Yaye yonke into yokuba le malungu eneminyaka emibili yentsapho, ukungena kwivenkile, ibamba yonke into esuka emashalofini enesibhakabhaka esicacileyo kunye emnandi, iipokethi ezinamathengi kunye neekesekiti kunye neeholethi, kwaye iphosa iimveliso kwiisheluli ukuya phantsi. Ephantse kwirejista yemali umntwana usungula abakhohlisi bokwenene, efunde ukuba akacinganga ukuthenga oko akukhethile, unina noyise. Ezi ziimeko ziyaziwayo kubo bonke abazali, kodwa bambalwa kuphela abazi ukuba banokuthintelwa, kwaye bancitshiswe.
Ukuze intsapho yakho ihambe ngokuthenga ngokuthula, ukuze abantwana baphathe kakuhle kwivenkile kwaye bangabangeli iingxaki, khumbula ezinye iingcebiso.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, into efunekayo ukuba uqale ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukususela kwiminyaka yobudala ukugcina imithetho yokuziphatha kwentlalo. Ingane kufuneka ihlule ngokucacileyo indlu kunye neendawo zoluntu kwaye zingenzi kwiindawo zikawonkewonke into enokukwazi ukuyenza ekhaya: ukukhala okukhulu, ukukhala, ukusabalalisa izinto, ukutsala ingqalelo engadingekanga. Umntwana kufuneka awazi igama "elingenakwenzeka" kwaye alawule abazali xa basebenzisa lolu hlobo lokuthintela. Ngokubhekiselele ekutyeleleni ngokuthe ngqo ivenkile, umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba ukuba yena kunye nonina bemi emgceni kwideskithi zemali, kufuneka silinde de kube bonke abo bemi phambi kwabo bahlawule ukuthenga, awukwazi ukuthatha nantoni kwii-shelf, ngaphandle kokubhaliweyo kwiphepha lokuthengwa kwamama. . Ngendlela, abantwana bayakuthanda ukukhumbula uluhlu lokuthenga, kunye nesevenkile ukukhumbuza abazali ukuba bathenge ntoni. Unokwenza oku luhlobo lwenkcubeko kuyo yonke ihambo ukuya kwisitoreji.
Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe i-kid kwivenkile yangempela, unokuziqhelisa ekhaya - ukudlala esitolo, vumela umntwana ukuba abone emdlalweni ukuba ayenze njani nokuba yintoni ekwenzayo kwisitoreji.
Ewe, xa uthengisa, umntwana ubheka izenzo zakho, aze athathe umzekelo kuwe. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufike kwi-hike esitolo kunye nengqondo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba ubeka yonke into ebhaskini, okanye kuqala ukuya kwisebe yeekesekese uze uthayiphe iqela leesekese ezahlukeneyo, ngoko ubeka umzekelo ombi kumntwana. Kusoloko ufuna ukuba uyazi ukuba kutheni uye esitolo, ungathathi mkhulu kakhulu, kuba umntwana uza kutshintsha okanye emva koko akopishe izenzo zakho. Ngoko ke, kule meko kubalulekile ukwenza uluhlu lokuthenga oluyimfuneko.
Umntwana unokungenangqondo kwivenkile kwaye uncede abafundi bakhe bancede ngokukhawuleza kulawo matyala ukuba ukhathele ukuthenga ixesha elide okanye ukuba uyamqabula kwimisebenzi enomdla. Ingane isencinane kakhulu ukufihla ukungaxhalabi nokubi kwayo. Musa ukumemeza kumntwana, uyandisa nje imeko. Ulunge uzame ukunyamezela, ukuphazamisa ingqalelo yakhe: ndixelele oko uya kuthenga, umnike umsebenzi wokukhumbula iimveliso ezimbalwa okanye ukufumana imveliso eqhelekileyo. Abantwana abaninzi banqwenela ukukhwela kwiinqwelo ezinkulu zokutya, kwaye abanye abantwana bathanda ukuthenga kunye "nekhredithi" yabo. Nika ikhefu ithuba lokuhlawula kwideskithi yemali ye-candy ngokwakho. Unokuphakamisa isimo sengqondo somntwana ngokukunika oko akuthandayo: ibhokisi lejusi, ibhasikidi. Ukuba umntwana akayi kulungelelanisa yakho, mxelele ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukuba uyaqhubeka ephazamise nawe, kufuneka uhambe esitolo ngaphandle kokuthenga kunye nangaphandle kweeskese ezizithandayo. Nceda uqaphele ukuba le ngongoma kufuneka ilandelwe ubuncinci kanye kwimeko efanayo, ukuze inkwenkwe ikwazi ukuba ayidlala naye. Ngexesha elilandelayo akayi kuthatha ixesha elide ukujonga umonde wakho.
Musa ukuthabatha inkunzi yakho, ukuba uceba ukuthenga ixesha elide, umzekelo, ukuba uya kwiingubo ezifuna ukufakwa kwexesha elide.
Ngomntwana omdala, unokuvuma ngale ndlela elandelayo: ngaphambi kokuba uye esitolo, ukuba unenjongo yokumthengela ithoyizi, umnike inani elithile, onokulibala. Ngoko uya kumqeqesha ngokucokisekileyo ekucwangciseni uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, oluyiluncedo kuye kwimpilo yakhe yabantu abadala. Ukuba umntwana unokuzikhethela oko athengayo ngemali eyabelwe, unokufunda nokugcina indlela yokugcina imali eyithengayo ngakumbi emva koko.
Umntwana ohlala ecwangcisa iziganeko ezimbi kwivenkile mhlawumbi akafundanga kakuhle. Ukuba ekhaya konke kuvunyelwe kwiintsana, akunakwenzeka ukuba uya kuba neentloni kwindawo kawonkewonke. Cinga ngeenkqubo zemfundo zomntwana wakho, kuba ekudala, umntwana onjalo unokukunika iingxaki ezininzi.
Ngaloo ndlela, xa usapho luya kuthengwa, umntwana uya kuziphatha kakuhle kwivenkile, ukuba ngaba abazali ngokwabo baziphatha ngokuchanekileyo malunga naye.