Nayiphi na ubudlelwane kufuneka bakhelwe ngokufanelekileyo, kuba kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqale, kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo uhlobo oluthile lwalamano abalukho ngalo. Oku kungokulala, okanye abantu badibana, okanye bahlala kunye. Kuzo zonke iziganeko, abantu banesimo sengqondo esahlukileyo malunga nesondo kunye nomnye.
Ubuhlobo obunothando
Kuba isibini esandula ukuqala ukutshata, sinokucebisa, sandisa ixesha lothando lobuhlobo babo, ukwenzela ukuba uthando lukhule. Ulwalamano oluhle kakhulu olusenyongweni lusemncinci kwaye luphele kakhulu. Eli lixesha elithile xa abantu banelisekile ukuba baya kujongwa ngamehlo, banjelwe ngamadolo, bhala ileta, khumbula isepha yabo ethandayo, ushizi othanda umntu, baya kukhonza ngokufanelekileyo ingubo, njl njl.
Ngelishwa, ngexesha lethu lolwalamano lomtshato lunikezwa ixesha elincinci. Kwaye ngeli xesha asinaso ithuba 'lokufumana' eso simbozo seemvakalelo zobudlelwane bomtshato, apho uthando lwethu luqhubeka khona. Umzekelo, iinkumbulo zendlela ebheka ngayo, indlela awayeyikhumbula ngayo, ingaba wabhala izibongo, oko wakubhalayo, nokuba uthenge izipho, nokuba ucele ukuphumla, ukuphupha, ukukhathalela, njl.
Kwiqela ngalinye eliqala ukudibana, le mizuzu emancinci ikhula ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, sidibene kwi-cafe, sathetha esinye isivakalisi ezimbini okanye ezintathu kwaye siyaqonda - sifana nabantu abanengqondo. Sakhangela ngenyameko omnye nomnye kwaye saqonda: Ndifuna ukuhlala nalo mntu de ndide ndigugile. Sathetha ngoMdali, sathintela isandla kwaye saqonda - siyavumelana. Kwaye ke yintoni umehluko owenzayo xa uqala ubudlelwane obusondeleyo namhlanje, ngeveki okanye kwiinyanga eziyi-1.5, njengoko ezinye izabelo zesini zincoma.
Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukusondela
Kwenzeka ukuba iinwele zibe "yi-rack", intloko yakho ityebe, izandla zakho ziyazamazama, de ube ufuna umntu apha kunye nangoko. Ndabiza ebusuku, kubizwa, kuthiwa iteksi kwaye uya. Ngamanye amaxesha umvakalelo onjalo kunye nomnqweno unokumiswa ukuba ingqondo ithi, "Lindani, akusisixesha, umonde." Ukuba kukho ithuba elinjalo lokwandisa ubudlelwane, kungcono ukulinda, ukuba akukho nhlobo, ungaliphulaphuli nabani na, thandanani omnye kwi-elevator, ekuhlaleni, kwimoto. Yonke le mvakalelo nemvakalelo esiyithatha nabo ekuguga.
Ukuba indoda inika ibhinqa imizuzu embalwa ngosuku, kwaye umfazi usebenza kwimibutho engaphezu kwemizuzu embalwa, ngoko kuvela ukuba esi sibini asisoze sahlula. Kwaye akukho nto eyenza ukuba balala kunye okanye bengenalo.
Uthando lweHhovisi
Ngelo xesha kukho intando yenkonzo apho sikhelelwe khona ixesha, siyaqonda ukuba ukuba namhlanje asiyikuqhafaza, siza kuhamba epakini iintsuku eziliqela, ngoko siza kuba nekhono lobugcisa, kwaye siza kulila, sitshilo siye esiteshini kwaye akukho namnye umntu Andiyi kubhala, akukho mntu uza kuza kumntu. Ubunokwenzeka ukuba oku kuya kubangela umtshato oqinileyo nothando, mhlawumbi enye iphesenti.
