Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo zengqondo, umntwana uninzi uzama ukwenza ubungane nalowo unempawu ezingavamile kuye. Ngoko kuvela ukuba umntwana onamahloni uqala ukuba ngumhlobo onxungule kwaye onesibindi, othulileyo - ngentetho, intetho ethobelayo kwaye ekhulile ikhetha ukuba ngumhlobo we-intloko kwintendelezo yomntu onokuxhaphaza, kunye nentloni, intombazana encinci inqabileyo kwizithende zomntu okwazi ukupasa umlilo kunye namanzi . Bazali, ngokufunda malunga nobuhlobo, khawuleza niqale ukuxhalabisa: ngaba abanye abayi kuqala ukuphatha umntwana wabo, basebenzise ngenxa yeenjongo zabo ezinzima? Ngaba umntwana wabo ovusiweyo akayi kuba yinto engalawulekiyo? Kwaye oku kuqondakala.
Indlela yokusombulula ingxaki?
Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabazali kwiimeko ezifanayo zenza iphutha elifanayo: ukukhazamisa umntwana ngokuthe ngqo ukuba athethe nomfana othile okanye "intombazana" embi. Kodwa ngale ndlela akunakwenzeka ukuphumelela! Enyanisweni, ukuba umntwana wakho uyidalwa elinyanyiswa nguwe, apho igunya lakho lingaphezu kwezinto zonke kwihlabathi, mhlawumbi. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba abantwana abanjalo baya kuba nabahlobo onjalo ngaphandle kwemvume yakho. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo abantwana baqala ukusebenza nangona kunjalo, ukugcina umntwana usetyenziswe ngamandla - kungeyona indlela engcono yokuphuma. Zilawulwa ngumoya wokuphikisana, kwaye unamandla kunakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uqala ukuthula ngobazana kunye nezenzo zakhe. Uba ngaphandle kobomi bakhe, kodwa ngaba uyayidinga?
Kuya kusebenza ngakumbi kule meko ukwenza okuchaseneyo - ukuvula ngokukhululekile umnyango wekhaya lakho kubo bonke abahlobo bomntwana. Zama ukwenza ngokunyanisekileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuwe. Musa ukuphatha abantwana ngokubandlulula: kuthini ukuba uphosakele ngabo? Ngokukhawuleza, ngokwenene, banomdla obunomdla, ubunjani obuzalisa umntwana wakho? Ukuba ngaba abaphuli-mthetho bamantombazana abaye bavela endlwini, musa ukubamba intloko, musa ukuyiqhuba ukuba ivule, kuba bayangena. Thetha nomntwana wakho ukuze eze kwisigqibo esifanele. Kukho into enokukuqinisekisa: Ubungane obuntwaneni budla ngokukhawuleza. Emva kwekhefu elide, abafana bafumana abahlobo abatsha, kwaye abafaneli bawakhumbule abadala emva koko.
Shintsha umdla womntwana
Cinga: mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uziva ukungabikho kwamandla enkqubela ebomini, kwaye apho, esitratweni, ubomi obunjalo kwaye anikeze? Kukho iintlekele ezimbi (kungekho mthethweni ngokusemthethweni), ukuthanda "ubuhlobo ethuneni" kunye nokuncedana, kunye nomntwana wakho ufuna ukuhamba apho, ufuna ukufumana into entsha? Emva koko zama ukufumana umntwana ovela kwinkampani "isiladonga" ngesimo sesifundo esanelisa umnqweno wakhe wokuzonwabisa. Emva kwakho konke, umntu omdala unamaxesha amaninzi kunegceke "igunya"! Kukho amacandelo amaninzi emidlalo - kungekhona kuphela i-volleyball kunye neHockey, kodwa kunye nekarati, i-go-karting, ibhoksi, imidlalo eyingozi. Ingcono makumququze umntwana useparachute okanye akhuphuke emaphandleni phantsi kolawulo lwabaqeqeshi abanolwazi, kunokuba luyabonakala lungaziwa apho kwaye kunye nobani. Kukho amaqela ekhenketho kunye neentaba, uluntu lwabadala be-archaeologists kunye neepleologists. Kulapho, abantwana bahamba ngokunyuka, bafunde amacangcwaba amfihlakeleyo, bajonge imizila yezixeko ezibhubhileyo. Kunjalo! Mngcipheko? Ewe, ngokuqhelekileyo-kodwa lo mngcipheko kwaye ulawulwe ingozi.
