Kakade, akusiyo imfihlo ukuba kukuhle ukuqala ubudlelwane nomntu owazi kakuhle okanye ohlala kufuphi nawe. Kule meko, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba ufumane yonke into malunga nomnye nomnye, zonke iingxaki kunye neengxaki zeqabane lakho kwaye ngokubanzi yenza isigqibo - ngaba uyayidinga lo mntu. Kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuba ujonge ngokubhekiselele kwindlela onokuyenza ngayo abafana abakujikelezile (abafunda nabo ekilasini, abafundi kunye nabo, abamelwane). Ukuba phakathi kwabo umntu obangela ukuba uvelwano olucacileyo, zama ukuqala ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo, oya kuqonda le ndoda evela kumacala onke. Umzekelo, yintoni elula, udibana nomfana wesikolo sakho okanye ubacele ukuba bakuxelele abahlobo bakho. Ukuba akukho baviwa abanjalo kwisangqa sakho, ngoko kuyakufaneleka ukukhangela umfana kwinqanaba elithile. Ngoko unokufumana njani umntu obathandayo, obani ofuna ukumelana naye? Eyokuqala, ziqonde ngokwakho ukuba akukho nto engalunganga kwinto yokuba intombazana yokuqala ithatha isinyathelo sokumazi umntu. Iqhinga lakho liyamchukumisa loo mfana ukuba ajwayelane naye, kuba indlela engafanelekanga ngayo, kwaye inxalenye ebalulekileyo yokwakha ubudlelwane, ngokufanayo, kuxhomekeke kumntu. Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukuba wenze okokuqala ngqondweni kumntu, kumdla, ukuzimisa njengomntu onomdla. Konke oku, kuya kumshukumisa, ukuya kuwe ukuze uphendule kwaye uvule umnxibelelwano. Kwaye njengesigqibo, ukuqhubeka kuzo zonke izinto, oku kuya kubeka isiseko sobudlelwane bakho obusondeleyo.
Ngoko, phi kwaye ungayifumana njani ukuba ungumfana, phi na ukubakhangela, ukuba awufuni nje iintlanganiso phantsi kwenyanga, kodwa ulwalamano olunzulu? Oku kunokwenziwa naphi na. Okokuqala, qalisa ukutyelela iindawo apho abaninzi balaba bantu (kuya kubakho ukukhetha). Iiklabhu zemidlalo, indawo yokudlala, amacandelo ahlukeneyo. Ngokomzekelo, unokwenza ubugcisa bokulwa, ukudansa, ukudlala igitare, isangqa sekhompyutha, iinkampani zokuhamba. Apha akufuneki kubekho iingxaki ezikhethekileyo kunye nolwazi, kuba sele uthanda, akunakukuthanda, ukubopha into engekhoyo, kodwa kusenomdla oqhelekileyo. Into ephambili, qiniseka ukucinga ngokucokisekileyo malunga nezinto zokuzilibazisa ozibandakanyekayo ngesibindi. Ngendlela, kumfana othandayo, njalo, kunokwenzeka ukucela uncedo kule nto okanye loo nto. Nangu kuwe nesizathu, kunye neziphumo zayo. Unokuze ujoyine imidlalo yezemidlalo - iya kwimibhobho emibini kwibhola okanye ibhola. Kwiindawo ezinjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uphelelwe ingqalelo kwindoda. Ungalibali ukuthabatha umhlobo. Bonke baya kuba mnandi kakhulu, kwaye ibhunga aliyi kuphazamisa.
Kwakhona, ukwandisa amathuba akho, ungalibali ngeendawo ezifana neeklabhu, ii-discos, iiikofu kunye nemivalo. Xa usebenze kakuhle ngokubonakala kwakho, khawuleza uye kwenye yezi ndawo ezikhankanywe ngasentla. Umoya ophumayo kunye nomoya onokuzithemba kwezi ndawo zikhupha kwaye zenze igalelo kumntu osondeleyo.
