Xa umntwana oneminyaka emine uthi: "Ndiyamthanda u-Sonia," kunye nentombazana eneminyaka engama-9 ilala nomfanekiso wesinye umculi okanye umculi, sitsho nje ngokunyaniseka: luhlobo luni luthando kwiminyaka yabo? Ewe, ukuvakalelwa kwengqondo kubantwana akuyi kuza, nangona kodwa yinto nje ongenakukwazi ukwenza oko kuthanda ukuhleka kumntwana, akukho mntwana wesibini okanye umntwana wesikolo onokuthanda ukuba ungayithathi imvakalelo yakhe, uya kukhubeka kwaye akaze aphinde azinikezele kwiimfihlo zakhe ezisuka entliziyweni Ngako oko, akufuneki ukuba umntu avalwe ngamava omthandayo, kunye uchshe ukuzama ukunceda uhlobo ngaphandle nesabo bakhe phezu kwakhe ingqiqo. Makhe sibone ukuba yintoni uthando kubantwana abaneminyaka ezahlukeneyo yaye yintoni esinokuyenza ukuze abadala.
Ngohlalutyo lwentando pereporschivat kweli nqanaba alikho imfuneko. Ukuqhotyoshelweyo kweentsana zenziwe kuphela kwaye intsuku nganye ingatshintsha: abantwana abakweli xesha abanako ukulungisa ingqalelo ixesha elide. I-Romeo enomdla namhlanje inika i-Katya imoto yakhe iipesele, kwaye ngemini okanye emibini akasayi kusuka kuMasha.
Kodwa kukho abantwana kunye nolunye uthando, olunzulu - uthando lwabazali babo. Amakhwenkwe ambalwa aphupha ngokutshata nomama wabo, kunye namantombazana - baya ku-papazamuzh. Ukuba uva injalo ngxelo, akufuneki ukuba udangele. Le yendalo yendalo kunye nendawo eqhelekileyo yophuhliso. Endaweni ethile eneminyaka emihlanu, iintsana aziqhelekanga phakathi kwabazali babo.
Izenzo zakho ngeli xesha kufuneka zinciphise zibe zingasebenzi. Izifakelelo zabantwana azibi kakhulu ubuncinane, ulwaphulo nje ngokungenelela kwakho ngoku. Ukuba into yokuthandana iyayigcinanga, ayiyikiyika, kwiintsuku ezimbalwa bayakufumana entsha. Kodwa ukuthanda abazali kungomnye umcimbi: nango nje kufuneka ungenelele. Ngomusa uphinde uchaze ngokucacileyo unyana wakho, ukuba uya kudibana nomfazi xa ekhula kancinci, kwaye unomyeni othandekayo.) Kungcono ukuba intombi ibe nobukhulu bentsapho echazwe ngupapapa, mhlawumbi ingaba nomona ngaye ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ayakufumanisa kunzima ukufumana umntu okhethiweyo. Bonke abafake izicelo ayiyi kuba yinto efanelekileyo - utata othandekayo.
Uthando lwabantwana kwiminyaka emi-5-7
Abantwana kule minyaka babandakanyeka ngokukodwa kwihlabathi elidala, kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Abantwana abaneminyaka emithandathu ubudala banokuvuselela, ukukhwela kunye nokubanga ngokujoliswe kwintembelelo yabo. Kodwa musani. Emva koko, kude kube lo mkhwenkwezi usekude. Yaye ukuba unyana wakho uthetha intombazana ethanda ukumanga "ngokwenene" - akusiyo inxanxathela yesondo, yileyondlela abantu abadala abakhulileyo nabangama-kiss bengaye ngayo. Nangona uthando lwabantwana abaneminyaka emihlanu okanye ezisixhenxe lunamandla. (ulindi, iindandatho, iibhokisi ze-chocolates, njl.) Hayi, umntwana wakho waba isela ngaphandle, kodwa wayefuna ukwenza isipho kwintombazana ayithandayo.Nokuphi na ukufumana khona? Ewe, umama. "Iwashi iyasifika kwi-shelf, akayidli iilekese. ukuba bhetele bafumane isicelo esihle kakhulu.