Okanye, umzekelo, ama-scouts. Akunakuba yinto yokuba umntwana engathandi ubuzalwana kunye nokunyaniseka kwabadlali! Ngelizwi, cingisisa, uhambela kwimibutho eyahlukeneyo, fumana ukuba yeyiphi iinqanaba kunye nezibonda ezikuloo ndawo - kwaye hamba! Ukuba awukwazi ukufumana umntwana wakho ubandakanyeka okokuqala - ungakhathazeki. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho akafuni ukunyuka iintaba, kodwa amaphupha e-scuba diving okanye ukhuphiswano kwiziko. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana (nakwishumi elivisayo) abazi into abayifunayo - kulo mzekelo, kufuneka bawancede bakhethe ngokunika amandla abo kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo. Emva kwangoko okanye kamva umntwana uya kufumana "imeko" yakhe.
Kuthekani ukuba umntwana usele nkampani embi?
Izinto ezimbi kakhulu, ukuba intombazana idibene neenkampani ezimbi. Akuqhelekanga kwiimeko xa ulwaphulo-mthetho lweqela lwenziwa ngabaselula abaselula, phakathi kwabanye, kwaye ke abanakukwazi ukuchazela oko kwabashukumisela ukuba baphule umthetho kunye nabo bonke. "I-Herd instinct", "isihlwele sempembelelo" - la magama ngokweengqondo zibhekisela kule ngqungquthela. Isihlwele kulo mzekelo sinamandla amakhulu okungafuni ukumelana nomntwana. Ukuba kukho into efana neyenzekile, umsebenzi wabazali kukufumanisa imbangela. Kwinkampani enjalo, kungenzeka ukuba ngumntwana ovakalelwa kukuba unqatshelwe. Abayiqondi ekhaya, bamdelela eklasini. Yintoni eseleyo kuye? Kuphela ukuthethelela bonke ukudibanisa ii-hooligans ezininzi, ukuba uqinisekise ukuba "unokupholisa" naye.
Uvakalelwa umhlaba: ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene umntwana wakho ukhululekile kwindawo entsha, okanye uyenza nje nje ukuba akukhathaze kwaye yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukulinda de uze ubuyisele kwintsapho? Mhlawumbi, yena ngokwakhe akavuyiswa ngeemeko apho waxoshwa khona, kodwa ukwesaba ukukucela uncedo? Kwimeko, mxelele ukuba awuyi kummangalela okanye umjezise, ekugqibeleni kuza kwenzeka. Ukugcina kwiinkampani ezimbi ongathembela kuphela - umntwana kufuneka azi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba indlu iya kuqondwa kwaye ithandwa ngumntu.
Ukuba intsapho yakho ingenzi ukuzithemba, izibambiso ziza kudlala indima ebonakalayo. Wena ngokwakho uya kutyhoxisa umntwana kulabo abathembela ngaphezu kwabazali bakhe. Ngoko ke, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuba ungayisindisa intombazana evela kwinkampani embi kunye noqhagamshelwano olungathandekiyo ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kwintsapho enobubele kunye nothando. Ngokufanelekileyo, ulwalamano olunjalo luqhelekileyo kulutsha ukususela ekuzalweni kwakhe. Khumbula: akukaze kuphuze ukuphucula, ukubeka ubudlelwane bakho kwindlela efanelekileyo. Unako uhlala wenze abahlobo nomntwana, nokuba sele sele ekhulile kwaye waqala ukwenza izigqibo ezininzi.