Nangona kunokwenzeka ukuphikisana ngobudlelwane obude. Njengoko uqeqesho lubonisa, ubudlelwane ekude kunokuba lukhona kunokuba lukhona. Abaninzi abakholelwa ukuba uthando olunjalo lukho konke, abaninzi banokuthi akukho buhlobo kwaye akunako. Ingaba umntu onde ixesha elisekude ukusuka kwintando yakhe yothando, njengokungathi akazange athathe inxaxheba kunye nentanda yakhe? Ebomini, nayiphi na imeko inokwenzeka. Kwiintsuku zethu ezinzima, ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda achitha ixesha elide kude nosapho, ezama ukufumana imali. Ewe, uthando nobudlelwane buhlala, kodwa intsapho ilapho? Emva koko, le yimfundo ehlangeneyo yabantwana, okungenakwenzeka ngaphandle kokuhlala kwindoda nomfazi. Umntwana kufuneka abone ukuba bobabini abazali basondele - kuphela kule meko intsapho ingabizwa epheleleyo. Amava abonisa ukuba ezinjalo iintsapho, apho umzali omnye engekho ixesha elide, kungekudala uza kutshatyalaliswa.
Ezinye iibini zitshatileyo ziya kubudlelwane obude kumgama, ngoku kungokwesiko ukubiza umtshato weendwendwe. Ngokweengcinga zabo - ukuhlala kunye nokuhlala kunye nokutya kunye nokuzinza kudla iholide yobomi. Ngoko ke, ixabiso kunye nokuhlonelana komnye nomnye zilahlekile. Kwiintlobo ezininzi zengqangi, kunye neengqungquthela zomhlaba, olu hlobo lolwalamano aluqondakali, kwaye ngoko aluvunyelwanga. Uthando luhlala kulwalamano olunjalo, nangona iibini ezininzi ziqondakala.Kwaye izinto ezinjalo zothando kumgama ubomi bukhokelela kwimimiselo eninzi. Kuphela indlela yokudibanisa kunye nombono wokuthi umthandwa wakho ulala ngokwahlukileyo kwaye awukwazi ukuwamnceda, emmbathisa ngengubo efudumeleyo, xa elala phantsi ukuze afunde iphephancwadi aze alale ngokuqinile, aphephe njengomntwana omncinci. Mhlawumbi ufuna nje ukuba uthathe kwaye uqonde ukuba ayifuni. Umntu owubonayo yonke imihla owawukhathalele ngayo abayi kuba khona ixesha elide. Kodwa kuyo yonke into kufuneka ufune ipros! Ngoko, uya kuba nexesha elininzi lokukhulula, onokuyisebenzisa ngeenzuzo ekubonakaleni kwakho okanye unikezele ngomzuzu ongenalutho kwizihlobo okanye ngabahlobo.
Inyaniso yokuba awukwazi ukubonana ayithethi ukuba awuyi kuthetha. Ngethuba lethu, ubudala bekhnoloji ehamba phambili, kukho inamba enkulu yeendlela zokugcina ukuxhumana. Ukuhlukana nawe, njengaphambili, unokwabelana ngamava akho namava amatsha ebomini bakho.
Ngokwahlukileyo, umbuzo ovulekileyo kulwalamano, ngumcimbi wokuthembela. Kwimeko apho umgama phakathi kwakho unqunywe kuphela ngeenyanga, kodwa nangeminyaka, kukho ingozi yokungcatsha, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba uthando luye lwadlula, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ulwalamano olusenyameni luyinkqubo yemvelo yendalo. Oku kukusilela okukhulu kunxulumano olude.
Ngoko, nokuba ubudlelwane obude kunokwenzeka, kuya kubini kwiqela elilodwa ukugqiba. Xa isahlukanisa, iyanceda kakhulu intlanganiso, eyaba yeholide lenene ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezivela kwiimvakalelo eziqokelelwayo. Kwaye intengo yexabiso linye liphezulu kakhulu. Kwaye mhlawumbi ukwahlukana, oku kuvivinywa kwamandla. Emva kokungabikho ixesha elide, kunokuba nzima ukutshintshana kwakhona. Ngoko sakha uthando lwethu nolonwabo.