Ngamanye amaxesha uncumo olunjalo lukhanyisa ebusweni kunye nosana oluneveki, kodwa inyaniso yokuqala yeSmile ibonakala kwindawo ethile kwimida yeeveki ezi-4-8, xa umntwana, ekulungiselela amehlo akhe ebusweni bakho, uya kumncoma, kungekho mntu. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba ukumomotheka kuyisenzo esingenangqondo, esenziwe ngezofuzo, kwaye kungekhona "sobeyazannichchennoe" ebusweni bomama okanye obawo-ekuphenduleni ilizwi likamama, nokuba abantwana abangaboniyo abazalwa beyimfama banomotheka, abangenako ukulingisa nabani na.
Nyaniso
Ukuhleka nokumomotheka komntwana omncinci ngenye yezona zinto zikhangeleka ubuso bomntwana, njengoko kuboniswe ngendalo. Ngoko umntwana uqobo lwakhe, ubangele uvelwano, abuze ukhuseleko kubantu abadala. Akunakwenzeka ukumelana nalo! Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uncumo ekuzalweni, ukuba ukuzala kwakumnene kwaye kuyimvelo.
Ngaba uyazi ukuba ukumomotheka kunceda ekuphuhliseni ubuchule beemvumba?
Ukumamatheka okusasazekayo, okwenzelwe umama, kubandakanye inani elikhulu leemisipha kwaye kusebenze ummandla ongokoqobo wengqondo, ukuhlakulela ukucinga okucinga, ukucinga, ubuchule kunye ne-intuition.
Ukuhleka kunye nokumamatheka komntwana omncinci, kunikwe abantu abangaziwayo, kusebenze inani elincinci lomzimba kunye nesigxina sekhohlo sengqondo, okufaka isandla ekuphuhliseni ukucinga okunengqiqo nokuhlalutya.
Uqhagamshelwano!
Kuyathakazelisa ukuba ukuhleka kokuqala kunye nokumamatheka komntwana omncinci okanye usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa aluphendukanga kwimeko yobomama, kodwa ngelizwi lakhe. Ukumomotheka komntwana kuyinxeba yonxibelelwano. Ukuba umama uyamemeza ngokuphendula, ukumncoma kwakhe kuya kuba ngakumbi, uyavuya kukuba wayeqondwa kakuhle, kwaye umama uya kuvuya ngakumbi - unxibelelwano lokuqala. Kukho umnxibelelwano! Ukususela kwizifundo zokuqala ezibalulekileyo zonxibelelwano, i-crumb ikhumbula njalo ukuba ukumomotheka kusoloko kubonisa ukumomotheka. Ukuba uyakwazi ukuyilungisa engqondweni yakhe, ngoko umntwana usenakuqinisekiswa ukuba uyakhuthaza rhoqo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ukuba ubona ukuba ukumncoma kwakhe kukuqala ukuthetha nawe (kunye noyise, umntakwabo, ugogo), uzakuzama konke okusemandleni ukwenza ukuba "iiseshoni" ezinjalo ziphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo, oko kuthetha ukuba uya kuzincuma aze afune iindlela ku vuyisa.
Nyaniso
Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zafumanisa ukuba xa umama ebona ubuso bomntwana omomothekayo, usebenza kwiindawo ezifanayo zobomi njengengxaki yokusebenzisa iziyobisi. Ukumamatheka komntwana kuyisistim esingokwemvelo nesingenakubungozi.
Smile kuthetha "masidlale nawe kwaye ube ngabahlobo!"
Eyokuqala, ukususela kumhla wesi-3 wobomi ukuya ekupheleni kwenyanga yokuqala, i-proto-smile, it reflective. Ibonakalisa okwesibili kwaye iphantse ingabonakali. Iyakwazi ukusabela kwizwi lomfazi, ukukhawuleza.
Ubumnandi obufanayo bubonakala emva kweveki yesi-4 yobomi. Kulula ukuqonda: i-crumb ilungisa amehlo eento ezijikelezayo, abantu. Kwinyanga yesibini yobomi bentsana, ukumamatheka okwexesha elide kulindeleke kubonakala. Umntwana sele eqonda ubuso bomzali, uphendule ebusweni babo.
