Ngaba kungekudala njani umona womona emphefumlweni womntu, kwaye kuthiwa, uthathwa bani? Okokuqala, ngenxa yokuvela komona, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacileyo "mna", ukuzihlukanisa nobuntu babo bonke ulwahlula lwehlabathi eliqondwe ngumntu.
Ukuvakalelwa kwindalo yendalo yonke yinto ekhethekileyo kwiintsana zonke, intandane kwintsapho yakhe, kunye noluntu oluvulekileyo lokuqonda umhlaba ojikelezile. Ukuqonda ukuba "Ndikho" ngaphandle kwe "I" yakho ikhona "ngabanye" abanezinto zabo, kunye nendlela yabo enomdla, iza emva koko. I-Intuitively, umntwana uvakalelwa yinkqubo enzima kangaka yehlabathi elijikelezayo kwi-2 okanye ezintathu. Le yilapho umhlaba wobukhwele bokuqala obunomntwana uvela khona.
Ukhwele ngomzali wesini esahlukileyo
Umntwana uthatha ngokungathí sina ihlabathi leenganekwane, ezininzi zazo zixelela indlela abalinganiswa abakhulu abatshatile ngayo kwaye bahlala bevuya ngonaphakade. Ukuzama kwendima yabalinganiswa beengcaphephe, inkunzi ikhangelele yona eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, iqabane elihle kakhulu lokuphila emhlabeni. Ukwazisa ngokwakho njengenkwenkwe okanye intombazana, kungeyiyo eyakhiwe, kodwa ikuvumela ukuba wenze ukhetho olungenamkhethe ngokuthanda umama wakho okanye uyise, ngokulandelanayo.
Umzali wesini esahlukileyo uyabonwa, ngenxa yoko kulungelelanisa indima yentlalo yomyeni okanye umtshakazi "njengomncintiswano". Yaye ukuba ngaba abafana bephazamisa ingcinga engozini, umdlalo osebenzayo, umsebenzi wokuqonda, uxhamla noontanga kwi-sandbox, ngoko ke amantombazana apho imvakalelo yemimoya, yimizimba ibaluleke ngakumbi, ngokuqhelekileyo ibonakalisa umona onjalo "ongaqhelekanga".
Inkcazo ethi "uyihlo uyindoda kamama" inokukhubekisa ngokukhanyela, enezinyembezi: "Hayi, uTata ngumyeni wam!" Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngumyeni? Intombazana encinci, ngokuqinisekileyo, ayiqondi. Kuye, amagama athi "Ubawo ngumyeni wam" uthetha okufana nendima ethi "Lo ngubaba wam!", Wathi phambi kwamanye amantombazana amancinci. Ngamagama - nje ukwesaba ukuba upapa uyakususa, thintela konke ukuzaliseka koqhagamshelwano nomthandayo.
Ieholide eziqhelekileyo zentsapho, apho kungekho mntu ubonisa isinamathiselo esibonakalisiweyo kunoma ubani, kodwa kukho umoya wokunakekelwa ngokubambisana, kunye novuyo oludibeneyo, kuya kunceda ukudlulisa eli xesha elibunzima lokukhula komntwana. Ungakulibala ukunikela ingqalelo ngakumbi kumntwana, ukummkela, ukumbetha, ukubetha intloko, ukuthetha amazwi omthandayo, nokukhuthaza ukwenza "izinto" ezilula zabazali, kungekho yedwa, kodwa kunye kunye, ukuze umntwana alondoloze ubunye bentsapho obuqinile apho kungekho ndawo yokuba nomona , umona, ukungabikho kwempilo ebalulekileyo kwabanye phambi kwabanye.
Ukunyanzela umntwana ozelwe emva kwentsapho
Oku, njengomthetho, akunzeki ukuba ngaba abantwana baqatshelwe, kuba nangaphambi kokuvusa ukuqonda kwabo "Ndiza" ukusetyenziswa kwizinto ezikhoyo. Kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko, ngandlela-thile zibonakalisa kwaye zifuna ukukhuselwa okuthile, ngelixa umntwana elindelekileyo uhlala nomama kwisisu. Kubalulekile ukuchazela umntwana ukuba nguye ophezulu, oyintloko, ukuba uya kufundisa konke kumzalwana okanye udade, uncedo, bonise kukho konke umzekelo. Ukuqwashisa ukubaluleka komntu kuya kubuthakathaka kakhulu umona wobukhwele obusakhulayo. Ukuba, emva kokunyamekela umntwana osandula, asiyi kukulibala ukuchitha ixesha elaneleyo kumntwana omdala (utata uyithatha ngama-handles, ngelixa umama exakeke kulondeza umntwana, unina udlala kunye nomdala xa uyise ekhutshisa umntwana), akusayi kubakho ithuba lokuba nomona.
Ukuba nomona ngenxa yokuzibethelela kwiimidlalo zabo
Ngokubhekiselele kumathoyizi, kwanele ukuba kuchaze ukuba awathatyathwa ngonaphakade ngabaontanga ngaphandle kwalabo abathandekayo kakhulu entliziyweni, ukuphazamiseka okanye ukulimala okuza kubonwa ngumntwana njengentlungu eyintlekele, ngokuqhelekileyo ujwayele umvo womdlalo odibeneyo, ukuba wamkele njengezenzo zendalo ngokufanayo " , nikela umdlalo. "