Iintsana ezincinci ziintsana. Iintsana ezinkulu ... Ewe, ngokubanzi, sonke siyazi ukuphela. Olu bulumko bulumko luye lwabaxhamla kubazali bezizukulwana eziliqela. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana esondela ebusheni, siyaqala ukuthuthumela. Yintoni eya kwenzeka? Mhlawumbi kusengaphambili ukukhangela kwengqondo yengqondo yomntwana, okanye ingqondo yengqondo, okanye ingqondo yengqondo ... Kodwa enyanisweni, isininzi sisoloko sisidinga uncedo lwengqondo kubazali bentsha, kwaye kungekhona abantwana babo abaqhelekileyo.
Umntwana ungena kwixesha lokukhulelwa: ngokuthe gqolo intombazana iba yintombazana, inkwenkwe yinkwenkwana. Utshintsho lubonakala ukusuka kwonyaka ukuya kwixesha kwaye lwenzeka phambi kwamehlo ethu. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa nje sibona utshintsho olwenziweyo. Umntwana uyavalwa kwaye uthule. Iphephe inkampani yabazali bakhe, bakhetha ukuba yedwa egumbini lakhe kwaye balalele umculo. Abazali kule ngxaki bakhawuleza ukukhawuleza ukunceda umntwana wabo, becinga ukuba "into engalunganga kuye." Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama ukunceda njani - bayathukuthela baze bamemeza ngokukhawuleza: "Ewe, ndilungile! Yiyeke! "Kutheni? Ewe, kuba zilungile. Thina - abazali kufuneka bavume ukuba abantwana bethu abasabantwana kwaye banelungelo lokuzimela. Ewe, kuyavakala ukwethusa abaninzi, ngakumbi abo baxhomekeke kunonophelo loomama. Kodwa eli xesha lihlala ebomini babo bonke abantwana. Ubuncinane, kufuneka ukuba. Umntwana osemva nje ufuna ukuhlala yedwa kwaye aphile ngokuzimela kubazali.
Umntwana okhulayo ufuna ukuba ngumntu kwaye ahluke kwisihlwele. Wenza izinto ezingavamile, ukhangele indlela yakhe kwisambatho, uthetha ulwimi "ezahlukeneyo" kwaye ezininzi iingcamango ezikhethekileyo zivela entloko. Ngexesha elifanayo, bahlanjululwe ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ngeengcamango nemibuzo, iimpendulo azifunayo phakathi kwabahlobo kwaye abaqhelana nantoni na. Kutheni? Ewe, kwakhona, kuba ufuna ukukhula. Ubomi obuzimeleyo kuquka ukwenza izigqibo ngaphandle kwabazali, oko kukuthi, ngokuzimela. Njengokuba asizange sizive sisichukumisayo kwaye sikhohlakele.
Ziziphi iingxaki eziphambili abazali abachaphazelekayo ukuba bajamelane nazo?
1. Unqwenela ukuzimela.
Le ngenye yezona zihlandlo eziphambili ebomini bentsha. Abaxhomekeke ekuchazeni ukuba bakuphi kunye noko bakwenzayo, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo kubangela ukukhusela kwethu kubazali - abazali. Ixesha lokufika kwikhaya liyakhuphaza kwaye licasula umntwana okhulile. Uyabona oku njengophula amalungelo. Kwaye ngezinye iindlela ulungile. Phantse wonke umzali, engamfumani umntwana ekhaya ngexesha elithile. Kuthatha ingqwalasela eninzi kunye nexesha lokujongana nemeko ngokubanzi, ukuze ungamvumeli ukuba umntwana azive ekhutshelwe kwaye engancinci. Khumbula - xa unqabela, ngakumbi baya kukufihla. Emva koko, sonke siyazi ukuba mnandi "isiqhamo esinqatshelwe".
2. Ukukhula komzimba.
Le nkqubo eqhelekileyo ihlala iqhuba uxinzelelo kubazali. Ngaloo nto, abantwana abaselula bahluke kakhulu. Omnye uvuthwa ngaphambili, umntu ozayo kamva. Kodwa kukho impawu zesondo zesiseko.