Ukuba awuyena umqhubi weendawo ezinomsindo, ke kuwe kukho indlela yokunxibelelana enokuthula kunye neyanamhlanje-inethiwekhi yomhlaba wonke. Ngamhla, ukungazi, nge-Intanethi, kuye kwangexesha elide kungekhona inzululwazi, kodwa nangona kuphikisana nolwazi lube nomncedisi oyimfuneko ekufuneni isiqingatha sakhe sesibini. Kwakhona olu hlobo lokuthandana lunamaphulo athembisayo. Okokuqala, ngexesha lokunxibelelana, unokwenza ngokucacileyo kwisicatshulwa sakho, yenza ingcamango yomntu odibanisa naye, ngokwenza izigqibo ezithile malunga nawe ukuba kulungile ukuthetha ngokuqhubekayo kunye nomhlaba ukuba kubekho intlanganiso ebomini bokwenene okanye ngokusemandleni onke ukuyeka. Okwesibini, unokubanxibelelana ixesha elide, ngaphandle kokucebisana, ukuxoxa, naziphi na izihloko kunye nokwabelana ngeminqweno yakho ngokukhululeka. Emva kokufunda ngokucacileyo iinkcukacha zabafana abahlukeneyo (kunye neefoto kwindawo yokuqala), unokhetha izihlobo zakho ngokwezifiso zakho kunye nembono ebomini babantu. Uthando olufanayo lomculo, iifilimu, iincwadi-ezi zonke izibonakaliso ezilungileyo, ngesiseko apho ungakha khona ubudlelwane obuhle. Kwakhona, olo lunxibelelwano lunokubonisa lonke uhlobo lokudala lomphefumlo womntu, ngaphesheya kweso saziso. Ubomi bakhe, imigaqo, iinkolelo, intando, ongayifumani ngokukhawuleza ngomntu, xa udibana, esitratweni.
Ngendlela, malunga nebuzo lemibuzo yakho kwaye uyinyamekele. Olunye ulwazi malunga nawe, amathuba amaninzi. Ungalibali ukuhlaziya i-albhamu yezithombe. Iifoto zakho kufuneka "zixelele" malunga nobomi bakho, ugxininise indlela ohlala ngayo. Usebenza kangakanani, njani kwaye kuphi, uphumla, uthini na onomdla.
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Ngendlela, ungesabi ukuzama nokukhetha. Njalo thabatha iinombolo zeefowuni kumadoda kwaye, ngokusemandleni akho, shiya inombolo yakho. Okungakumbi, kwiluhlu lwabafana, uphakame amathuba akho okukhetha enye, efanelekile. Musa ukuxhonywa kubuntu ngabanye, ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba kukho ukhetho, ungaphoswa, ukuze ungazisoli kamva.
Kwaye okokugqibela. Ngaphambi kokukhetha indawo yakho yokuthandana, cingisisa ngayo kwaye uzinqume wena uhlobo luni lomntu othanda kakhulu. Yaye ngokuhambelana nale, qiniseka ukuba ungeze kwiindawo zakho zokukhangela, ezinjalo, apho ungasoloko udibana nomntu onempawu.
Yaye ukhumbule ngokwakho - kwindawo yokuqala yokuqala yesibambiso sakho kwimpumelelo, isimo sakho sengqondo kuwe. Kufuneka uhlale ujonge, ugxininise isidima sakho. Musa ukwenza njenge-bitch kwaye ungaze wenziwe. Vula, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo gcina "i-zest" yakho ekhethekileyo. Uya kubona ukuba impumelelo iqinisekisiwe kuwe. Emva kwakho konke, impendulo kumbuzo othi: "Indlela yokuzifumana umfana kunye nalapho ungayifumana khona" - ifakwe ngaphakathi kuwe. Amagqabi ngokwawo aya kuba kwicandeco, eya kuthatha isitshixo kwintliziyo yakho. Umsebenzi wakho uza kuba kuphela ukukhetha eyona nto ifanelekileyo.