I heroine yefilimu ye-Soviet yefilimu, uTosya Kislitsyna, yayifuna ukuba nobuhle obunjalo kangangokuthi yayiza kubamba bonke abantu besibindi. Kodwa ngaba ubuhle bodwa bukwazi ukulwa nabantu? Wonke umfazi unendlela kunye nezindlela zakhe. Ngethamsanqa, imfesane yowesifazane icebile kangangokuba inani leendlela zokunqoba umntu alinamkhawulo. Kodwa ngaba zonke ziyimpumelelo, zifanelekileyo kwaye ziyamnandi kumadoda? Vumela abo bantu bathethe oku. Ngethuba elifanayo, kwaye uvaleleke kubo, ngaba amaqhinga amabhinqa asebenza kuwo ngokumangalisa. Yaye makumkele ukwamkela ukunyuka kwamanzi kungeyona nto inyanisekileyo, kodwa amadoda amaninzi avuyiswa "ukukhohliswa" ukuba kwenziwe ngokufanelekileyo.
Iimpawu zesibhinqa ezi-6 ezilwa namadoda kwindawo
Bonke abantu benze iinqweno kunye nezinto ezikhethiweyo, kubandakanywa. kunye nabasetyhini, ngenxa yezinto ezininzi. Kwaye kuya kuba ngumthwalo kwaye ungenalwazi ukuqokelela ifayile yengqondo kuyo yonke indoda oyithandayo malunga nendlela yokuziphatha komfazi eya kumtshabalalisa ngayo. Ewe, ukuba kukho ixesha, ithuba, kunye neyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu-ukukhuthazwa, oko kuya kusebenza kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba uyayidinga ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokuchanekileyo, kuya kufuneka uvelise izinto ezikhethwa ngabo bonke abantu kwaye ufumane iifomula esisodwa eya kunceda ngokukhawuleza ukubeka umntu onomdla kwi "scapulae", ebhedini okanye ubuncinci "kwizicaka" ezinokuthi zilele kwiibingelelo zamantombazana. Ukwenza oku, sihlolisisa iifom zedoda, apho amadoda ahlukeneyo, iimeko kunye nesimo somtshato esabelana ngayo iimbonakaliso zabo malunga neentlobo zezilwanyana eziphambili ezikhokelwa kuyo, njengokuba zixhomekeke.Siya kuphi na unqeni?
Amadoda amaninzi ayilungelelaniso oluphambili oluya kukhetha ukukhetha kwabo, okubizwa ngokuba ngumlinganiselo ofanelekileyo weengxenye ezithandekayo zomzimba wesetyhini. Amathuba amaninzi okuba yindoda yamadoda yiloo maqabane amancinci, abonisa ngokucacileyo ukutshintsha okucacileyo phakathi kwesifuba, isinquno kunye nesisu. Kwaye kukho inzululwazi ingcaciso kule nto. Kwenzeka ngokudlulileyo ukuba amadoda kwiqondo lofuzo afunde ukulingana njengendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba ibhinqa inempilo enamandla, inzala, inokukwazi ukunyamezela nokuzala abantwana. Ngako oko, a bafazi, obani ubunjani obanikezele umfanekiso kumhlobo we "hourglass", akwanele ukuba angafihli iifom zabo. Kwaye a majazana, abanobugqithisi obuncinci bengubo-bhinqa, baya kufuneka bathathe iingcebiso kumastilisti, kwaye bavelele ngoncedo lwezambatho zengubo kunye neencedisi zenza ezi ndawo zinomdla kakhulu kumzimba wazo obalaseleyo kubantu.Izwi lokuqhawula iSiren
Ingaba umgangatho welizwi labesifazane luthonya abantu? Bobabini amadoda kunye nezifundo zenzululwazi zithi banako, ngokubanzi. Abasetyhini banokuphulaphula isithwathwa samadoda, ukukhetha, njengomthetho, abanini belizwi eliphantsi nelilizwi. Izwi elinjalo lenza umntu emehlweni abo bafazi abavelele, ngokugqithiseleyo nangaphezulu, kungakhathaliseki ukukhula kwakhe kwangempela. Ngombono wesilisa umfanekiso ofanayo. Abasetyhini abanezwi eliphakamileyo livakalelwa bebancinci, bengenakukhuseleka nokuthintela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, asikho kwindalo yefestile, kwaye ilizwi elikhupha indlebe yendoda ayilwanga yinto nayiphi na ishicileli, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba kunikwe ubungqina bezesondo kunye namanqaku amema, njenge-Ancient Greek Sirens. Yinto nje yomnqweno noqeqesho.Impawu zeGolide
