Umba wokuzalwa komntwana unzima kakhulu, esi sibini sixoxa ngaso ixesha elide. Kwaye ngoku, xa sele sele banqume yonke into, bazala umntwana. Kodwa okokuqala, kwavela ukuba abafazi bafuna intombazana, kunye namadoda-inkwenkwana. Kwaye kuyinto engokwemvelo. Emva koko akuyi kuba nzima ukuhlala. Indoda inokuthabatha unyana wayo ekulobeni, ngoku, intombazana-intombi yakhe iya kunceda kwimicimbi yabasetyhini. Konke oku kulungile. Kodwa akusoloko izifiso zizaliseka. Omnye wamalungu entsapho uya kuhlutha. Kodwa ingaba yintoni, engayi kudlula.
Ukuba intombazana izalwa, loo mntu uya kuvuya, kodwa kungekhona nje ukuba umfazi wakhe wazalwa "patsanenok." Kodwa siphila kwilizwe elikhululekile, apho kunokwenzeka khona, kwaye kwaneyimfuneko, ukuzala inani elingenamkhawulo labantwana. Ngaphezu koko, kwilizwe lethu alinandaba nokulala komntwana ozayo. Ewe, mhlawumbi uya kumangaliswa yile nkcazo, kodwa, umzekelo, kukho amazwe apho ubulili bomntwana kubaluleke kakhulu. Umzekelo, iChina - kukho umda kwinani labantwana kwintsapho. Le nto inesihlungu, kodwa inabantu abaninzi kakhulu, kuba ... E-China, ibhinqa kufuneka libele umntwana wokuqala-inkwenkwana. Lo myalelo nje unyanzelekile. Kwaye yena uya kuba ngcono xa le nkwenkwe yazalwa kuqala. Ngoko kukho, kakuhle, kwaye akukho nto asinakuyenza ngayo. Wathi le nkwenkwana, ezama ukuzala umntwana.
Ewe, masingangeni kwimicimbi yeChina. Yiyo yoshishino labo. I-China lizwe elikhulu, kodwa uluntu lukhona -Ogo! Kuye ngokuxininisa koluntu olulungileyo. Siya kuthatha isigqibo malunga nenani labantwana.
Ungatsho nangakumbi. Thina, eRashiya, sihlawula imali, ngamnye umntwana osandula. Kulungile kakhulu, kwaye akukho nto ingatshoyo apha. Ilizwe elikhuselekileyo, yikho konke. Kwaye kubakho abantu abahlala befunekayo, ngoko sanda. Nangona oku ngokuqhelekileyo sihloko esicacileyo sencoko, kodwa xa wathintele, unako ukuthetha encinane ngesi sihloko. Kodwa oku sele kusesinye isikhathi, kwenye indawo nakwezinye iinqununu.
Ngoko, buyela kumgangatho womntwana kunye nendlela abanye ababini abelana ngayo ngesondo lomntwana. Sithe satsho ukuba amadoda ayamthanda oonyana, kodwa kungekho njalo.
Ngokwexesha leminyaka emininzi yamava, kwaziwa ukuba kukho iibini ezinjalo ezingenzi nantlukwano kumntu wesini. Nangona hayi, ibinzana elingafanelekanga. Akunandaba ukuba ngubani. Bonke abazalelwe, baya kumthanda, kuba lo ngumntwana wabo. Akunjalo, asitsho ukuba abanye abayithandi, kodwa iintsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokufundiswa kwe-ultrasound, umzali unqabile kwaye akavuyi. Kodwa ke baya kuqonda ukuba konke kulungile.
Kodwa kukho nabazali abanomdla onobuchule obesele bafuna nantoni na umntwana, ukuba kwakunjalo kuphela. Abayithobeli ingqalelo ngesini sakhe, ngokufanelekileyo, kunye nophando lwe-ultrasonic luya kwenza nje ngenxa yentshisekelo. Apha njalo.
