Ngaba kukho enye imeko kwintsapho yakho? Ngaba sele ulungile, kwaye indlu iyinkobe epheleleyo, kwaye iintliziyo zibetha ngokubambisana? Ngaba mhlawumbi umyeni uyesaba ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana kunokuphulaphula ukuvumelana oku? Kwaye uthetha naye, zama ukukholisa umyeni wakhe ukuba abe nezingane, enikela imizekelo yeentsapho apho ukuzalwa komntwana kwazisa iintlobo ezinobulunga obuhle kwiintsapho zentsapho. Kodwa musa ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza ekusebenzeni, kungekhona ngokumemeza kunye nokumangalelwa, kodwa zama ukudala umoya osondelene naye, njengokuba wayencoko yokomoya. Kubalulekile ukudala umoya weengxoxo eziyimfihlo. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba yindlela yokutya ngekhandlela? Okanye uqalise ngaphambi kokulala? Yibhabhise ukuze ukhathaze umlingane wakho, umbandakanye kwingxoxo yengxaki.
Kungcono ukuhlela uhambo ukuya kwendalo kunye nentsapho apho sele sele ikhona abantwana, kodwa kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ungafumani umphumo ochaseneyo. Abanye abantwana babantu bacaphukisa amadoda, ingakumbi ukuba umntwana unengqondo, unxininisa kakhulu abantu abadala. Nilungiselele ngenyameko esi siganeko. Ewe, ukuba ufumana u-ally, phakathi kweentombi zakho, onomntwana ozolile kwaye oguquguqukayo. Hlela uhambo ukuze wonke umntu obandakanyekayo kuyo, ngokukodwa, ukuba kukho imidlalo yokudibanisa yabantwana kunye nomntwana: ukubetha, ukudlala ibhola yebhola, ukuba wonke umntu uyonwabile kwaye unomdla.
Izenzo zakho akufanele zibe nye, kufuneka zicetywe, kodwa zihluke. Ngokomzekelo, ukutyelela abahlobo bakho malunga nomhla wokuzalwa komntwana wabo, ngokuqinisekileyo kungcono ukubonisa umntwana omncinci, kuba ubuso obuncinane abukwazi ukushiya nabani na ongathandangayo. Emva kokuhlwa ngaloo ndlela, unokuthetha ngokucokisekileyo malunga nendlela zonke ezihamba ngayo, ukukhumbuza uhlobo luni lweMaskaka umnichka, indlela ehlekisayo ngayo, indlela enhle ngayo ...
Kodwa nakwishumi elivisayo, unokuhlela izinto ezithile. Umzekelo, ukuba umyeni wakho uthanda iifowuni, okanye uthanda ukudlala, unokufumana intsapho enomfana owazi kakuhle ngesihloko oyifunayo. Hlela umdlalo womqhubi kumnatha.
Ukuba ezi zizenzo azikhombisi kakuhle, ngoko kufuneka uqale ingxoxo ecacileyo, enzulu.
Zama ngethuba le ngxoxo njengoko unokucacisa isizathu sokuba ufuna ukuba nomntwana. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale le ngxoxo, zibuze, ngaba uzimisele ukuba ngumama? Kutheni unqumle ukuba nezingane? Kutheni ufuna umntwana? Ngaba, ngoko, uzama ukuqinisa intsapho yakho? Ngaba ukwesaba ukuba umyeni wakho uya kukushiya?
Cinga, mhlawumbi awudingi ukuchukumisa umyeni wakho ukuba abe nabantwana, mhlawumbi uxabisa ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho kangangokuthi ulungele ukuhlawulela iphupha lakho? Emva koko, abantwana, ngakwelinye icala, bavuya, banonwabo, "bahamba" kunye nokumomotheka, kunye nakwezinye - uxanduva olukhulu kunye nenkxalabo.
Ukuba umntwana uyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho ngenxa yakho, mhlawumbi kufuneka utshintshe i-destiny yakho ngokugqithiseleyo? Ukuba ulungele le nyathelo, faka umbuzo ngomgca "okanye umtshato, okanye umntwana."
Ukuba nangayiphi na indlela ongenakukwazi ukukholisa umyeni wakho ukuba kufuneka ube nomntwana, zibuze yona umbuzo, kodwa ingabe umyeni wakho uyakuthanda? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukubiza ubudlelwane bobubele, apho kungekho ndawo nendawo elula yokuqonda?