Ukuhleka ngeempumlo ezimfutshane
Kwaye ngoku i-3-4 iinyanga ezindala kwaye abazali bayamangaliswa okokuqala ... Ewe, ewe, umntwana uyahleka! Enyanisweni, bonke abantwana benza okuhlukileyo: umntu ehleka ngokukhawuleza, emlonyeni ovulekileyo kwaye ngokukhawuleza agcoba, umntu uhleka ekuhlekeleni, mhlawumbi aze aqokelele kwisithwathwa semvakalelo, umntu wenza izandi ezizwakala ngathi zikhala, kodwa Ubonakalo obusweni bubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba umntwana uhleka. Eli lixesha elifanelekileyo kakhulu lokuba abazali baqale ukufuna ngokuphangaleleyo phakathi kwemisebenzi edibeneyo leyo eyenza uvuyo oluhle, ukuhleka kunye nokumomotheka komntwana omncinci. Qala kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zabantu "uhamba ngeebhokhwe," "ikhwelo engamashumi amane", "ladushki-ladushki," "hambani, niya kwidolophana ngamantongomane." Sondeza, sondeza ndawonye, khonkisana ngomdla wakho! Enye yemidlalo eyintandokazi yeli xesha yinto ebizwa ngokuba yi-foek-boo-boo kumazwe athetha isiNgesi - ukufihla kokuqala kwaye ufune. Umama, umzekelo, ufihle phantsi kwetafile, emva kwefenitshala, emva kwekhetheni, kwaye umntwana uboniswa. Yonke into ebonakala ngayo i-cub idibana nokuhleka kwenkululeko. Uvakalisa uvuyo lwakhe lokuba umama wafunyanwa. Ukudlala ukufihla kunye nokufuna, omncinci ufunda ngoncedo lokuhleka ukunqoba ukwesaba. Yaye uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba unina akayi kushiya!
Iingcamango zibonisa ukuba abantu balindele ukubona i-movie ehlekisayo, ukunyuka kwama-87% kwimixholo ye-hormone yokukhula!
Kwaye bavelisa enye yesithathu beta-endorphin ngaphezu kwabo baceba ukujonga iphephandaba ngeengxelo zeentlekele. I-hormone yokukhula ixanduva lokukhuseleka, kwaye i-beta-endorphin inceda ukunyamezela uxinzelelo, ukudandatheka kunye ne-analgesia.
Ngoko ukhethe oko ufundayo okanye ubukele intsapho yonke - ifilimu enemibala enomdla kunye namaqhawe okwenene okanye umdlalo.
Ukuzihlaziya kugxininisa umntu omnye kwaye kukhulula uxinzelelo ekunxibelelana kunye nokumomotheka. Akunjalo nje kuphela "oku luncedo kwimpilo! Abo bahleka ngaphezulu, baphila ixesha elide. Abantwana bahleka ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunabantu abadala - badlale kwaye bavame ukuwela kwiimeko ezinobomi
Olunye uvakalelo oluvakalayo luvelwano, ubuchule bokuba abantu babe novelwano, bavelane, baqonde iimvakalelo zabanye baze "bajoyine". Yena, njengomfoloko wokukhwela, ubamba umoya wakhe aze aguqule kuye. Ukukwazi ukubonisa uvelwano kuphuhlisa kakuhle kuphela xa umntwana echitha ixesha elininzi nabazali, kwaye ukuba ihlabathi lazo livakalelwa. Umama, ehlala exhala okanye ekhuselekileyo, efihla imvakalelo yakhe, akamniki umntwana ithuba lokubona iimvakalelo ezahlukileyo. Ukuphuhlisa uvelwano kumntwana wakho, unikezela ikusasa elivuyisayo ngabazukulwana bakho ngendlela ethembekileyo kunokuvula i-akhawunti kwibhanki.
Izifundo zokuhleka
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukuhleka kokuqala kunye nokumomotheka komntwana omncinci kunokubangelwa lula ngokumkhawuleza, ukuphosa kwisithambiso, ukwenza ubuso obuhle okanye ukulinganisa intshukumo yakhe, ngoko-ke umntu unokunyanzela ukunyamezela umntwana. Ukongezelela, lixesha lokucamngca indlela yokuphakamisa umntu onovuyo, onobuqili onokuzihlaziya. Kwaye kwenzeka.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, inxalenye ebalulekileyo yomdlalo wokuhleka, ukuhleka kunye nokumomotheka komntwana omncinci kubangelwa yintsapho: nayiphi na umama onomntwana ongaphezu komnye uya kuqinisekisa ukuba abantwana bazalwa ngabalingani abahlukeneyo: umntu ovuyoleyo, umntu ocinga, umntu uhlalisana naye, umntu Ulungele ukuxhaswa ...
