Njengomntwana, wayenamathoyizi akhethandayo, ubomi buvuyayo kwaye bukhathazekile, kwakunokwenzeka ukuba ugijime kunye nabahlobo kwisitalato, udlala kwaye ungacingi ngantoni na. Kodwa iminyaka idlulile, kwaye ngokukhawuleza into ethile iyatshintsha, intombazana ayifuni ukuba yonke into ilahlekile, uneminye iminqweno, ufumana abahlobo abatsha, uyathandana, kwaye ihlabathi liye lahluke ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana osemncinci akasaselula, kodwa akayikho umntu omdala, umntu ongafundile. Ngeli xesha, umntwana usefuna ukuxhaswa kwabafundi kubantu abadala: abazali, izalamane, ootitshala, iinkokeli zembombo kunye nabahlobo. Umfana kufuneka abe nomuvo wokuthi uluvo lwakhe kunye neengcamango zakhe ziphathwa ngenyameko, kuphela ke uya kuba nexabiso eliphezulu ngokwaneleyo anokufikelela kuzo.
Ndingathanda ukuqwalasela ngokubanzi iinkcukacha kunye nokuba kuthinta njani impilo yemntwazana, kokubili kwengqondo kunye nempilo. Ingxaki yengqondo yengqondo yintsholongwane enye yezona ngxaki ezibalulekileyo kunye neengxaki zoluntu. Ukuphulwa komzimba kwimpilo yengqondo yabantwana abakwishumi elivisayo kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi: ukuhlukanisa, inkululeko emphakathini, ukuziphatha okungonelanelekanga, ukuxinezeleka, inkohlakalo kuontanga kunye nabazali, inkohlakalo kwizilwanyana, ukuzibulala nezinye iingxaki. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali ukuba banakekele ngakumbi abantwana babo abancinci, ukuthetha nabo, ukuba banomdla kwizinto zokuzilibazisa, amaphupha kunye neminqweno. Impembelelo enkulu kwiingcinga zentombazana ngokungathandabuzekiyo ithonyelwe yendalo: ulwalamano nabahlobo, ofunda nabo, oomtshato, ootitshala kunye neentsapho. Xa beselula, abantwana bahlala benesimo sengqondo esibi, bayalimala kancinci. Yingakho kubalulekile ukukhuthaza intombazana, ukuhlonela iimfuno zakhe nokuba ngumhlobo wakhe.
Enye into echaphazela impilo yentsholongwane kukubukela iifilimu, ukusasazwa, imidlalo yokuzonwabisa yokuzonwabisa, umculo. Iingxaki ezinzulu zesistim se-adolescence zingenza iziganeko zobundlobongela, ubukrakra, imifanekiso yendalo. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko ukulandelela, uluhlobo luni lomculo osemtsha othanda, nokuba kukho amagama angcolileyo kunye namazwi ahlambalazayo. Kubalulekile ukubona imuphi umdlalo wevidiyo omncinci okhethayo, nokuba ngaba uya kubangela ingxaki yakhe yengqondo.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba njani kwaye kuya kuthintela njani impilo yemntwazana kule xesha elilukhuni kuye.
Okokuqala, ichaphazela impilo yesondlo somntwana. Ngeli thuba, umzimba okhulayo ufuna ukufumana inani elithile lamavithamini, kunye namafutha amaprotheni, i-carbohydrates kunye neemaminerali. Ukuba kukho ukungabikho okanye ukukhululeka kwanoma yintoni na into esemzimbeni womntwana osemtsha, iingxaki ezahlukeneyo zempilo zivela. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abaselula banokulahlekelwa ngumzimba, ukungabikho kwe-calcium okanye nayiphi na i-vithamini (ekhokelela elukhumbeni owomileyo, ezinzikhonkwane eziphazamisayo kunye nokulahleka kweenwele), ukuphazamiseka kokutya, i-acne kunye nezifo ezininzi kunye nezinye izifo. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubandakanya ekudleni kwintlekele yonke iivithamini eziyimfuneko kunye nezixhobo ekuphuhliseni ngokupheleleyo.
Imikhwa emihle inempembelelo enkulu kwimpilo yengqondo yabantwana abaselula, eyona nto ibonakalayo yokubhema, ukuxhomekeka kotywala, ukuxhatshazwa kweziyobisi kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweziyobisi. Ukungena kwindawo engathandekiyo okanye inkampani apho abathathi-nxaxheba babo bayabhema, batywala okanye badla iziyobisi, umntwana osemtsha akafuni ukuba "yimvu emnyama" kwaye uzama izinto eziyingozi emzimbeni wakhe. Emva koko ihudula kwaye ijika ibe ngumkhwa, okhokelela kwimiphumo ebuhlungu. Umntwana usemlutha, ongakhokelela kwiingxaki zempilo ezinzulu, kwaye ngakumbi, ukufa. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuqhuba iingxoxo ezikhethekileyo kunye nabantwana abaselula malunga neengozi zokutshaya, utywala kunye neziyobisi, banikeze imizekelo ebomini, kwaye baphinde bajonge indawo yabo, apho inkcitho abayisebenzisayo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, imikhwa emibi ifunyanwa ngabo bantu abaselula abakwenzayo nantoni ngexesha labo. Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba banomdla, kuya kuba luncedo kubaselula ukuba batyelele iibindi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, intombazana idinga ukufumana umsebenzi othile oza kumdla, ukuhamba kunye nokutyhila zonke iitalente zakhe.
Enye ingongoma ebaluleke kakhulu imfundo yesondo yabaselula. Ubudlelwane obusini kunye nobulili obuhlukile, kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo, lunempembelelo enkulu kwimpilo yomntwana oselula. Kubalulekile ukugxilisa kuye isimo sengqondo esilungileyo ngokubhekiselele kwindlela yokuphila enempilo, kuthetha ngokukhuselwa kwempilo yokuzala, kwaye wabelane ngolwazi olutsha malunga nokuguqulwa komzimba ngexesha lokukhulelwa, kunye nokucwangcisa intsapho. Umntwana osemtsha naye kufuneka aqonde izifo ezinzulu ezithathelwana ngesondo, ezifana ne-AIDS, syphilis nabanye abaninzi. Kubalulekile ukulumkisa intombazana yobomi bokuqala besondo, kwaye uthethe ngeendlela zokukhusela.
Kwaye ekugqibeleni ndifuna ukuphawula ukuba ulutsha luzama ukuzimela kwaye alukhuthazekanga xa banomdla kakhulu kubomi babo. Ngoko ke, zama ukuba ngumhlobo omhle "womntwana omkhulu", ungamcinezeli kwaye akukho mzekelo uzama ukubeka imbono yakho kuye. Indlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokunxibelelana lula. Ukuthetha nomntwana osemva kwimeko yokuzola, ngaphandle kokuphakamisa ilizwi lakhe, uya kuziziva eqinisekile kuwe kwaye akayi kuyika ukwabelana nawe ngokusondeleyo. Kwaye, nawe uya kukwazi ukukhokela umntwana osemva kwinqanaba elungileyo, unike iingcebiso, xela ibali ebomini okanye uthethe intliziyo entliziyweni.