Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umfazi otshatileyo akanakuqonda ukuba yintoni umyeni wakhe enokwenza ngayo intsapho. Inani leengxabano landa kwaye le ntokazi inquma ukumbonisa umntu osemnyango. Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza xa isigqibo siphuthuma kwaye intanda ifuna ukubuyela?
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Ukuba unesimo esibucayi, musa ukukhawuleza. Ngaba ufuna ukubuyisela umthandi wakho? Kule meko, yima, zama ukuqonda ngokucacileyo imeko, uqonde ukuba yintoni impazamo yakho, kwaye uzame ukuphuma ngendlela yokuphuma kwimeko.
Khumbula ukuba zonke izenzo zakho kufuneka zibe nenjongo. Kwimeko echasene nayo, umphumo wempembelelo enokuthi iyenzeka.
Kodwa ingaba njani kwimeko ethile? Apha kuya kufuneka uthethe ngokunyanisekileyo nawe ukuba uqonde oko utyalombileyo kwinto yokuba indoda ayikho nawe ngoku. Ekugqibeleni, nguwe owamcela ukuba ashiye!
Nceda uqaphele ukuba ukuzikhumbuza kwakho akuyi kukhokelela kuyo nayiphi na into enhle-uya kungena nje ingxaki yakho, kunokuba ukhethe kwaye uqonde ngokucacileyo oko kuxhomekeke kuwe.Njengoko ungakubona, le ndlela ikuvumela ukuba ufumane ngubani olawulayo imeko kwaye loo nto ibhinqa kwimeko nguyena oyisishukumisayo esikhulu songquzulwano, imeko yexhoba yona khetho olubi kakhulu.
Okokuqala, zama ukukhumbula ukuba umyeni wayebi kangangoko wayebonakala kuwe. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abafazi bacinga ngolu hlobo kwaye bawukhumbule kwinqanaba lokungabikho. Inyaniso kukuba, sisoloko sicinga ukuba umyeni uwile ngothando, unika ingqalelo enganeleyo, ayikho nto ivelisa iintyatyambo? Nceda uqaphele ukuba oku kungekona oko kukuthi, kodwa oko kubonakala ngathi kuphela. Kwaye khawucinge ukuba zingaphi izinto ezinomdla ezinokuthi "zicinge" inkumbulo yowesifazane.
Ngenxa yeemeko ezinjalo ngaphambili, siyeke ukuqonda into eyiyo kwaye siqale ukuhlala nokulindela. Ukuziqhelanisa kubonisa ukuba indlela enjalo iphela.
Emva koko, kukufanelekile ukukhumbula into enyanisekileyo eyenziwe ngumlingane wakho xa usesehlangene. Ubomi obudibeneyo ngumntu oqhelekileyo kunciphisa kakhulu into ebizwa ngokuba ngumngcipheko wobuninzi kwizenzo zakhe ezilungileyo. Ngamanye amazwi, ukuba ngowomnyaka wokuqala wobomi obatshatileyo, umfazi wayenomdla kuzo zonke izibuko okanye isipho sintyatyambo yakhe ethandekayo, emva kweminyaka emininzi yomtshato kuvela ukuba kukho kakade kuncinane kakhulu i-roses.
Ukuze bahlale belo hlobo kwaye baqonde iimpawu ezilungileyo zomntu othandekayo, izazi zeengqondo ziye zavela kunye nokusebenza okulula: kunele ukubhala imihla ngemihla kwincwadi enokuthi umyeni ulungile ekuhambeni. Masithi umyeni wam uhlambe izitya zakhe-amlethe i-fat "plus", wathatha ukuhamba epaki kunye nomntwana - wathola omnye umqondiso. Ukuba kungekhona uvila, emva kweveki ezimbalwa ungabona indlela isimo sengqondo sakho kumyeni wakhe siya kutshintsha.
Enye impawu yenkwenkwezi yesetyhini ephazamisa ukusebenzisana okwakhiwe kunye namalungu obulili obuhlukile kukuba ulindele ukuba umntu aqikelele oko sifuna kuye.
Ukuba ukwakha ubudlelwane ngale ndlela, kuvela ukuba umntu uhlala efuna into, kwaye okwesibini uyaphoqeleka ukuba agijime njenge-squirrel kwisondo ukuze ahambisane nale mfuno. Vumelana ukuba umdlalo onjalo kumnini, ugqithise inkosikazi kunye nekhoboka lakhe uya kuthanda kuphela abo bazimisele ukuthobela umthetho. Ngaphezu koko, kutheni umyeni ahlale ejongene noko akwenzileyo, kunye nezo zilindele ukuba akavumanga? Ngokwakhiwa kwintsapho, kufuneka uqonde kwangaphambili ukuba ubudlelwane obuhle ngeke busebenze, kuba kulo mzekelo unjalo utyalomali, ngelixa elinye lenza njengomthengi, linganiki nto kumlingani wakhe.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba indoda iphinde isondele kuwe, kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukubuyela kubuhlobo obusendambini, ukuze umlingane, ongekho ixesha elidala, abeke isandla sakhe emngceleni, umhlobo wabo wangempela. Kucacile ukuba akulula kakhulu ukuguqula imeko ngale ndlela, kodwa ukuze ubeke izitena zokuqala kwindawo esezantsi zobudlelwane obuqilileyo, kuyimfuneko:
- Ukuvuma kum kunye nomyeni wam ukuba wenze inqaku leempazamo ezinkulu. Enyanisweni, ungalindelanga ukuba umthandayo unqamle ngokukhawuleza ukuba amkele kwaye abuyisele ngeesethikithi ezipheleleyo. Nangona le ndlela ayiyiyo kuphela.
- Yeka ukucinga ngeemeko. Ukuba ungathanda ukufumana iintyatyambo kumyeni wakho, kodwa akakwazanga ukufunda izicamango zakho, akukho mpazamo yakhe. Cinga bhetele malunga nento onokuyinika yona iqabane lakho.
- Zama ukufunda ukubona izinto ezincinci ezintle kwaye uzibonge zisuka entliziyweni.
- Zama ukuba nenomdla kwiingxaki zomyeni wakho, fumana ukuba umsebenzi wakhe usemsebenzini, into ahlala kuyo, oko akufumanisayo, into aphuphayo ngayo.
Nceda uqaphele ukuba ezi ngcebiso zinikezwa ngokulandelana okuthile. Kuya kuba mnandi ukuba ulandele ngokucacileyo iphuzu ukuya kwinqanaba, kwaye ke umathuba wokubuyisela umyeni uya kunyuka kakhulu.