Kukho ezininzi iintsapho apho isondo kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, bafuna ukugcina igama, kuba liyakwazi ukuphela, okanye nayiphi na isizathu. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngabazali abafuna umntwana wesini esithile. Kwaye ngokubanzi, esi sihloko esibucayi kakhulu kwingxoxo. Yingakho umfazi okhulelwe, kaninzi, uzama ukujamelana nale ngxaki yedwa. Into ebalulekileyo kuye kukuba umntwana akazalwanga egulayo, oko kukuthi, enempilo. Uya kuyika ukuvuma ukuba akayithandi isondo, kuba abantu abazungezile bangacinga ngaye njengabangenabulelo.
Kodwa ungesabi ukuvuma. Musa ukugcina zonke iingcinga ezimbi ngaphakathi kwakho. Kungcono ukuvuma kwabanye ukuba awuhlali ujabule ngesondo, ukuba uzigweba. Ndixelele ukuba unomona omncinci ngalabo oomama abanomntwana wesini esifanelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba, ngokukhawuleza, uvuyo aluqalekanga, ngoko sinokucebisa ukuba udibene neengcali. Awudingi ukuyigcina ngokujulile kuwe, ingaba nefuthe elibi kakhulu kwimpilo yomntwana. Ukuba uqokelela konke oko ixesha elide kuwe, ukudideka ngokukhululeka kuya kuphazamiseka. Oku kuya kuba nefuthe elibi kwabanye.
Musa ukwesaba loo ngcamango, kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Inyaniso ukuba ucinga ngoku kunjalo ayithethi ukuba awuyi kumthanda umntwana wakho konke, akunjalo. Yonke into iya kulungile, kholwani. Ukuba nantoni na, umntwana wakho uya kukhula kwaye akunike abazukulu bezesondo owawufuna ngokwenene. Ngoku, makhe sithethe, ngokwenene, malunga nesihloko sethu, nombuzo othi: "Ziziphi iimpawu abantu abazenzayo kwiintombi? ".
Ukuba umyeni wakho wayefuna inkwenkwe, kodwa akazange asebenze, ngoko kufuneka uyenze yonke into ukuze ungonwabi kuphela. Thetha nomyeni wakhe, cela indlela angathanda ukuphakamisa ngayo intombi yakhe. Zama ukumnika ukukhuliswa kwakhe. Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba ukukhulisa abantwana, ubuchule bezemfundo abufanele bahluke. Oko kukuthi, ukuba umyeni ufundisa ngendlela ethile, ngoko kufuneka uvelise ngendlela efanayo. Kwaye nantsi into ebalulekileyo umdla. Umele ufundise enye, kodwa ufuna kwaye kufuneka uyenze ngokuhlukile. Nantsi inomdla kakhulu. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba amadoda entombi abona iphupha elingagqibekanga. Oko kukuthi, intombi bayayithanda iimpawu ezivela kwindodana. Yiyo yonke inyaniso. Kuba, ekuqaleni, intombi yakho inokukhulela "intombazana encinci", kwaye oku akuyi kuba yisigqibo esona sigqibo, siqinisekisa.
Zama ukuxoxa nomyeni wakho uhlobo lokukhulisa. Uya kumnceda njani kunye? Awufuni ukuba intombazana yakho ibonakale njengenkwenkwana, akunjalo? Yiloo nto .... Ngoko kungcono ukwenza oku kwangaphambili, kodwa nje ungazami ukususa umyeni kwimfundo, oku kuya kuphucula imeko yonke. Umyeni akayi kuthanda intombi yakhe nonke, kuba, ngokwenene, kuye, unayo i-gene. Kwaye uthanda ukuyibona enye kunye nokunyuswa kwakhe. Uhlobo oluthile lwe-zest. Makhe adibanise le nto, kodwa jonga umlingani kunye nokwakheka kwayo, okanye unokuphazamisa umlingana wentombi yakho, okanye unokuyiqondisa kwelinye icala. Zonke ezandleni zomtshato wakho.
Siyathemba ukuba inqaku lethu liyakunceda ekukhulisweni kwentombazana ezayo. Umgaqo obalulekileyo - ukhupha umntwana kunye, kwaye ngoko uya kuphumelela.