Yiba ngowona mhle kwaye uyintanda kuye

Mhlawumbi, zonke iintombazana ubuncinane kanye ngokucinga ngokucokisekileyo malunga nendlela yokuba yinto efanelekileyo kunye nentanda yakhe ngaye, ngenxa yesoka lakhe, ukuba uyazi kwaye uqinisekile ukuba nguwe kuphela, oyingqayizivele, othandekayo kunye noyithandayo. Ungubani na wena-intombazana eqhubeka ephupha, kwaye nje uya kuba nenxaxheba ephambili kwizicwangciso zakhe namaphupha, nokuba yintoni na imeko, unokuhlala unethemba lokuba lo mntu uyaziqhayisa ngawe, uya kukwazi ukuxhasa ngexesha elimninzi , ukunyaniseka xa udidekile, kwaye yonke incumo yakho iya kukhunjulwa ubomi bakho bonke.

Kungenxa yokuba nguwe ophuphayo kuye kuye into eyinyani, inkcazelo yamanqaku ehlaziya imbobo yakhe yobomi bemihla ngemihla enebala. Emva kwakho konke, akukho mntu ufuna ukuba ube ngumlinganiselo ophakathi, isinyathelo ebomini, iinkumbulo ezingaqhelekanga kunye nexesha elichithekileyo, ngexesha apho yonke iminithi ixabiswa nentombazana efanelekileyo kwaye ukukhankanywa kwayo kuqaqambile, kulungile kwaye kucacile.

Kodwa yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuze ibe yinto efanelekileyo kunye nentanda yakhe? Mhlawumbi kukho enye i-algorithm, ezinye iingcebiso? Okanye ube yintombazana enhle kakhulu kumntu othandekayo noyithandayo - ngoko into evela kummandla wefantasy nayo yonke into incike kuphela kwintando yolu daba? Ngokomgaqo, ndicinga ukuba nangona yonke into isezandleni ze-Destiny, ayiyi kulahleka kuwe ukuba uzama ukwenza into ebusweni bakho, utshintshe ngokwakho, utshintshe kwindawo ethile, ukuze umfana athande nawe ngokuphindaphindiweyo . Kuyimfuneko ukuba ube yintombazana-iphupha, i-ephemeral, ifihlakeleyo, iyimfihlakalo. Yiba yinkxaso ethembekileyo, kodwa ethembekileyo.

Kodwa ngoku onke amazwi malunga nentombazana efanelekileyo, intombazana engcono kunye nentombazana ehlabathini, ngelixa bona ngokwabo babonakala banobuqili, kodwa ukuba babe yinto efanelekileyo, kubonakala ngathi, ngumsebenzi onzima kakhulu. Enyanisweni, akunjalo; Isiphumo esifunweyo sinokufumaneka ngendlela elula. Kukhona umyalelo owodwa kuphela owenzayo: mvuyisa!

Indlela yokuba yintombazana enhle kwiqabane lakho

Intombazana eyazi ukunika inzala yakhe injabulo kwaye "iyafana": ikhethekileyo kwaye iyinqweneleka kuye. Umbuzo uvela: yintoni efunekayo ukwenza oku? Indlela yokunikela ngayo, le ntsikelelo engavakaliyo?

Okokuqala: Mhloniphe kwaye umthembe. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuziva uncedo lwakho kwaye anike ithuba lokuba uzive "njengodonga lwamatye." Ufuna ukwazi ukuba uyamthemba kwaye uyicinge ukuba unamandla kwaye unobindi, kwaye uyamthanda. Ungamthobeli kwaye ucinge ngoluvo lwakhe, phulaphule ngokucamngca iingcamango zakhe - kwaye ufanelekile ukuba uthembele.

Okwesibini: Makumqaphele ukuba uyamdinga kwaye uhlala ethanda. Musa ukusoloko umgxeka ngenxa yesisu sebhiya, ukuphazamisa impumlo yakhe kwaye ukhumbule ukuba kukho indawo enjengokuthi "yokuzivocavoca", kwaye ukugubungela indlu yokunyathelisa iya kuba, ngendlela ... kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ufuna ukuba kubonakale ngathi - kwiphepha lephephancwadi. Kulungile makwenze ukuba inkwenkwe yakho ihlale ikhangelekile kwaye iyimfuneko kuwe, kunye neyimfuneko. Makukuncede ngandlela-thile uze uqinisekise ukuba uyamdinga.

