Ewe, ukuba uyabuza umbuzo: unokwenene ngokwenene kwiminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu ubudala ubudala, abaninzi baya kuphendula ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa, wonke umntu uyaqonda ukuba kwinqanaba elineshumi elinesihlanu, sinobuqhetseba kwaye sijonge ihlabathi ngokusebenzisa iiglasi ezinemibala. Kodwa kuthekani ngenyani? Uneminyaka engakanani ongayithanda ngokwenene? Kwaye ngokubanzi, ngaba ubudala buchaphazela oko ufuna ngokwenene ukuyithanda?
Kungenzeka ukuba amandla okuthandana akuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yobudala, kodwa ekukhuliseni, ukuqonda kwehlabathi kunye nengqondo. Abanye abantu kunye nabangamashumi amathathu abaqapheli ukuba abanye bayayiqonda njani kwiminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu. Kwaye oku akusoloko kuthintwa yimo yentlalo kunye nolwalamano nabazali. Apha sithetha ngomxholo woxanduva.
Abaninzi abaselula kwiminyaka elineshumi elinesihlanu bayakhala bekhala ngenxa yezinto abazithandayo. Kodwa luhlobo luni luthando? Ngokuqhelekileyo kulo nyaka wonk 'ubani uya kuthandana neminqweno. Ngokukodwa iintombazana. Ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo kukho imigangatho eyahlukileyo. Ngoku ungumfana onokuzikhethela, kodwa kunokuba udinga ukuthanda ummeli wenkcubeko engaqhelekanga omele ukuba adlale kwi-band, skateboard, abe ngumpaki okanye abe nebhayisiki. Umfana onjalo unokubonisa abahlobo bakhe kwaye akuxelele ngendlela omthanda ngayo. Ngenxa yoko, unokukhala ebusuku uze ukhathazeke ngenxa yokuba akayithobeli. Kodwa, ngokwenene, uthando olunjalo luqulunqwe. Kubonakala nje kumantombazana ukuba kufuneka abathande kwaye bafuna iinjongo ezibekwe yi-Intanethi kunye nomabonwakude. Iimvakalelo ezinjalo zikhawuleza. Ewe, kukho iimeko ezibuhlungu xa ulutsha luzibulala. Kodwa, enyanisweni, oku akubangelwa kukuba babenothando lokwenene. Ngokulula, abantwana bafuna ukutsalathisa ingqalelo baze bazingqineke kwihlabathi lonke ukuba abahlali banovuyo, kuba akukho mntu uyabathanda.
Kukho ezinye iimeko xa ulutsha luxhalabile ngokwenene ngenxa yeemvakalelo zabo. Kodwa kule minyaka, umxholo othi "uthando" ulungelelwano olulinganayo kunye nombono othi "bathanda." Ewe, eneneni, intombazana inokuthanda inkwenkwe, kwaye ufuna ukuba naye. Kodwa kunzima intombazana encinci icinga malunga noko kuya kwenzeka emva kokuba iphupha lakhe lifezekile. Ewe, isizukulwana samhlanje sikhula ngokukhawuleza. Kulo uncedwa ngumngcipheko ongenaziphazamisi wolwazi, apho ingqondo engumncinci engayazi ukuyihlunga. Ingxaki kukuba abantwana abaselula baqala ukuzibandakanya noko babone kwiikrini zamehlo. Kwaye oku: ukuvunyelwa, ubudlelwane obukhululekile kunye nokunye. Abaqondi ukuba uthando lunomthwalo omkhulu. Kwaye inembopheleleko ayiyonto kakhulu, ngokomnye umntu. Emva koko, i-Fox yathi ngokufanelekileyo kuyo yonke imisebenzi edumileyo: "Sijongene nalowo oye watyunjwa." Abantu baxhamla ngothando, kwaye xa beqonda ukuba abanako uxanduva lomntu wabo bomtshato, bavelisa ubuhlungu. Ngomncinane, amava anjalo abuhlungu gqitha. Kodwa abatsha abayayiqondi le nto. Ukuqhawula kwenyanga kunye nebhiya ebhentshini-yindlela uthando lwabo lubonakala ngayo. Akaziqondi ukuba ukusela nokutshaya akupholi. Yaye ukuba umntu othandayo eziphatha ngale ndlela, akafuneki ukuba adumise aze amthande. Ngaye kufuneka uxhalabe. Lo mzekelo ungomnye walezo zinto ezingacatshangwanga malunga ne-15.
