Ubuntwaba lixesha lokuzama nokuhlola. Ixesha apho abantwana abadala bekhulile benza izenzo zabo ezinobungqingili.
Kwi-adolescence, kubalulekile ukuguquka kwengqondo kunye nomzimba okuchaphazela i-worldview yayo, izinto eziphambili zezinto zokuphila kunye nezinto ezithandayo. Ngaphakathi kwentombazana iqala ingxabano phakathi kweminqweno namathuba akhe. Umntwana osemncinci, njengomthetho, uhlala eziva ekhululekile, uhlala ecinga ukuba uxinzelelo oluvela esikolweni, oontanga nabazali. Ezi zihlandlo zivame ukutyholwa ngokungaqondakali okanye ukungafuni umnqweno wokuqonda nokunceda. Abanye abazali, belibale ukuba babefudula bekhulile, bayakhohlwa ukuba ngeli xesha ixesha lophuhliso lwabo ngokwesondo luyaqhubeka, ngoko ke, umntwana ochazwayo kufuneka achazwe ngobuqhetseba ngemiphumo kunye nosongelo olusenyongweni lokuqala kwento yesondo.
Ngenxa yesiphumo sokukhawuleza, i-age apho abantwana abaselula bayena ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye nesizukulwana ngasinye sincinci kwaye sincinci. Oku kukhuthazwa yi-propaganda esebenzayo kwimidiya, kunye nemfundo engafanelekanga kwintsapho. Indlela engafanelekanga yokuxoxa ngesi sihloko kunye nentombazana inokuba yinto embi kakhulu kwikamva lomntwana.
Imithetho efuneka ukuba ibonwe ngethuba lokuqala kwesini
- Thetha kunye nomlingane ngokuthe ngqo nangenyaniso. Ungamxeleli "iimbali" ezithinteleyo ukuba uluvo lwakho luya kumnceda ekukhuseleni ubomi besondo. Intombazana ivakalelwa xa kukho into engavumelani nayo kwaye ukuba uyifumana ukuba unikwe ulwazi lobuxoki kuye, kuya kutshabalalisa ulwalamano kwaye kuya kuba Kunzima kakhulu ukuba nefuthe.
- Kule nkcazo, thintela ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo kwesigama, ukuze umntwana aqonde ngokupheleleyo into ejongene nayo, kwaye ufuna ukuthini ukuthetha naye ngamagama akho.
- Musa ukutshitshisa umfana. Usuvele ejongene nobunzima bokuba ngumntu, ukhathazeke ngokuphuma kwamaphupha akhe, kwaye abanye abantu baya kucinga ngaye. Akukho imfuneko ukuvula esi sihloko ngeengxabano zesigxina ngeengozi zokufumana isifo sesisu, imiphumo yokukhulelwa kwangaphambili, ukukhupha isisu, njl., Ngaphandle koko kuya kuvala kwaye ukuyeke ukuthetha nawe kwesi sihloko. Qala kunye nenyaniso yokuba isondo siyinxalenye yolwalamano lwabantu. Kodwa kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba ukusekwa kwenkqubo yokuzala kuyaphela kuphela kwiminyaka eyi-18, ngoko ke yena ngokwakhe kufuneka athathe isigqibo nokuba kufuneka akhuphe "ngokukhula".
- Ukuba ufuna umntwana ukuba athole ingcebiso ngokugcweleyo ekukhulelweni nokukhulelwa komntwana ngexesha lokukhulelwa, mbuyise umntwana ukuba abone i-gynecologist. Uya kutyhila kuye i-biological side of this issue, uthethe ngeendlela ezikhuselekileyo zokukhulelwa. Ngoko umntwana uya kuqonda ingundoqo yembali yale mbambano kwaye abe noxanduva ngakumbi kuwe.