Nangona kunjalo, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ekukhulisweni nasekunyamekeleni komntwana, kunye nokuphuhliswa kwamakhono okuqonda (ukufunda nokubala ngonyaka kunye nesiqingatha), kufuneka ukuba kubekho indawo kunye nophuhliso lwentloni. Emva koko, akukhona nje ukukwazi ukuhleka kwipropati yonke kwi-joke efanelekileyo okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, yenza inkampani ehlekayo. Le yinto ebaluleke kakhulu yehlabathi imbono, efundisa ukungahlali kwiingxaki, ukujonga ubomi ngokuthe tye, ukubona izinto ezintle, ukuzonwabisa ngezinto ezintle.
Abancedisi kwimfundo yokuvakala
Ummandla jikelele kwiintsapho. Ukuba upapa uvela rhoqo emsebenzini kunye ne-beech kunye nezicingo ezivela kwintsapho kunye nesethelevishini, ukuba umama akanalo ixesha lokwenza nantoni na kwaye uyazi nje ukukrazula aze abe nexhala xa ugogo ugungqeleka imihla yonke malunga nokuba akahlonishwa apha kwaye akaqwalaselwanga naye ukuba umkhulu Ukukhathazeka kakhulu ngenxa yokuphuculwa kwempilo yakutshanje ... mhlawumbi sele uyayiqonda: akunakwenzeka ukuba baya kufundisa umntwana ukuba athole abantu abonwabileyo ebomini babo abangazi ukuba benze njani ngokwabo.
Jabulela nayiphi na ukuhleka kunye nokumamatheka komntwana omncinane. Makhe ehleka rhoqo, khumbula oko kukumvuyisa. Jabulela ukuba sele sele akwazi ukubona into embi kakhulu, nokuba awuyiqondi. Makhekeke ngokukhawuleza, khumbula into oyithandayo xa ehleka, kunye nemiva yakhe yokuhleka.
Khetha iincwadi ezihlekisayo, iimifanekiso - into engakwaziyo kuphela ukuzisa imilinganiselo enzulu kwi-subcortex yengane, kodwa nokuyivuselela. Makuqale ukuba ngumxube wezandi eencwadi oyifunayo: "Bach! Tyr-tyr-tyr! Zhzzhzh! "Okanye iimeko ezihlekisayo ezifana nobaba obuthathakayo kwi" Prostokvashin ". (Oku akuthethi ukuba yonke into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho ekupheleni kweentsuku zakhe ukuba afe ngenxa yokuhleka kwimeko yomntu owawela emgodini.) Musa ukucinga ukuba nzima ukuba umntwana wakho akakusasa ukuphulaphula iindinyana ezithile nokuba uyaziqonda, kuya kwenzeka , ukuba uya kuva into into kuwo. Funda kubantwana abahlekisayo: "UWinnie the Pooh," "uCarlson," incwadi ka E. Uspensky, amabali ngeenja uSonia A. Usachev.
Ungakhathazeki ngenxa yokuba ungamthwali umntwana "onengqiqo, olungileyo, ongunaphakade", kodwa ujonge. Ungathandabuzeki, imigaqo yokuziphatha yokuziphatha kunye neyokuziphatha iya kuba yi-pereimet, ikubukele, kodwa ukuhleka kunye nokumomotheka komntwana omncinane kufuneka kuqeqeshelwe kwaye kuzuze.
Ungakulibali ukuba umntwana wakho kwiinyanga zokuqala xa iziganeko ezintsha zibonakala ebomini bakhe, kwindawo yokuqala, ubheka indlela ophendula ngayo kuqala, "ubhala" kwimemori njengento echanekileyo. Funda ukugcina "ubuso bakho", jonga ngokwakho, zama ukuvimbela iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo xa usana, kwaye ugxininise ezilungileyo. Ukuba uyavuya kakhulu ngeendwendwe, ukuba uyakwazi ukuzibuza ngokuqinisekileyo, ziyamkele, zivakalise ukuvuya - konke oku kuya kudluliselwa kumntwana wakho. Ukuba, xa eqaqa, ezama ukuthabatha isinyathelo sokuqala, ugijimela kuye ubuso obusongelayo, akukho nto inokumangaliswa kukuba uya kuwela emncinci kancinci kakhulu. Ngoko uzama ukwenza isethi yeempendulo zokuqala kwizenzo ezahlukeneyo, ngoko ke, ekukhangeleleni ngokubuhlungu kule miba, unokukukopisha. Umzekelo, xa iwa (ngokwemvelo, sithetha ngokuwa kwebala), sinokuthi: "Bam-mms!", "Hayi!", "O-la-la!", Kwaye konke oku ngovelwano, kodwa ukumomotheka. Kakade ke, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uzisole, kodwa ukuze umntwana angangeni kumbandela wale mba. Ngokusabela kwakho, njengokuba uthi: yonke into ilungile, akukho nto yokwesaba, oku kungenangqondo!
