Izicelo zabathandwa okanye indlela yokufumana isiqingatha sesibini?

Xa siva umbuzo othi: "Ziziphi izicelo zakho zintanda?", Ngokukhawuleza sicinga ngendoda egqibeleleyo ekhwela ihashe elimhlophe, ibambe iqhosha elithintelayo kwaye liye elide liye kwinqaba yakhe enhle ... Yonke into amazwi. Ebomini, yonke into ihluke ngokupheleleyo, kwaye iinkosana azifumaneki, ngokukodwa iinkosana zamahhala. Bonke abantombazana, njengamadoda, bafuna ukufumana umphefumlo wabo. Ngamanye amaxesha kuthatha iminyaka, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha imizuzu emibini. Yonke iyure ejikeleze kuthi kukho inani elikhulu labantu, amaqabane asemandleni, esiqhelana nabo ngokungaqapheli ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo. Ngoko ziziphi izicelo zethu kubathandekayo okanye indlela yokufumana isiqingatha sesibini? Fumana umlingane womphefumlo, endikuthanda ukuhlala kuwo ubomi bam bonke akulula, kodwa ndifuna ukuba umntu osithandayo ahlale kunye nathi, alungele ukukunceda nokuxhasa. Ungamfumana njani? Abanye abantu bayakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwemigudu, ngandlela-thile ngokwabo. Ngokomzekelo, bakhula ndawonye, ​​benza abahlobo, bafunda, kwaye ekugqibeleni bazalana kwaye baba yintsapho enobungane.

Kwaye abanye bachitha ubomi babo bonke befuna umlingane wokuphila ... ngamanye amaxesha bayifumana ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bayashintsha amaqabane afana neiglavu. Kwaye ke, ngokubanzi, ngokubanzi, ngaphandle komgudu, hlala uhlale ekhaya uze ulinde ukuba imozulu ivela elwandle. Kwaye kukho iimbopheleleko ezinjalo ezisebenza emsebenzini abazikhumbule ngobomi babo kunye neentlanzi ezidlulileyo. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo banelisekile ngezinto zonke, kwaye abafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na. Iingcali zengqondo zithi kuphela umntu ohlala entlalweni, ozolile kwaye onomdla ekukhulumisaneni, kuphela ukuba unobomi obuqulekileyo. Apha ukhumbula iziganeko ezimbini zobomi ezenzeka ngokwenene. Kukho uhlala kuyo enye intombazana enhle kakhulu neyentliziyo. Kodwa andiyifumananga ndiyindoda. Unyaka sele usetshenziselwe ukukhangela iqabane lomntu, kwaye ufumane ingxoxo yendawo yendawo. Oo, bangaphi abahlukeneyo kwaye bahluke ... Andifuni ukukhumbula, kodwa ngelinye ilanga waqalisa ingxoxo nomfana omnye. Kwaye ngelo xesha wayesele minyaka yakhe yokuqala eyunivesithi. Cinga ukumangaliswa kwakhe xa lo mntu ephuma esikolweni sakhe, nje ngeklasi efanayo.

Ukucinga, bafunda ndawonye iminyaka eyi-11, baza babona emva kwe-13 kuphela. Kodwa babenemiphefumlo emibili ngokwenene, baqondana ngesigidi-magama. Kule meko ibonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba le ntombazana izimisele ngokuzikhethela izicelo ezisisiseko kumntu akhethiweyo. Kwaye ndafumanisa. Ngoko yonke intombazana kufuneka ikwazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni na umntu ofuna ukuyibona emva kwayo. Awudingi ukujonga i-macho, akusoloko umntu olungele ukuhlala nawe kude kube ngumdala. Le ntombazana ifumene umntu oqhelekileyo ngokujonga, kodwa eshahleni kunye nomlingiswa, akaqinisekanga kwaye uyamthanda kakhulu. Lo ngumzekelo wenyaniso yokuba awudingi ukujonga indawo ephuma ngaphandle, jonga ngaphakathi kumntu. Sithe sathetha ngabantu abalungiselelwe emsebenzini. Kwaye kukho imizekelo emininzi. Enye intle, kodwa intombazana ethobekileyo yayihlala nabazali bayo. Wayesebenza kanzima, kodwa kuphela umfana wayengekho.

Ukuhlala ekhaya, akazange aye kuma-discos kunye namaqela. Kodwa ngelinye ilanga wagqiba ekubeni a tyelele. Wabizelwa kwintlanganiso enye, apho wadibana nendoda enomdla. Wayemdala kunabo iminyaka emihlanu, kodwa into eyakhawuleza yabatsala omnye komnye. Kunzima ukutsho kanye, kodwa kwakuyintsimi. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayibonakali, kwaye emva kweyure yendibano yayivele nzima ukuba baphile ngaphandle komnye. Kwaye imeko ezinjalo zidla ngokukhawuleza. Bonke bahluke kwaye asikwazi ukuba yintoni na kwaye siza kudibana nomfana okanye intombazana yamaphupha ethu, kodwa, okubaluleke kakhulu, akuze kuphele. Izicelo zabathandekayo zinyamalalala ngokukhawuleza, ukuba udibene nomntu wakho kunye nentombazana okanye intombazana, ngaphandle kwakho okanye obomi bakho buyimfutho. Unokukhangela umntu ocebileyo, kodwa uya kufumana umntu olula ofumana ama-bucks angama-400 ngenyanga, kodwa uya kukuphatha ngezandla. Okanye uya kudibana nomntu oshishino, kodwa uya kuchitha iiyure ezimbalwa kunye nawe ukulala ... Uya kukhetha ntoni? Yintoni oyenzayo? Ingaba ukhetha izicelo zakho okanye uthando lokwenene: ngulo mbuzo?