- Ngethuba lokusasaza umntwana uyaba phikisa kakhulu, kuba engayazi into ayifunayo kulo mbandela. Inqwenela enye ithathelwa enye. Kunzima kuye ukuba anqume ngokukhawuleza oko akufunayo ngokwenene kweli xesha kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, oko kulungile. Umsebenzi wakho ukuyichaza. Ngeli xesha, abaninzi abaselula bafuna iingcebiso kule ngxaki, kufuneka bafike baze babuze malunga nantoni na eyithandayo. Sifanele sikwenze kucace kwintsapho ukuba akukho nto ihlazo ekuxoxeni ngesi sihloko kwaye unelungelo lokubuza malunga nalo.
Ukuze ufumane ukuba umntwana usetyenziso oluchanekileyo lweendlela zokukhusela kunye nomzimba wakhe, mbuze imibuzo emininzi ebalulekileyo. Ukuba ezinye iimbono malunga nale nto ziya kuphazamiseka, oko kwenzeka njalo, sixelele ukuba izinto zimi ngokwenene. Ulwazi olungapheliyo olutsha olufumanayo, ubuwula obungaphantsi uya kuyenza kwikamva.
Ukuba "into eyona nto" yenzekile
Umntu ongeyena mvakalelo, okanye ubuntu bakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo akahluphekanga xa ehamba ngokuzithandela ebomini kunye nokusebenzisa izithintelo ngokuchanekileyo. Ukuqhuba ubomi besondo kunye nomnye oontanga ngokuvumelana ngokusemthethweni akukho mpembelelo embi kwi-psyche yabantwana abaselula.
Kodwa kwimeko yokukhulelwa okungalindelekanga okanye ukusuleleka kwisifo se-venereal, imeko iguquka ngokubanzi. Kumntu osemtsha oye wafumana ingxaki efanayo, iphulo elikhethekileyo liyadingeka.
Cacisa ukuba oku kwenzeka nakubani na. Intombazana efunyanwa kwimeko enjalo ifuna inkxaso yengqondo. Usele kwimeko enzima kwaye uxinzelelo lwakho luya kunzima kakhulu imeko.
- Musa ukugweba kwaye ungaboni. Khumbula ukuba ungumzali kwaye wena, kwindawo yokuqala, kufuneka uncede umntwana wakho.
- Musa ukucela ukukhupha isisu sokukhupha isisu. Kufuneka ukuba uqikelele ubuchule kunye nobutyebi kwaye wenze isigqibo. Ukuchaza ngokukhawuleza imiphumo engenzeka yokukhupha isisu.
- Kwezinye iimeko, kubalulekile ukubandakanya isazi sezengqondo esiza kunciphisa ngokukhawuleza isigulane sokuxhalabisa.
Ukutsalana kwesazi sengqondo
Xa useneminyaka engama-10 ubudala, umntwana angasifumana kwisimo sengqondo esiyinkimbinkimbi, ngoko ukuziphatha kwakhe kuguquka ngakumbi. Abazali abasoloko bephumelela ekuchazeni izizathu zezenzo ezinjalo, ngokukodwa xa umntwana eselula esondela ngokukhawuleza kwaye uyeka ukudibanisa. Abadala banokubakhokrola umntu owenza izenzo zobundlobongela kumntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha kuphela indlela eqinisekileyo yokuphuma kule meko inokuba isikhalazo kwisazi sengqondo.
Isiphumo sezenzo zobundlobongela singabonakalisa ekulahlekelweni komdla kwisini okanye ngokugqithisileyo ukuvela kwenzalo eninzi ngokwemida. Umntwana oye waphantsi kobundlobongela ulahlekelwa ngumdla ebomini, esikolweni, ekunxibelelaneni noontanga. Unako ukulahla nokulahleka kwesidlo. Kule meko, ukubonisana nengcali yengqondo kuya kunceda ukuchonga imbangela yokuziphatha okunjalo.
Khumbula ukuba wena njengomzali, kufuneka umncede ukuba ahambe ngendlela engathandekiyo ngeli xesha. Ukuqonda imibuzo malunga nokuqala kwesenzo socansi, abantwana abaselula bayadinga ingcebiso yabantu abadala, nangona bayesaba ukuyivuma.