Abantwana abakhulileyo bancedwa kakhulu ukuhlakulela ukuhlaziywa kwazo zonke iintlobo zeentlobo ezihlekisayo, iisksi kunye neengcali. Ewe, ukuba udla ngokumangalela umntwana wakho - makabancinci, kodwa mnandi. Kuhle ukuba ubhala amabali kuye malunga neentlanzi ezimnandi zamaqhawe, apho angakuhleka khona ukuphakama kwamava akhe, umzekelo, xelela oneminyaka emithathu ubudala ngomntu ongenakuyidla nge-spoon, kwaye yiziphi iimeko ezihlaselayo ezifumene ngenxa yoko. Ewe, kuya kumhlekisa, ukuba yena ngokwakhe uyazi lexesha elidlulileyo!
Abafana abaye bafunda ukudweba okanye babhale, ngokuvuya kakhulu "badlala" - khumbula, oku kukuthi xa umntu ekhupha inxalenye yomzimba, umzekelo, intloko, kwaye uyayifaka isahluko sephepha, izandla zakhe zenzeke kwelinye, kwaye lowo ongaboniyo udweba i-torso ngezandla, i-wraps ... okanye ungabhala izibongo, ushiye igama lokugqibela kwisigqi. Omnye umdlalo omhle kwaye obulalayo ngumdlalo "oMbutho", xa abadlali behlulwe ngamaqela amabini, elowo uqikelele iingcamango, amagama weengoma, iincwadi, kwaye omnye umntu ovela kwiqela eliphikisayo ufunda ukuzikhukhumeza kwaye uzama ngaphandle kwamagama okubonisa ukuba iqela, abachasi babo bafuna. Ngokuqhelekileyo ekupheleni, wonke umntu ulele phantsi ehleka, ngendlela, lo mdlalo uphumelele kwiholide "abadala".
Njalo uqhagamshelana nomntwana kunye nabanye, nikela umntwana wakho umzekelo wokusabela ngokukhohlakeleyo, ukuhleka kunye nokumomotheka komntwana omncinci. Xa uthetha naye, soloko uhlekisa kwaye ukhuthaze iinzame zakhe zokuphendula. Yenza sengathi awukwazi into ethile (ongayikwaziyo), akwazi ukutshatyalaliswa, umzekelo, udlala amacwecwe amancinci kuwo (kungcono ukukwenza kunye nabantwana abangaphezu konyaka - abantwana ukuya kunyaka banokuthabatha ubuhlungu "kwenguqu" "). UWeb akayena ubuwula kuphela, kodwa kunye nokuphuhliswa kwempendulo ngokukhawuleza, ubuchule, kungekhona nje ubuchule obunxibelelwano obubalulekileyo, kodwa kunye nokuqeqeshwa kwengqondo, ngoko ke ukuvakala ngokuqhelekileyo kudibaniswe neendlela ezifanelekileyo zokucinga.
Nyaniso
Kwiinyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezine umntwana uya kukukholisa ngomnye uphumelelo olutsha: ngoku akayikumemeza nje ngomlomo wakhe nangamehlo, naye uhamba kunye novuyo lwakhe ngokuswela izandla, imilenze kunye ne-buzz. Uyabonisa "ukuba uyavuya ukubona kwaye ukulungele ukuthetha.
Akunakwenzeka njani ukutshabalalisa umxholo wehlazo ovela kumntwana? Zama ukufunda ukuqonda xa ehlekisa ngokwenene, kwaye xa ehleka. Musa ukuvumela umntwana ukuba ahlekise. Ukukhwabanisa akusiyo intsana yokuziva. Enye inkcazelo »yokuba unokuhleka usulu kunye noontanga bakho. Ngabantu abadala, ixesha alikafiki.