Izenzo zakho zifakiwe ekunikeni iingcebiso zomntwana indlela yokubonga into yokubonga kwaye ungayi kuphelelwa yithemba. Cacisa ukuba kukho uthando olungenakutshitshiswa, kodwa ebomini, kuya kubakho ukuvakalelwa. Ukuba ungathandabuzi ubunzulu beemvakalelo zakhe, uze ube ngumntu omdala, uya kuyika uluthando.
Uthando lwabantwana kwiminyaka engama-7-12
Ngeli xesha, iimvakalelo zomntwana kwisahluko esicatshulwayo. Ekuqaleni, uthando lufihliwe ngokucophelela. Emva koko, ukuba umntwana osemncinci ungumhlobo kunye nentombazana, bobabili baya kuhleka. Kukho indlela enye yomthetho - ukukrazula ii-pigtails, uthele kwi-spray. Amantombazana akhubekile, kodwa intuitively feel that all this is simple. Abafundi abasebancinci (abantwana abantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe) bayabethandana. Iminyaka ukuya kwi-12, iyancipha. Imvakalelo yePlaton ibeka endaweni yokutsala kwezesondo. Amantombazana aphelile kule ngqiqo, kwaye amakhwenkwe sele eqonda ngokucacileyo oko akufunayo. Ukuwa othandweni nabafundi besikolo esiphakamileyo, banomdla kwiindawo ezithile.
Izenzo zakho zifakwe kwiingxelo ezilumkileyo. Uthando lwentsana lunokuba lukhulu kakhulu kwaye umntu unokukwazi ukuthwala iminyaka emininzi. Ncedisa umntwana ukuba afeze iimpazamo ngeli nqanaba kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngaba uxabana nale nkwenkwe? Ndixelele indlela yokudibanisa. Ukuba unyana akakwazi ukutsala umlingana naye, ungamnika iingcebiso ezimbalwa.
Uthando lwabantwana kwiminyaka eyi-12-15
Abaselula bathanda nje ukugqithisa. Bamlindele, baphupha ngaye, bafune kwaye bafumane. Umnqweno wokubathanda unamandla kangangokuba nabani na onokuba yinto abavakalelwa ngayo. Akunandaba nokuba ayifanelekanga. Ingcamango ecebile ibonisa umgangatho olahlekileyo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ne-intombi okanye intombi ebudeni baloo mzekelo luhlobo lokuvavanya "ukufaneleka." Xa udibana nomntu, uhlonishwa. "USidishia, ongenakufumana umdla, ufunda ukuba i-physics iyadelelwa." Ukuba akukho ntombi, intsha intsha iya kwiindawo ezibonakalayo. Intloko yabo isebenza kuphela kwelinye icala, kwaye kuthethwa phambi kwe-USE kwaye kuyimfuneko yokwenza loo nto yintlupheko yamathambo, kunye nexesha. , ukuba bathanda intombazana ethile kunye nolunye, kodwa into echasene nayo iyenzeka, xa ukukhangwa kwezesondo kuthathwa kuthando.
Izenzo zakho zancitshiswa ukuze zomelele kwaye zivule. I-Hormonal blasts intsha nje kufuneka ihambe. Kwiminyaka embalwa, umntwana uya kuba "perebesitsya" kwaye uya kukwazi ukucinga ngokucetyiswayo, kodwa awukwazi ukufihla ulutsha kwi-Intanethi nakwithelevishini. "Atam" ukhanyisa "ngaphezu kokuyimfuneko. Asikwazi ukutshintsha imeko, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukutshintsha isimo sethu sengqondo kuyo. Myalelo wokukhulelwa komntwana wakho, imiphumo yesondo esingakhuselekanga. Umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba ubudlelwane bezocansi bunembopheleleko enkulu kwaye kungekhona nje uxanduva lwakho, kodwa kumlingane wakho. Kwaye ukuwugxotha kwam mahlombe ngaphambi kwexesha akufanelekanga.
Ukunyeliswa okuncinci kunye nokuthetha, kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba ngaphezulu. Umntwana uya kukuthemba kwaye enze ukuba sikwazi ukumkhokela kwindlela efanelekileyo. Into ephambili kukuba uzame ukuba ngumhlobo wakho osondeleyo kumntwana wakho, kwaye iingxaki ezininzi ziya kutshabalala ngokwazo.