Okwesithathu: uthembeke kuye kwaye unganyaniseki. Oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele umxelele ngokubanzi indlela ochithe ngayo imihla ngemihla, kwaye kwithuba lokuqala lokuxelela naye zonke iimfihlo zakhe, ukuphawula kuyo yonke into encinane, uthetha into oyicinga ngesizathu esinye okanye esinye. Wonke umntu uyayazi into yokuba intombazana kufuneka ihlale imfihlakeleyo, kunye nenjongo emva kokuba umntu afune ukumlwela aze anqobe, njengendoda yokumkani. Kodwa, akukho mntu ufuna iimfuneko ezingavumelekanga, iintetho ezingabonakaliyo, ezifihlakeleyo, ubonakaliso obunqabileyo obungabonakaliyo. Awuyi-moose, ukuba uhlala uzingelwa, ubuninzi obaluleke kakhulu buya kuba yinyanisekile kunye nokuvuleka okufunekayo.

Okwesine: Ixabiso labangane bakhe nabazali. Kuyaziwa ukuba izihlobo kumfana - zingcwele, kwaye ubuhlobo besilisa - bunamandla kunamakhotha amaninzi. Akuyimfuneko ukujoyina indawo yakhe kwaye ibe "yintombi yakhe" kubahlobo bakhe. Kwanele ukuqonda umntu omtsha kwaye uphathe kakuhle abahlobo bakhe, kwaye ungalokothi umthobe phambi kwabo, kwaye ukuba kukho ithuba-ngokuchaseneyo - ukuza kuthi.

Okwesibini: Zibukele. Iliso liyavuya nalo mbazana entle. Inyaniso yokuba sele ukhe ukhethe, iqinisekisa ukuba nguwe kwaye ukholelwa ukuba uyintle kwaye unomdla kuye. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba ngoku ufanele uyeke ukuzijonga, ngokuqinisekileyo kuba kufuneka ufunde ngendlela ohlala ngayo. Ukuba nombono omuhle, uya kwenza ukuba kube mnandi kuwe kuphela, ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwakho, kodwa ngokukodwa umntu. Ngamnye kubo ngandlela-thile uvelisa ubuhle. Ngoko qhubeka phambili ubuhle uze ulondoloze ihlabathi!

Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kunye naye, okuthi, ngokulandelelanayo, ingahluka kwaye ibangel 'umdla. Umzekelo, unokuhamba epakini, ukunyuka kweyona ndawo ephakamileyo kwisixeko sakho, tyelela i-cafe entsha evulekileyo, okanye uhlele ipikiniki, uthabathe enye ividiyo ukuze uyikhumbule ixesha elide ngokuhleka. Ubudlelwane buyakwazi ukuphuhliswa ngokuthakazelisa, ukwenza izipho zothando okanye zokudala komnye nomnye: kubhala incwadi kunye nokubhala ivesi okanye ibali ngawe nabahlobo bakho, udwebe imephu ebuncwaneni, ekugqibeleni, ukuba uya kuba.

Musa ukuthatha ulwalamano kuphela njengesiqhelo kunye nomsebenzi, kuba, ngokwenene, unokufumanisa izinto ezininzi ezinomdla kunye neemvakalelo, yenza imihla ngemihla ibanjwe kunye, ekhethekileyo. Kufuneka ukhumbule kwakhona umonakalo owenziwe ngabantu ngokwenene. Oku akuthethi ukuba ufanele ube yi-jester kuye, ongazange adabuke aze ahlekise kuyo yonke into ayithethayo, ngaphandle kokulahleka ithuba lokumenza ahlekise kwiintlungu zomzimba. Kodwa imifanekiso embi ngoku ayinakucatshulwa, kwaye nabani na ofuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nentlekele-ntombazana, ohlala ekhononda ngento ethile.

Funda ukuba ngokwakho, xabisa uqobo lwakho kwaye ukhethe intetho yegolide kuyo yonke into. Ngoko akukho sizathu sokukhathazeka ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo. Kwaye okokugqibela, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu: thanda. Mthande kwaye menze abe nomuzwa wokuthi uyathandwa - kwaye uya kuvuya ngokwenene. Emva kwakho konke, akusiyo yonke into eyimfuneko ukuba ibe yinto efanelekileyo, ngokwaneleyo ukuba ube ngokwakho, ungakhohlwa malunga neenyaniso ezilula ...

Apha oku apha kufuneka ukuba intombazana enhle kumntu: uthando, isigulane nokuqonda. Kwaye ukuba abe ngumfazi onjalo kumntu othandekayo akusoloko kunzima - kuya kuba nomnqweno!