Ngokuphuhliswa kwexesha langoku ubomi kunye nokusilela rhoqo kwezinto ezibonakalayo, ubuninzi abathandana nabo babhekene nobunzima, obonakalayo, ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kude. Imibuzo engunaphakade ihlushwa intombazana enothando namantombazana - oko kuya kwenzeka ntoni emva kobudlelwane babo, iimvakalelo? Ngaba kuya kuba nolunye uthando, luxhomekeke kwizilingo zexesha kunye nokuhlukana? Ukuqinisekisa ukuba idatha kunye neminye imiba ekhoyo ingekho, sebenzisa elula kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukugcina ulwalamano oluqhelekileyo.
Umthetho wenombolo 1. Thatha yonke into ngokukhawuleza
Kakade, akulula, ngakumbi ekuqaleni kokuhlukana, ukushiya yonke into njengoko kunjalo. Kodwa kukho umda we-medal. Akayikho konke ukukhulula kule xesha kunokuba wena. Unalo isigaba esitsha ebomini, umsebenzi omtsha, owaziwayo. Nawe akufanele ulale emva kwentuthuko uze udibanise ngokuzenzekelayo ukungathandabuzeki ekhaya. Kufuneka uzinyanzele ukwenza izinto ezifanayo imihla ngemihla, ngaphambi kokuhamba komntu othandekayo. Ukuze wenze kube lula, ingqondo ithi kuwe uyona nto ibhetele okanye iyona nto iphambili kuyo yonke iplanethi, kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ukwahlukana yinto eyingcipheko eya kuphelisa emva kwangoko.
Umthetho wenombolo 2. Fumana ithuba lokuthetha nomhlobo wakho
Nangona into endiyithandayo kwinqanaba lobomi likude nawe, fumana ithuba lokuthetha rhoqo ngeemvakalelo zakho, iimvakalelo ezikhulayo kwiqhwa okanye ezinye iziganeko ezikukhathazayo ngentsasa, imini, ngokuhlwa nangobusuku. Mbuze malunga nokubonakala okutsha kwindawo entsha, kunye naye okwazi ukufumana abahlobo, baqhelane naye, zama ukungaphuthelwa kwimizuzu emfutshane yexesha elikhululekile, kuba ubomi bufutshane kakhulu ukuba bungabonakali ubunzima bakho kunye namandla kwiinkcukacha zobundlobongela kwaye ngubani othanda ukuba ngubani kunye nabangaphezulu. Ngombulelo wokuphuhliswa okukhawulezileyo kwezibonelelo zenkqubela phambili ezifana ne-intanethi, i-Skype, i-ICQ, i-SMS, i-imeyile, nokuba nje ifowuni eqhelekileyo kunye namanye amaninzi "amacandelo" anamhlanje, amathuba okuqhagamshelana nomthandwa wakho anesisindo. Ukuba awukaze ufunde ukusebenzisa zonke izipho zobuchwepheshe be-IT, kuya kuba yinto engafanelekanga ukuba ithathe isifundo ngokukhawuleza. Esi sifundo siya kukunceda ukuba usinde ixesha lokuhlukana ngokukhawuleza, kwaye izakhono ezifumanekayo ngokuqinisekileyo ziya kuba luncedo kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi, kuba inkqubo yekhompyutha iya kuba ngamazwe.
Umthetho wenombolo 3. Tshela isiqingatha sakho esithandekayo igama elithi "Thina"
Nangona ukuba amadoda ayengaphantsi kwengqondo kunabesifazana, kodwa akukho mntu wonakalise iimvakalelo zabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo qhagamshelana nesiqingatha sakho sesibini, ngaloo ndlela udale iszoloboty kunye nokuphefumlelwa. Emva kwakho konke, kuyinto enomdla kumntu ngamnye ukuva igama elithi "thina", kunengxoxo eqhubekayo malunga ne-blouse okanye i-receiver oyithengekileyo, ungaboniswanga, kodwa uyibeke phambi kweqiniso. Unokuphinda uhlele iveki edibeneyo okanye ikhefu elizayo. Into eyona nto kukuvumela ukuthanda kwakho ukwazi ukuba uyayithanda kwaye ulinde ngomonde.
Umthetho wenombolo 4. Thatha i-hobby entsha
Ukwenza ishishini njengesiqhelo, ungakulibala ukuphucula imihla ngemihla, ukukhawuleza ukuphazamiseka kwiingcamango ezibuhlungu zonke ezihambelayo. Ukufezekisa le njongo, thabatha i-hobby entsha okanye umdla. Yikholelwa ukuba unako, ngokuqokelela konke ukuthanda ukuya kwinqanaba lokulwa, ukuze wenze ngcono, ubulumko, ulungele ngcamango yento okanye ukuba isiqingatha sakho sikubona njani. Yiyiphi enye into efanelekileyo - ukuba yintsimbi okanye umloli ozama ukugcina uxolo kwengqondo kunye nokulinganisela? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ulwe nenjongo yolonwabo, ngoko ke, qhafaza ijelo elitsha kumntu oyithandayo okanye ungene emagqabini, ufunde ulwimi lwangaphandle, kwaye mhlawumbi ubabini okanye abathathu ngexesha elinye. Unamandla ngakumbi ngosuku lwakho, kungekudala ixesha lokuhlukanisa liya kudlula.
Umthetho wenombolo 5. Bonisa ukuzithintela kwizitatimenti kunye nakwindlela yonkxaso inkxaso
Musa ukuhlambalaza nantoni na into oyithandayo! Khawucinge nje, unokuziphatha njani kwindawo yakhe? Imeko entsha yomzi womnye umntu okanye ilizwe livavanyo olukhulu kumntu oshiye kunye nabanye ukuba balinde lo mntu. Cinga ngexesha elihle lokuhlukana, nangona kukho ezimbalwa zazo, kodwa ke uzama ukuzigcina ezandleni zakho kwaye akukho nhlobo yokuphumla kwaye ungabi nantoni-ukubeka iimpawu ezimbalwa ngoku nje kungasweleki isiqingatha sakho. Bonisa ukuzithintela kwizitatimenti zakho, kuba ukuphula isibopho sasezulwini kulula, kodwa kunzima kakhulu ukuyixhuma.
Ndikholelwe, kuya kuba yithuba elincinane, kwaye mhlawumbi uya kuhleka ngezinye iimeko ezinxulumene nokuhlukana. Kwaye, njengoko besithi, kuya kuba ngcono ukukhumbula oko ukukhumbula ngomhlalaphantsi okanye ukuxelela isizukulwana esincinane, kungcono ukuba ungavumeli ikikhikhshybok ukuba iphume kwimeko ebizwa ngokuthi "ukwahlukana" ngumnqoli, kungekhona owanqotyisiweyo.