Indlela yokulahla uthando olungathandabuzekiyo kumntu ?
Ekuqaleni, unomnqweno wokulahla uthando ngonaphakade, ungaze uvumele le ntliziyo ehle entliziyweni yakho. Kodwa awukwazi ukwenza oku. Umsebenzi oyintloko ngeli xesha ukuyeka ukuthanda umntu ongagqithanga, ukulahla uthando oluvutha intliziyo. Kodwa ukuba wenza oku, kufuneka ugcine ithuba lokuphinda ufumane unyanisekileyo.
Okokuqala, okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuyeka umnxeba "ugqirha". Ngaphambili uqale wambiza kuye kwaye uthe cwaka, kuphela ukuva ilizwi lentanda yakho, kwaye waxhonywa. Ngeli pozavonachivat. Inyaniso kukuba ngokudayela inani lomntu ongenakuziva, uphinde uthathe isilonda sakho. Ngomzuzu xa uthatha ifowuni ukuva ilizwi lakhe, shayela, ngokungathi awufuni, inombolo, umzekelo, umhlobo. Ziphazamise intetho engenamacala ngokuzenzela, malunga nabaqhelana nabo, njl njl. Kwakhona, ukunxibelelana ngobubele kunye nento yokubandezeleka, ukuba kukho, kunqweneleka ukuba ungabandakanyi ixesha elide.
Okwesibini, zama ukwenza ngaphandle kweempawu ezimangalisayo. Umzekelo, ukuba ungafiki, ndiya kubeka izandla zam phezu kwam, njl njl. Iziganeko ezinjalo azikwazi ukukhokelela kwinto enhle. Akukaze kwenzeke ukuba umntu adibanise nabani na ngokunyanzela ngoncedo lokunyanzeliswa kunye ne-blackmail. Akwacetyiswa ukuba ufonele kumntu ukuba abe nomsebenzi. Inyaniso yukuthi ngombono wothando akukho mntu ufunwa nayiphi na into. Ngaphandle kwayo imbopheleleko kumfazi kunye nabantwana. Kubalulekile ukugcina loo mfazi kwiimeko zokuzithemba kunye nokunyamezela. Kodwa xa uwedwa - ngesibindi vumela iimvakalelo zakho kunye neinyembezi zihamba, ungazihlanganisi kakuhle.
Into yesithathu omele uyenze ukukrazula uthando kukuba kufuneka ulahle yonke into edibanisa nomntu (iifoto, izinto, izipho) ngaphandle kokuzisola. Ngethuba elithile, mhlawumbi ngonaphakade, ngelanga, kufuneka ubeke eceleni abahlobo bakho abavela kwisangqa sakho sabahlobo, ukuze uxolo lwakho lwengqondo. Kwakhona, uyeka ukuthetha nabo bantu bazingca ngokuzikhumbuza njalo. Oku kuya kukunceda ukuphepha iingxaki ezingenasidingo kunye nentlungu.
Into yesine yokwenza kukuzibandakanya ngokuzizonwabisa ngendlela enokuba ungenayo ixesha lokuzibandezeleka. Emva koko, ngokweengcali zengqondo, iindlela ezintsha zokususa uthando ngoncedo. Musa ukuzibandakanya emsebenzini ongenamsebenzi, njengoko uncedisa kwingcamango yento yokubandezeleka. Ngako oko, yenza izinto ezahlukeneyo kwimisebenzi yakho. Khangela izinto ezithandwayo ezithatha iingcamango zakho kwiindawo eziphezulu, yenza abahlobo abatsha kunye nabo. Unokwenza ukudansa, ukufunda ukudlala izixhobo zomculo, ukuqala ukudweba, ukubhala, njl. Ukuba kukho into engasebenzi, ubhale iikholeji zokuqeqesha, umzekelo, ukudansa, ukudweba, ukwenza, njl. Ukunciphisa amandla othando, uya kufunda ukudala into enhle. Kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu, uthando luya kuhamba, kwaye uya kuba ne talente, mhlawumbi, iya kuba sisiseko sobuhlobo obutsha.
Okwesibini, kufuneka uqale ukuzithoba. Ngeveki, musa ukuphuma ebhedini ngaphambi kokutya, jonga ifilimu ethandekayo, yithenge i-melee, uye ekhonsathini yebhanki yakho oyintandokazi, mema abahlobo bakho kwaye uhlele iphathi. Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba iifilimu ozikhethayo ukuba zibukele zingakugxothi kumntu nganoma iyiphi indlela. Kwindoda ofuna ukuhlala kuyo, kwakungekho umqhubi weqela oya kulo. Ekugqibeleni, lixesha lokutshintsha umfanekiso wakho. Ukutyelela i-beauty salon, zithenge izinto ezintsha, utshintshe iinwele zakho, uthenge iintlaka ezintsha, oziphuphayo. Kufuneka ube ngumntu ohlukileyo, kwaye ukukhathazeka ngothando olungathandabuzekiyo kufuneka kushiywe kumfanekiso omdala.
Okwesithandathu, ukulahla uthando olungathandabuzekiyo, zama ukwenza okulandelayo. Thatha iphepha kwaye uzame ukuchaza zonke iimpawu ezilungileyo zamadoda omthandayo. Iinkcukacha ezithile kufuneka zibhaliswe. Yintoni into enhle malunga nokudumisa kwakho, yintoni eyakhangisa ingqalelo yakho? Kutheni lo mntu ufanelekile uthando lwakho? Wenzani na kwaye ufeze ntoni? Ukuba sele unesicatshulwa sesithathu kuya kubakho ubunzima, kuyafaneleka ukuba ucinge ukuba uyazi umntu ngokuthandana. Mhlawumbi, wanikela loo mntu iimpawu ezifanelekileyo kwaye wawabathanda. Zama ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakho ephepheni, uze uzihlalutye. Iingcali zengqondo zithi iimvakalelo, zityhulwa ngephepha, zilahlekelwa ngamandla.
Ngesixhenxe, musa ukuyithintela imvakalelo yakho. Awudingi ukwenza umntu acinge ukuba uyonwabile xa ufuna nje ukuhlala wedwa kwaye ukhawuleze emkhombeni. Vumela ukuba uphume ngokupheleleyo ngamava amaninzi, ngoko ke uya kuvuleka kwiimvakalelo ezintle. Kwakhona, awukwazi ukuwela kwiimeko ezixinezelekileyo, ukunikela umona onjalo. Ukuba uqokelele ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwakho, ungashenxisa omnye ngezandla zakho, uyavuya kwaye uthembekile.
Ukuba uthelekisa zonke ezi ngcebiso, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphelisa uthando lomntu ongenithandiyo. Ngexesha elide, uya kukhwankqiswa yintoni oye wahlupheka ngayo ngale nto. Khumbula ukuba nguwe yedwa ebomini bakho, umntu onobomi ebomini bakho unokuba luninzi. Into ephambili ayikuzifihla kwaye ungangeni ekudakaleni, kodwa funda indlela yokufunda kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi.