Inkxalabo yeminyaka emithathu ubudala inengcaciso ecacileyo yemvelo. Kwakuyilo xesha apho iingqondo ze-hemispheres zahlelwa kwakhona. I-hemispheres ezilungileyo kunye nekhohlo ziqala ukusebenza ngokuhlukileyo, njengabantu abadala. Kwakhona lixesha lokuhlukana komntwana kumntu omdala. Ungakwazi ukuyibiza ngexesha lokuphuhliswa kobuntu bomntwana. Ngowe izolo, umntwana wethu wayengenakukhuseleka kwaye uxhomekeke, akanakuhlala ngaphandle komama kunye neeyure ezimbalwa kwaye wayezijonga njengomntu omnye kunye naye. Wathi ngaye: "I-Kirill iya kuhamba. Kirill uya kudla. " Kodwa ngoku uye wakhula kwaye uyazi ukuba ungumntu ohlukeneyo: "Ndiya kuthanda, ndiya kuhamba." Kodwa uyazi ukwenza oko ngoku nje ngendlela yokumemeza, ngeli xesha kukho iimpawu ezicacileyo ezifunekayo abazali ukuba bahlale bezilumkile.
Umnqweno ogqithiseleyo karapuza ukuzimela . "Mna mna!" Ngaba impendulo yakhe nayiphi na umbuzo, ngoku ufuna ukwenza yonke into kwaye azigqibelele yena ngokwakhe.) Ngokuqhelekileyo, oomama nabazali abavumeli ukufezekiswa komnqweno wokuzimela ukuba benze nantoni na, kwaye bamphoqa umntwana ukuba abonise ukuthanda kwakhe nayiphi na isizathu kwaye ngaphandle kwayo.
Ukunciphisa kwezinto ayekade ezithanda kwaye umntwana wayemthanda. Inokuthi ijoliswe kuyo nayiphi na into - abantu, imifanekiso, iincwadi, amathoyizi. Umntwana uqala ukuphuka iimoto zakhe ezixabisekileyo okanye idonsa, ukukhupha iincwadi kunye nokulwa kwi-sandbox nomhlobo ongcono. Kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uqala ukucaphukisa umama noyise. Enyanisweni, akukho mntu ubiza ngakumbi kubazali ngomntwana, kwaye akafuni into embi. Yena ngokwakhe ubandezeleka ekuziphatheni kwakhe, kodwa unyanzelekile ukuba afakazele isikhundla sakhe.
Kwenzeka, njengommiselo, kulezo ntsapho apho umntwana ekhuliswe yedwa okanye abantwana banomlinganiselo omkhulu weminyaka . I-Kid izama ukunika igunya layo phezu kwayo yonke into ejikelezile, kwaye iyalela ukuba imigaqo yayo.
Uhlala esasaza imiyalelo ebalulekileyo - ngubani, ukuba yenzeni, kwaye ngubani lowo onqatshelwe. Ukuba kukho abanye abantwana kwintsapho, umona unokuba okanye unzima.
Kwaye ukuba abantu abadala abafuni ukuxhasa nokuqonda umntwana, bemqonda ilungelo lokuzimela, inguquko yangempela ifike.
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Ukuba ufumanisa kwintsana yakho yonke okanye imbonakalo eninzi yentlekele, ungesabi. Bonke abantwana bahamba ngale ndlela. Xa befumene izizathu, abazali bayazibuza umbuzo othi: "Yintoni eyenzekayo nale ngqongqo enzima?"
Ngaba ufuna ukupenda umtyholi wakho eludongeni? Nceda! Namathisela iphepha eliya emnyango okanye kwifriji. Ufuna ukuhlamba izinto zakho? Kutheni unga-uthele kwisitya esincinci samanzi afudumele kwaye unike iibhola. Makhe asebenze! Ukulawula kungekhona izenzo zomntwana, kodwa ukhuseleko lwendawo ejikeleze kuyo - ukuze ungazami ukungena emanzini abilayo ukuze kungabikho icazi ecaleni kwayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi abantwana bayawudlulela kwaye bazame ukwenza konke ngokwabo, kodwa ngelo xesha bazincedi ngokupheleleyo. Abazali baqala ukuthukuthela, okuqondakalayo kwaye kuyaqondakala. Nangona kunjalo, iimvakalelo ezinjalo kufuneka zithintele ngaphakathi kwaye uzame ukunyamezela. Musa ukumemeza okanye udlale inkohliso kumntwana, kunye nokunye okunye - ukulungisa rhoqo. Ngaloo ndlela, unqanda iqhinga lakhe kwi-bud. Kamva, xa ehlamba kwaye engaqhelwanga ngokupheleleyo nokuziphatha okunjalo, kuya kudala.
Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba uyabilisa kwaye unako amandla okubamba, uye kwelinye igumbi, vula umculo. Etaweni yesitrato, shiya indawo ebanzi kwaye uxelele umntwana ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukuziphatha kwakhe kukuphazamise kwaye kukukhathaze. Kwaye uqhubeka uhamba naye okanye udlala kuphela xa ehlalisa aze ayeke ukuziphatha njengale.
Musa ukuthetha nomntwana ngezwi elungileyo kwaye uqale ukuba nomdla kwiinqwenela zakhe. Vumela umntwana ukuba enze ukhetho kwizinto ezingaqhelekanga - yiyiphi imoto yokugqoka okanye yimuphi umzobo onokubandakanya, kwiyiphi indebe ukusela ijusi kunye nalapho uhlala khona etafileni. Ukuba umbuzo uvela malunga nezinto ezingenako ukunyamezela ukukhetha (ukusela okanye ukusela isilya), ngoko kuyimfuneko ukucacisa ukuba kutheni le nto kunjalo, kwaye kungenjalo. Musa ukubeka uxinzelelo kwamandla kuphela - umama wathi iphuzu! Ufuna iyeza ukuze uphucule kwaye uhambe uhambo.
Xa inkwenkwe ingaphumeleli okanye inganikezwa inkululeko, iqala ukucaphuka. Kwaye kubonakala njani ukuba umsindo wengqabunga? Ukhaluma, ulwa, uphukisa omncinci kunye nobuthathaka. Siyityhola inkunzi yale nto, kodwa musa! Intukuthelo kufuneka iqondiswe ukuze ingabangeli abanye. Vumela intshontsho ibhokhwe kwisihlalo, makabhuqe iphephandaba okanye baphonsa ilitye emlanjeni, memeze. Into eyona nto kukukukhupha iimvakalelo kwaye ungabi lihlazo ngenxa yalo.
Nanini na xa umntwana ekhupha ikhonsathi, kufuneka uxoxe naye. Kodwa kungekhona ngethuba xa iingxolo zincinci zifana neenjini zeenqwelo, kunye neinyembezi zihamba emitanjeni emithathu, kwaye xa iimvakalelo zingabi nantoni, kwaye uza kuwe ukuthanda kunye nenduduzo. Cacisa umntwana ukuba wakucasula ukuba akudingekile ukuba uziphathe ngale ndlela. Uyenze ntoni, kuba bekuyimfuneko ... Bonisa i-crumb yokuba uyamphatha njengomntu.
Naphezu kwazo zonke izinto ezivuyisayo , ezi zinto zinabantwana bakho, bathandekayo kwaye bathandekayo, beyona nto ibalulekileyo kwihlabathi lonke. Njalo ncokola ngazo ngabo, nibonge. Xoxa ngemini edlulileyo, ugxile kwimpumelelo kunye nezenzo ezilungileyo. Musa ukutshutshiswa, xa i-crumb ithi: "Ubi, andinithandi!"