Kodwa, ngaba bonke abatsha banomntwana? Enyanisweni, kukho ukungabikho. Kukho abahlakaniphileyo abafana abangafaniyo iminyaka. Aba bantu banako ukuthanda ngokwenene. Kwaxa bebancinci baqonda ukuba ukutshaya nokusela akupheli nhlobo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le ntombazana inxibelelana nabafana nabasetyhini kunye nabalumkileyo abenza ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye bengabonakali. Kwakhona, aba bantu abaselula abakhethi bakhethe umfana ngokwemodeli esungulwe yindlela yokugqibela yefashini yoluntu yanamhlanje. Bathatha ixesha elide ukuba bakhethe umntu onomdla kubo, njengomntu. Kubo, loo mfana akaselona elinye ithuba lokuziqhayisa kwiintombi zakhe. Lo ngumntu ocebayo kwixesha elizayo aze akhe ubuhlobo obunzulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngokudala, izinto ziza kutshintsha, kwaye uthando luya kudlula. Kodwa, nokuba kwakunjani, ngaloo mzuzu inene ngokwenene, kuba intombazana iyaziqonda uxanduva lwayo onalo. Akayi kuvuyela ukuba inkwenkwe yakhe itywala iibhotile ezintandathu zebhiya ngaphezu komhlobo wakhe kunye neeklasi zokuhamba okanye izibini.
Ngokuphambene noko, uya kuzama ukumnceda ukulahla imikhwa emibi kwaye uqinisekise ukuba akaqali izifundo zakhe. Ezi ntombazana zibuhlungu kakhulu. Bade baneminyaka eyi-15 baqonde oko kuya kubaluleke ngokwenene ebomini, kwaye yintoni eya kutywala njengothuli.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, benza iimpazamo, kodwa abazami ukubonakalisa kwihlabathi lonke ukuba banobulumko. Ngokuphambene noko, bakuphulaphule iingcebiso kubahlobo abadala kunye namantombazana asebekhulile abanamava kwaye banokucebisa into ethile ngokufanelekileyo. La ma ntombazana ayinanto engathandabuzekiyo phezu kwezinto ezincinane, okanye, ubuncinane, zama ukukwenza. Ukuba umntu omthandayo sele ekhulile, bazama ukufikelela kumgangatho wakhe, bakhule, baqonde kwaye bancede bonke abantu kunokuba banako. Ngamanye amaxesha, kwezinye izinto, aba bafana banokuba nobuchule kunabantu, abadala kunabo kwiminyaka emininzi. Kakade ke, ngezinye iindlela bahlala bengabantwana, kodwa ukuziphatha kwabo kuhluke kakhulu kwihambo yabalingane abaninzi. Ngendlela, njengombono wehlabathi. Ezi ntombazana, ukuba ziyimfuneko, zingangena kumntu omdala, apho kungekho nkonzo yokhathalela abazali, kodwa kukho ubomi, iingxaki zemali kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi abantombazana abangacingi ngazo. Bahlala bezama ukuxazulula iingxaki zabo, bafunde ukufumana imali, baze bajonge ihlabathi ngeglasi ezikhanyayo, banokucinga ngokuqinisekileyo. Bakhulile phambi kwabanye kwaye ngezinye iindlela kuluhlu. Kodwa kwelinye - oku kukudibanisa okukhulu. Aba bafana abasenokubabathanda ngokwenene kwiminyaka elineshumi elinesihlanu, kuba iimvakalelo zabo azilona ithuba lokuzifakazela kunye nento yokubonisa. Le yimeko yomphefumlo apho bazimisele ukufunda, ukutshintsha nokunikela.