Njengomthetho, ukutshatyalaliswa kwamakhwenkwe kumakhwenkwe kunobundlobongela. Bahlala behlanjululwa ngcamango yezesondo, kwaye bakulungele ukwenza nantoni na ukulahlekelwa ukungabi namacala. Le yinkqubo yangaphakathi kwinqanaba le-hormone, leyo leyo nkwenkwe ayikwazi ukuyenza ihlale ihlala nayo. Kwaye kuyimfuneko ukujamelana nayo? Emva koko, lo myalelo wabuya ukwenzela ukuba ukukhangela kwavela ngexesha elithile. Ngoko, makube njalo. Iimvumi zoononopopayi kunye ne-masturbation ziba yingxenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bentsha. Oomama abaninzi, nangona kunjalo, basabela ngayo ngokuhlambalaza kwaye bafuna amadoda abo (ukuba kukho) "ukuchazela inkwenkwe ukuba oku kubi." Kwiimeko ezinjalo akukho ndawo ukuba ukhumbule uncedo lwengqondo kubazali bentsha. Emva koko, izenzo ezinjalo zingakhokelela ekubunjweni kweengxaki ezinzulu kunye nokwenza ukuba umntwana ovalwe ngakumbi kwaye avuthele. Cinga kakuhle, ngaphambi kokuba ulahle umntwana wakho ukwenza oku. Qonda ukuba bonke abantu ngokufanayo bafana, kwaye kuyaqhelekile ukuba bacinge ngesondo kwaye bayifune.
Ngamantombazana, imeko iphosakeleyo. Ngamnye wethu ukhumbula ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukuthatha le nyathelo - ukugqiba ngokusondelana nomntu. Amantombazana akanalo isidingo esinamandla sokwenyama ngokwesini, kodwa ngovakalelo bafumana imeko ngakumbi. Njengomthetho, bathandana nenkwenkwe efuna ubudlelwane abathile. Kule minyaka, kudla njalo kwenzeka ngaloo ndlela. Le nkwenkwe iyimfuneko, kwaye intombazana iyavuma ngenxa yokwesaba ukumlahleka. Kule ngongoma, ukutshatyalaliswa kwentombazana kumntwana kubaluleke kakhulu. Emva koko, imiphumo yokusondelana nentombazana inokuba yinto engathà sina kunokuba yinkwenkwana. Uyakuqonda oko kusemngciphekweni. Nguwo umama omele achaze intombi yonke ukubaluleka kweli xesha, ukubaluleka kokwenza izigqibo ezinjalo. Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uxelelwe iinkcukacha ezincinci malunga nento eyenzekayo ebomini intombi yakho. Kwaye unonophelo olunzulu apha, nanto, nakuyo nayiphi na into. Kodwa ufanele ukwazi ukuba xa unengxaki uza kuba ngowokuqala ukuba intombazana iya kucela icebiso. I-Scandals, izibambiso kulolu hlobo aluncedi. Kubalulekile ukuba ngumhlobo kwintombi yakho kwaye uyakwazi ukumkhusela kwimpazamo enokuba yindleko kakhulu kuye.
3. Ubunzima
Abazali bafundela ukuba "mama" onothando kunye "nobaba" kwaye ke kunzima ukuba bahlukane nabo. Sifuna ukuzinikela okufanayo kunye nokuthobela, kungenakufuna ukuqonda ukuba oku kuhlazisa ubuntu bomntu osemtsha. Umntwana uyaqhankqalaza, kodwa akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ufuna nje ukuvakala kwaye ngenxa yoko uzama ukuzivakalisa ngokukhawuleza njengoko kunokwenzeka. Ukongezelela koko, ukungakhathali kwethu kubo, ngokugqithiseleyo bayazikhusela i-"I".
Nawuphi na uvavanyo olutsha luyinselele kubo, kwaye kuphela ke kwabanye. Abazenzi oku kuthi ngenxa yobubi, bafuna nje ukufunda oko banako ukukwazi. Banike ithuba lokwenza iphutha! Maye bazame ukubetha ulwimi okanye benze umdwebo - emva kwexesha baya kuqonda ukuba bekuyimfuneko kangakanani okanye ayimfuneko kubo. Ekugqibeleni, ngoku unako ukulungisa malunga nantoni na intsha "budenge". AmaTattoos ngokulula kwaye ngaphandle kokulandelwa kuncitshiswe yi-laser, izikhenkce zisuswa ngabagqirha beeplastiki, iinwele zeentloko zifakwa ngohlobo lwabalandeli abanamathole.
Wonke umntwana osemtsha kufuneka ahambe kule nkqubo enzima. Banoyolo abo bazali, abantwana babo bafunde ukucombulula iingxaki zabo. Oku kuya kuba luncedo kubo kwikamva. Kubalulekile ukuba akukho sikhala phakathi kwakho nomntwana ngenxa yezihlazo eziqhubekayo ngeli xesha. Yiba nomonde kwaye uxolele. Emva kwesikhashana umntwana wakho omdala uya kukubulela.