Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuzithemba kwakho. Kanye kunye nento yonke kufuneka uyikhumbule ukuba ungumfazi weklasi eliphezulu, kungekhona wonke umntu onokukufumana. Yonke indoda ifanelekile ukuba ibe yakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, abafazi benza iphutha lokuba bavumelane nabathandekayo babo kuzo zonke izinto. Oku akunakwenziwa. Ukuba ubude usondelele, ungawudluli, ungakhethi uthenge indlu yokuhlala, uze ucebise. Indoda kufuneka ihlale inokukhuthaza ukuqhubela phambili ubudlelwane.
Musa ukutshata umtshato ukuba awuyiqondi kakuhle. Ingubo emhlophe, ivenkile kunye ne-limousine - oku, kunjalo, kulungile, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi indoda yamaphupha akho. Xa ude udibana, izinto ezinokumangalisa ngakumbi zingakuzisa ubomi. Ubudlelwane kunzima ukwakha, nangona kunjalo kunzima nakakhulu ukuhlukana ngenxa yokungavumelani encinci nalowo waba ngumthonyama. Naka ingqalelo kuzo zonke iintlobo zezinto ezincinane kwizenzo zamadoda. Musa ukuphulaphula oko akutshoyo. Njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, ukuba umntu uthi akafuni abantwana, akuthethi nto. Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana wakho ebonakala, ngaba amadoda anzima kakhulu ayamthanda. Ngoko ke, yonke into ayithethayo yokuba uyatshata kuphela emva kwe-30, ukuba akayithandi abantwana, ukuba ukhetha i-blondes phantse njalo i-maximalism, ekugqibeleni idlula.
Amadoda ayenqikazi ukuthetha malunga nomfazi wakhe uya kuba njani. Uphulaphula nje! "Umfazi uya kuthi mnogotovit nsuku zonke," "Andiyi kumvumela ukuba agqoke iingubo ezimfutshane" - oku kunokuba unamxelela kaninzi ukuba unxibe i mini kwaye ungakuthandi ukupheka. Ucinga ukuba ithetha ntoni ukuba akayi kutshata nawe? Hayi, ayikho. Oku kuthetha ukuba akaxolisi ukuthetha malunga nenjongo yakhe, nokuba ngaba awuhambisani naye.
Unganqikazi ukuyivavanya kwakhona. Ndixelele ukuba ukulungelelanisa kwakho kufuneka usebenze malunga nendlu, ufumane uninzi kwaye ungaphuzi ibhiya. Vumela i-pomuchaetsya kwaye ucinge, nokuba ingaba konke kulungelelaniso lwakho. Ukuba unomgaqo okanye umbandela obaluleke kakhulu, qiniseka ukuba usixelele ngawo. Amadoda ashintsha kakhulu, ngoko unelinye ithuba lokufumana uthando olutsha.
Akuyimfuneko ukudibana nomntu onobukrakra okanye ngeenjongo zamabutho. Kwimeko yokuqala, ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva awuyi kumhlonela, uze uyeke ukuthanda nonke. Okwesibini, khumbula, uthembise kwaye unikezele-kungcono kunokuba nje indoda ekhuselekile. Akunqabile oba ngumlawuli kwi-25, ngoko ungafuni yonke into kanye. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ufuna ukufezekisa into ebomini ngokwakhe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ufanelekile kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ngaba inkwenkwana yakho iyazi ngale nto? Cinga oko akubonayo? Ngaba ubukela uchungechunge imihla ngemihla kwaye ulungiselela ukutya? Yiphosa ngokukhawuleza. Ndiqinisekile ukuba uyazi ukupheka kwaye ulungile. Ukuza ngokukhawuleza nge-hobby ezoba zibaluleke kakhulu. Bazoloba kunye nebhola, ukuzingela kunye neemoto. Khumbula, ngeliphi izwi elikushoyo "oku kungcwele." Makhe kwaye unayo, umzekelo, "ukuqina kwamaxesha amathathu ngeveki - ingcwele." Ubuncinane, uya kumangaliswa ukuba xa uxabana naye, usenokufumana ixesha lomdlali wezemidlalo, kwaye ungabhidi inyawo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngelixa umfazi efuna ukukhanga, uyavuma iphutha eliphambili. Uzenza nje ukuba ufuna ukwenza into, kodwa eqinisweni ufuna ukumbamba iqabane lakhe kwaye agcine iithebhu yonke imini. Ngokwemvelo, ngexesha elifanelekileyo, umfazi uphosa umsebenzi wakhe. Ngoko ungamangalisi ukuba ngokukhawuleza uza kuqala ukuhleka ngendlela yokusula iiveki njengendlela yokuzivocavoca nokukhupha ngaphandle. Kufuneka ufumane ubomi boshishini, makube ngumsebenzi okanye uvolontiya, ukuba uyonwabile.
Emva kokuba uqinisekisile ukubaluleka kwakho, uyazihlonela, uyeke ukugxininisa emtshatweni. Yingakho amadoda ebanjwa. Yenza isipho kumfazi onokuphila ngaphandle kwakhe - le iphupha labo. Amadoda afana nabasetyhini abangenalwazi, abanokuzithemba kunye nokwanelisayo. Musa nje ukuwela kwelinye umtya kwaye ungabi yindoda kwi skirt. Qhubeka ube mnandi kwaye unomdla, unobuthakathaka kwaye unobumnene, ukuze uhlale unamandla kwiqela lakho.
Ewe, abaninzi abasetyhini namhlanje baqinisekisa ukuba ukutshata akusiyo injongo, loo msebenzi ngowona nto. Nangona kunjalo, emva kweminyaka embalwa, sibona bonke aba bafazi bavuyayo kumyalelo ongunaphakade kwaye banakekele indlu. Into ehlaselayo yinto yokuba abo abangazange bafune ukutshata nabo bakuphumelele. Kodwa amantombazana athulekileyo acinga ngentsapho enkulu, ahlale yedwa kakhulu.
Ukuba ungumfazi othembekileyo onomvuzo omhle, mhlawumbi awufuni konke oku. Nangona kunjalo, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uthando oluyinyaniso lufunyenwe, kukho umnqweno wendalo ukuba ube njalo kunye ne vezderyadom. Kwaye ngaphandle kwesibonelelo esisemthethweni se-uyvas siya kuba yimeko nje "yokuhlala."
Into ebaluleke kakhulu xa intombazana ithi ifuna umntwana, kodwa ayifuni ukutshata. Ungalokothi utshele nabani na. Okokuqala, ukuba uyabathanda abantwana ngokuzimela, kutheni ungaphupha ukuba nobawo? Okwesibini, ukuba umntu wakho uyayiva, uya kukujonga ngenye indlela. Awukwazi ukuzihlonela ukuze umntu anike ithuba elincinane lokukhulelwa, kodwa akazange enze isipho. Yiqhube ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uvavanyo lokukhulelwa lunike umphumo omuhle, kwaye wathi, siya kulinda de "kunjalo." Kukho iindlela ezimbini kuphela, uya kuhamba kwaye angabuyi, uya kushiya aze abuyisele ngendandatho. Awudingi ezinye iindlela, uyazihlonela.
Isiphumo sokugqibela saliphi na intetho isenzo. Injongo yakho ephambili kukuba ujabule, kuba yiyo yonke into abantu behlabathi abazama ukuyifumana. Ukufuna umntu oza kukubetha, ngenxa yakhe uya kuba ngumhlobo othandekayo nonokuthenjwa kumfazi wakho othandekayo. Kule ndlela ungaphila ubomi ophuphayo ngawo.