzekelo, kwi-chess. Ekugqibeleni uya kufunda ukudlala imidlalo kumgama omude. Sivame ukuphazamisa amandla enkxaso enamandla-imvume yabazali yokudlala kunye nomntwana. Kodwa ngokwenene kule nto uya kuba alungele ukulibala ngebhola, kunye nokuhamba ngokujikeleza kwisitrato, kunye neemeko. Iingcali zithi, ngemfundo efanelekileyo, umntwana ococekileyo ukhula ukuya kwishumi elinesibini.
Ngoku ngokuncinci malunga "neentlanzi". Ngabo, iingcali zithi hayi rhoqo, kuba ukuya kwixesha elithile, abantwana abancinci, njengomthetho, musa ukukhathaza abazali. Babhala konke into yobudala: bathi, kusekho encinci, kuya kukhula, ufunde indlela yokwenza ngokukhawuleza. Okwangoku, "ii-turtles", lo luhlobo oluthile, olukhethekileyo lohlobo lwabantwana, apho umntwana adinga khona ukususela kwiminyaka yokuqala ekulungiseni ngokusisigxina - isigulane kunye nosuku zonke. Ngokukodwa ukunyamezela kwaba bantwana kuthintela xa bephume kwindlu - esikolweni, kwi-kindergarten, ngokumalunga nemvelaphi yabo ontanga, imithetho ethile nemidlalo. Iingcali zikholelwa ukuba ezi zinhlobo zefomathi ifomu kungekhona nje ukuthoba kwangasese, kodwa kwakhona i-skew kwimfundo yabamama abangaphezu kwamandla kwaye banamandla kakhulu. Ngoko, thina, bazali, sinceda njani "iintlanzi" zethu ezithandekayo?
Sekudlulileyo kwiminyaka emine, kufuneka uvelise umntwana, ngawaphi iiyure kunye naliphi ixesha. Ngoko uya kubeka isiseko sokujonga ixesha. Umntwana uya kufunda ukuqonda into enokuyenza kwaye ayikwazi ukuyenza ngeyure, isiqingatha seyure. Kukulungele ukuthenga ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye uhlala usebenzisa - ngexesha lokugqoka ukuhamba, ngelixa udla okanye uthabathe amathoyizi. Njalo ukhuthaze umntwana kwimeko nganye: "Khangela, namhlanje usuvele ugqoke imizuzu elishumi, kodwa yonke inhlabathi ayingalali ngokwaneleyo! "Ngexesha elizayo umntwana uqala ukulungelelanisa izenzo zakhe ezinobunzima ngexesha langempela. Kwakhona inzuzo eninzi iindidi ezahlukahlukeneyo zokhuphiswano phakathi kwabantwana nabantu abadala ngesihloko: ngubani ozayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abadala baya kufuneka banikele ngokuncinci, kodwa umntwana uya kufumana isabelo sakhe sokudumisa ngokunqoba, ithuba lokuba ngowokuqala kwaye likhawuleze. Abantwana - "ii-turtles" zibuhlungu ngokukhethekileyo umahluko wabo kwiontanga zabo ezikhwela ibhasiki okanye ukudlala ibhola. Ngenxa yokuphuza kwabo, bakhetha imidlalo yokuhlala. Yingakho sele sele befunda iminyaka emi-5 ukuya ku-6 befunda kakuhle. Kodwa ingxaki kukuba iingcamango zabo zihamba phambili. Oku kudala iingxaki esikolweni, xa umntwana ekwazi ukwenza lo msebenzi, kodwa akakwazi ukulawula ngokomzimba ukukwenza.
Njengoko ubona, abazali banako ukubanceda "amantombazana amancinci" kunye ne "turtles". Musa nje ukuzigxeka ngeze, kodwa, zama ukuqonda ezi ntlobo zabantwana. Yenza iimeko ezifanelekileyo ukuze zihlawule iziganeko zobungqina babo kunye nomlingiswa wabo.