Amadoda athi ayakwamkela ukungakwazi komfazi ukuba apheke, abe ngumthandi omhle kunye nokuba ngumama, kodwa abayi kuze bamxolele umbi wakhe. Ibhinqa elinobuchopho, ayifuni ukuphendula, ukunyamekela iimfuno zomntu kunye neminqweno, ithatha indawo yokugqibela kwinqanaba labafazi abanokuthi bafumane. Kwaye ukuba ngenxa yabantu sikulungele ukutshintsha iimpawu zethu zomzimba, ngoko simele sijamelane nalo mlingane ngokuthe ngqo. Ngoku ngakumbi kunanini ngaphambili, ukuqeqesha kunye nokubonisana kweengqondo zengqondo zikhoyo, kwaye i-intanethi kunye namashalofu ezitolo zincwadi zizaliswa ngoncwadi olukhethekileyo olunceda ukuphuhlisa umgangatho wegolide.Ubuhle beNdalo
Indlela amadoda adibana ngayo nokuzenzela abafazi. Ukususela kwimbono yesifazana - kakuhle. Ngaphandle koko, kutheni bachitha iiyure eziliqela ngosuku kwimpuphu? Abantu bacinga ntoni ngale nto? Ewe, amadoda athile anqwenela ukwakheka okubambekayo okugxininisa ngokugqithiseleyo amehlo okanye umlomo. Nangona kunjalo, uphando oluqhutywe ngenye yeziza eziqhelanayo zokuthandana lubonise iziphumo ngokumalunga ne-139 kuphela kwabasetyhini abaphuma kuma-1200 abanomdla kumadoda ngenxa yokwenza kwabo. Amathuba amaninzi okubamba ingqalelo kwindoda yabasetyhini abakhetha ukuba basebenzise imihla ngemihla ukubunjwa okucokisekileyo kunye nemibala yemvelo kunye neetoni.Amandla ombala obomvu
Umbala obomvu kunye nayo yonke imibala yayo idibaniswa namadoda enomdla, ngoko ayenomdla kakhulu kubasetyhini abangenako ukuwusebenzisa lo mmbala kwimpilo yabo yemihla ngemihla. Oku kuqinisekiswa ngophando lweengqondo zengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseRochester. Bacetyisa ukuba amadoda akhethe into ayithandayo kwiifoto ezifakwe kwiifowuni ezivela kumhlophe ukuya kubomvu. Ininzi yezifundo ngaphandle kokungabaza kubonise iifoto zabafazi abancinane kwiifom ezibomvu. Kwakhona banomdla kwiifoto, apho abafazi babegqoke iimpahla ezibomvu. Lo mzamo kufuneka ube ngxabano evumelekileyo kulabo bafazi abakhangela umbala obomvu ukuba bahlambuluke, bafanelekanga okanye bungozi. Cinga kwakhona isimo sakho sengqondo kuye. Ukuba umbala ukhethwa ngongoma kunye nendawo, kuba ngumgibe wangempela kubantu.Umlingo wamagama
Amadoda ngokuchanekileyo abiza ngokubambisana nabasetyhini ukuba bathethe. Thetha, ungathethi! Imbono yokuba kuphela abafazi abathandayo ngeendlebe zabo ziyingcali. Madoda, kuvela, ningacingi ngabo ngokwabo imilingo yamagama apho abesifazane badumisa amandla abo, isibindi, ukupha, njl. Oko kunjalo, ukuphathwa kakubi kwamagama amnandi apha akuthi kwenzeke. Amadoda kakhulu aziva ebuxoki, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba basebenze kanzima ukuba baqaphele ukufaneleka kwabo, kwaye ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kwindawo leyo kunye nangomcimbi uvakalise ngokuqinisekileyo amagama okubongwa. Phakathi kwezinye iibinzana ezithintekayo, amadoda atyunjwe:- Uyiqhawe lam!
- Uyingcali!
- Ungumntu wokwenene!
- Wena ungcono!
- Nguwe kuphela ondiqondayo!
- Ndiyakuthanda!
- Ndinawe kude kube sekupheleni kwehlabathi!
- Ngaphandle kwakho andinakuphila!