Uthando lubonakala ngenye indlela umntu azijonga ngayo omnye okanye abanye, ebonakaliswa ngothando olujulile kunye novelwano. Uthando luhluke: unomdla, unesisa, ungabonakaliyo, ulwalamano, umama, unobungane, unobuntu, unothando. Kodwa nokuba kwakunjani, uthando luhlala luthando, kwaye ubukho balo abukwazi ukuphikiswa okanye ukuphikiswa. Abanye abantu abathandanga ipensela kwi penny, kodwa ngokwenene uthando aluxabisekanga. Zingaphi iimbongi, abaculi, abaculi, abalobi bahlabelela emsebenzini wabo wothando, maxesha amaninzi ukubathanda kwabo kwakuyimyuziyam yokudala ubugcisa. Abaninzi, ukususela kwixesha elide ukuya kwiintsuku zethu, bazama ukugqiba intengo yangempela yothando. Kwaye ukuba unokwenza oko, awukwazi ukuthanda uthando, kuba uthando alukwazi ukuqonda!
Bangaphi abantu-bevela kwiinkwenkwezi ezidumileyo ukuya kubantu abafayo abalahlekelwa iintloko zabo ekuthandweni kunye kunye neentloko zabo yonke inzuzo yabo okanye ngokungafaniyo, bangaphi abantu ngenxa yothando abagqithiseleyo kunye nabanye, banqoba ihlabathi lonke ukuba bazuze omnye umfazi omnye.
Iyintoni intengo yangempela yothando lwethu? Ithegi enexabiso lentengo eluthandweni lalitshitshiswa ngabantu abaninzi: ngakwesinye icala, ukudideka kunye neentlothi ze-courtesans ukususela ekuqaleni kwale misebenzi yasendulo ukuya kwiintsuku zethu, apho umrhumo onokunika ithuba lokuba "ujabulele uthando." Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abathandana abanothando bamazimba amabhinqa, abaluxabisekileyo lwabo uthando abalufumanayo lusekelwe kuphela kwiimeko zabo zempahla. Kodwa ngaba lo lulo thando okanye luyinto nje imfuno ye-ego kwiminwaba yenyama?
Uthando lunye lwezihloko ezidumileyo phakathi kweengcali zefilosofi, i-sexologists, iingqondo zeengqondo kunye nesi sihloko soloko siphumelela ukubonakalisa ifilosofi kunye nesiqhwithi semvakalelo, wonke umntu wayefuna ukuba nolwazi oluxabisekileyo luthando, kwaye ndiya kuthi njalo, uthando lufanelekile ukuphila, kwaye ubomi bunzima, ngoko ke uthando luxabisa . NjengoHelen Hayes, umdlali we-American actress, wathi, "Inyaniso kukuba kukho enye ixabiso eliphezulu-uthando," kwaye ndiyavumelana nale nto, kwaye akukho ntlawulo yothando, kwaye kukho kuphela abaqeqeshi abazixabisayo kwaye baninika abanye / abanye abantu, befumana kubo ngokubuya, nabo, bathanda.
Zonke iimpawu eziphathekayo abazithandayo bafumana omnye komnye zibulelo kuphela ngenxa yothando olwamkelekileyo okanye olwamkelweyo. Uthando alulinganiswa ngandlela naluphi na uhlobo ngobunxibi, i-real estate okanye iinqwelo ezixabisekileyo, uthando kufuneka luhlale entliziyweni ngamnye kuthi, kwaye kuphela umntu othanda ngokwenene unokuthi intengo yothando ayikho ngemali kwaye ingekho kwizipho, uthando alukho umrhumo! Ngubani na oya kucinga ukuba uthando lungayalwa njani? Ukuba sibuyela kwisihloko samakhrenti, abayithengisi uthando, kodwa umzimba wabo.
Awukwazi ukucacisa intlawulo evela emphefumlweni wethu nasentliziyweni, awukwazi ukufumana ixabiso lesahlulo sakho sesibini, awukwazi ukuthenga okanye ukuthengisa uthando. Uthando luya kuzalelwa kuphela, luzalwe emphefumlweni ngoncedo lweentliziyo ezimbini zothando kunye nonyaka okanye ngemini kufuneka kube ngaphezulu, kodwa kungabi ngaphantsi. Musa ukukholwa ukuba uthando lufa kwiminyaka emithathu okanye kwiminyaka eyisixhenxe, ungakholelwa ukuba uthando lunokuthengwa kwaye luthengiswe! Uthando luhlala emphefumlweni ngamnye wethu.