Umama kunoma yimuphi umntwana onyana kakhulu, othandekayo kunye nomthandayo. Ngaphandle kwesibeleko sikamama ukuxhamla oluqinileyo kuvela phakathi komntwana ozayo kunye nonina. Uziva uvakalelwa ngumama, uyasabela kwisimo sakhe sengqondo. Ilizwi lokuqala eliva ngexesha lomzimba ngumama wakhe. Iminyaka embalwa yokuqala emva kokuzalwa, umntwana usoloko engamthandanga unina, nokuba yintoni na. Ukubeka uthando lomama kwintsana kuthetha ukufaka inzululwazi kumama okanye kwixesha elizayo. Emva kwexesha, umntwana wakho akayi kuba yindodana okanye intombi enothando, kodwa ngumyeni okanye umfazi onothando.
Izizathu eziphambili zokusweleka kwemvakalelo yomntwana yothando kumama
Umntwana unako ukuphatha umama wakhe ngokugqithiseleyo xa umama ebonakalisa ngokuthe ngqo kumntwana, okanye unokuhlala exakekile kwaye akayi kuhlala enomdla kumntwana. Ukuziphatha kwakhe kakubi kumama, inkunzi izama ukutsala ingqalelo. Ukongezelela, ukuba umama usichitha lonke usuku kunye nabantwana, abantwana banomdla kakhulu ukudlala nopapa, abo babona kuphela ngobusuku okanye noogogo nomkhulu oza kanye ngeveki, kodwa ngelo xesha bafumana ixesha lokumisa iimvuthu njengoko umama nobaba abanako kuthathwe ndawonye. Kwaye umama uyisitoreji sokugcina: "musa ukuya khona", "musa ukuyichukumisa," "ungenzi nto" njalo njalo.
Umzali kumntwana wothando ngomama
Umbuzo: "Indlela yokukhulisa uthando lomntwana kumama?" Abanye oomama bazibuza ngokukhawuleza. Kubalulekile ukuqala ukususela kumzuzwana wokuzalwa kwakhe, kwaye kungcono nakwiinyanga ezithoba ngaphambi kokuzalwa kwakhe. Ingane ivakalelwa uthando lwakho. Kubalulekile ukuba abone unina onobuchule, omomothekayo, onothando nokuzola. Ukuba iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo zivela kumama, akukhathaleki ukuba ngubani na okanye yintoni, umntwana angakwazi ukuwaqonda kwicala lawo. Ukususela kwindlela umntwana aphatha ngayo unina, ubomi bakhe bonke buya kuxhomekeka. Ukukhuliswa kwengane kwintsapho kwenzeka kwindawo ethile yentlalo. Ngeendlela ezininzi, le meko ixhomekeke kumfazi. Nguwo umama ofundisa umntwana ukuba azithande ngokomzekelo wakhe. Ingane ivakalelwa konke ukunakekelwa kwayo. Ukukhuliswa komntwana wothando kumama, kungekhona nje kuphela uthando lomama olufunekayo. Umama kufuneka abe nesineke esibalulekileyo kunye nokusila. Naliphi na umntwana othabatha ukunyaniseka kwesimo sakho sengqondo kuye. Kubalulekile ukuba aziva ukuba awugcini nje udibana naye, kuba lo msebenzi wakho, kodwa ukhathalela ngokwenene umntwana wakho. Ukukhulisa i-crumb akulula nje ngokuba ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala ngathi. Zonke iimpazamo ozenzayo ekukhuliseni umntwana zingathintela isimo sakhe sengqondo kubomama nabo bonke abantu ngokubanzi. Umntwana kufuneka abe nomuvo wokuthi uyathandwa kwaye ufuna. Emva koko uya kunika umama wakhe uthando, uzame ukuhlala ujabule naye.
Ukuba ngumama uyonwabile ngokwenene. Ingakumbi uqonda oku xa umntwana wakho enobubele besithi: "Mama, ndikuthanda!". Kodwa, ngelanga, akusoloko umama eva kubantwana eli binzana. Kubonakala sengathi uyayithanda le nto idalwa ngaphezu kobomi, kwaye ulungele ukunikela yonke into ehlabathini ngenxa yakhe, kwaye umphathe ngothando olukhethekileyo nangaphambi kokuba azalwe, kwaye ngenxa yoko uva: "Andikuthandi!" "Ungumama onobubi ! ", Kunye nezinye ezibukhali nokubetha entliziyweni yegama. Oku kuya kuvelelwa phantse bonke abazali. Umama uqala ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukukhangela isizathu sesitatimende esinjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, eli binzana alisho ukuba umntwana akanamthandi unina. Zingaba ngumphumo wokuthintela, ukujeziswa, ukufezekisa iminqweno kunye neemfuno zomntwana. Ngaloo ndlela, omncinci uyakuchukumisa into yokuba akanakuvuyela into ethile, uyakhubeka. Ngempumelelo efanayo, akakwazi ukuthetha nawe, uya kumemeza aze ahlakaze amapheya akhe. Kule meko, umama kufuneka enze ngokufanelekileyo. Akukho mfuneko ukuba ugxeke umntwana ngale ndlela, ungasebenzisi impembelelo yomzimba ngokubhekiselele kwimvuthu, ungabi namdla kwaye ungenzi ukuvuma, wenze nantoni na ayifunayo.
Umntwana ukhuliswe njani ngothando lomama? Yonke into eyimfuneko yokwakheka kwintlanzana yothando lwakhe kunye nokuqonda kwincinci yabantu abasondele kuye, ngakumbi oomama. Phatha umntwana wakho ngokufudumala nangomonde, kwaye uya kuziva ukuba uyamthanda.