Xa unesithuba esincinane kwaye awufuni ngokwenene, uyaqonda ukuba lo mntu uya kuhlala ekhunjulwa, umfanekiso oqaqambileyo owathathayo ekugugeni kwakho, vala amehlo akho ukuba wenze into enyanisweni kwaye ungene kulobu budlelwane, ngoko ungazihlambalazi ngamathuba angagqithwanga. Ukuba unako ukuyeka, nqama, coo, uhambe uze ushiye i-adventure yothando, ongenamahloni uya kubelana nomhlobo osondeleyo okanye kunye nomyeni wakhe.
Uphi ukuphuka kobudlelwane? Xa isibini siqala ukulala ngesondo kunye neveki yokuqala emva komtshato, abanye abasandul 'ukutshata baqala ukubonisa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zokubhala ngesandla. Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba ubomi bunye, bude kwaye bude kwaye ufuna ukuba ube yedwa iqabane.
Ingaba ungumntu okanye intombazana, intombazana okanye umntu, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ebomini bakho kufuneka uhlale ungenisa into entsha. Umzekelo, ukuba isidlo sobomi sithandwa, sithweswe ngaphezu okanye sisongezwa ushukela oluninzi, singenakwenzeka, ngoko ebomini-wonke umntu wayebukeka, wonk 'ubani ubona, afundana njengencwadi yokufunda - oku akuvumelekanga. Ukwandisa ubuhlobo bakho, fungela ukubeka, udale ezinye izihlandlo ukuze unyuke iqabane lakho, yenza okubi, masizixolele.
Ubunono kwisini
Kodwa ngokuphathelele ngokwesondo, ngoko ngokobuchule bokwakha kuyo yonke imbonakalo yayo. Kwaye nawuphi na ubuchule, udinga ukuhlaziywa kwendalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo nayiphi na umbhali okanye umculi uyaqonda ukuba ngehora lesi-8 ndiya kuthatha ibhulashi kwaye ndidwebe ngobugcisa. Sifanele silinde isimo sengqondo sokudala, kwaye isimo sengqondo sisaqhubeka sinikela uthando. Yaye le mizila yelomlingo yesifiso sesondo kunye nothando lothando luyindlela yokwenza iintliziyo zidibanise.
Elinye iqabane lifuna ukunuka, ukujonga ngokukhawuleza, ukuphulaphulela umntu ukuphefumla, ukujonga indlela awaphendula ngayo, kwaye ungamangalisi. Ekubeni kunamaxesha apho amadoda athi ndiyinyamekele ibhinqa, wayenothando kakhulu, kungekhona elinye igama elihlazo, kodwa indlela awaziphatha ngayo ebhedeni, ndandidimazeka kakhulu kuye, kuhle ukuba asizange sitshatile. Lo ngumntu ofanelekileyo kwaye andithandi. Enyanisweni, kwibini nganye, olu lwalamano luyingqayizivele, kodwa ubulili bubala imibala ecacileyo kuyo yonke ubudlelwane.
Ukulala ngesondo
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ngobudlelwane bomntu obuthandayo, omnye uvumela ukuba athandwe, omnye uya kwintlanganiso, enye inakekele, elowo unalo ixesha ngendlela yalo, kodwa xa abantu bexinzezela, igama liyekile, "uhamba" iingxaki kwaye kukho abantu abangenazo i-aesthetics kakhulu. Le yinkqubo enhle, mhlawumbi ayikho into enhle kakhulu ngaphandle, umzekelo, kungeyona into enhle njengamafilimu e-pornography. I-mascara, i-sweaty face, inwele ephazamisayo.
Kodwa xa ubulili ngenxa yothando kwaye xa wanika lo thando ithuba lokuba uzalelwe kwaye uqokelele, le nkqubo iya kugcina ulwalamano lwakho kulo lonke ubomi, nangona ungavumelani nabalinganiswa, nangona ulwahlula iminyaka yakho, nangona ukhulu iqela labancedisi beegap.