Kukho nakwabasetyhini kunye namadoda phakathi kwabantu abanengqondo yokuziphatha kunye nesimo sengqondo kwihlabathi. Ukuba indoda nomfazi banezinto eziqhelekileyo, oko kungakuqala kobuhlobo. Imbono yokuba ubungano ngaphandle komntu ongaqhelekanga akunakwenzeka, kunokubambisana nenyaniso kumaxesha angaphambili, xa indima yabesifazane ibandakanyeka ngokukhawuleza ngokuvumelana "nembono ephezulu". Kwaye ngoku kumazwe amaninzi asempuma, akukho nto ingabakho ncokola ngayo nawuphi na ubuhlobo nomntu, ngakumbi umfokazi. Kwamanye amazwe, umzekelo waseFinland, umfazi angaya kwikhofe okanye kwibha yedwa.
Ebusuku, banelungelo lokukhetha iqabane lomdaniso kwi-men. Ngamanye amaxesha iindawo zokudlela zilungiselela ukuhlwa, xa ilungelo lokumemela ukudansa kuphela kubafazi. Emazweni athuthukileyo, abaninzi abasetyhini banamhlanje sele behamba kunye namadoda abandakanyekayo ebomini bentlalo, kwishishini, banamaqela amaninzi okuphambana phakathi komsebenzi kunye nexesha labo elithile. Ngenxa yoko, abafazi banamhlanje banengqondo eyahlukileyo kwihlabathi kunabo babengaphambili. Abasetyhini abaninzi banakho ukukhulula ubudlelwane obungaphandle komtshato, banelisekile kwaye banikezelwa, kwaye ngoko ke, kunye namadoda ngokulinganayo.
Ubuhlobo obungenazo izibophelelo zingabini kunye nomntu ongaqhelekanga, ngoko kunye nabadala abaqhelana nabo, nangona abafazi banemvakalelo kwaye baphatha izinto ezininzi ngokuhlukileyo kunamadoda, oku kungabathinteli ukuthetha kunye nokwenza abahlobo kwiminyaka emininzi. Iminqweno yabasetyhini inxulumene nayo yonke into ejikeleze kuyo, lo bubuchwepheshe, nemidlalo, kunye nezopolitiko. Akunabo bonke abasetyhini abanamakhaya abanesicwangciso se robot ekhishini abangacinga nje ngokucoceka nokupheka kokutya. Nangona bethetha ukuba abafazi abazi ukuba babe ngabahlobo, akunjalo, ngakumbi ukuba akukho nto yokwahlula. Ngenxa yoko, ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho bunokuhlaselwa ngenxa yendawo engendawo, ukungabikho kwemali, ingqalelo kunye nezinye iimeko. Yaye ubuhlobo, kubandakanya ubuhlobo nomntu ongaqhelekanga, ngokwenene, kuba akukho ziingxaki zasekhaya phakathi kwazo. Enye inkolelo yokuba abafazi bazibona kuphela kwindoda yomfazi, inkosikazi kwaye ngoko bonke ubudlelwane bazama ukunciphisa umtshato. Ngokwenene, mhlawumbi kunjalo, kodwa kukho uluhlu lwabasetyhini apho ubuhlobo nomntu bubangela ukuba aziphathe ngendlela ebonakala ngayo.
Ukuxhomekeka kwamabhinqa kubonakaliswe ubudlelwane phakathi kwabasetyhini kunye namadoda ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kukho a mabhinqa abaya kwimidlalo yezemidlalo kungekho konke ukuze "bathathe" i-chevalier ngexesha elithile, kodwa uthetha nje, baxoxe ngomdlalo abawuthandayo, babelane nabo ngokukuqonda kwabo. Indoda engaqhelekanga ilungileyo ukuba ukuthetha naye akumthinteli ukuba aqhubeke nobudlelwane.
Ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi buphazamiswa yimilinganiselo yamandulo, njengabo bonke "amadoda angabesifazana" kwaye awanako ukuqonda ibhinqa ngaphandle kwezinto zobudlelwane bezesondo.
Umfazi uyisicengqondo sengqondo kwaye uyakwazi ukugqithisa izinto ezahlukeneyo, mhlawumbi, ukuba umntu uthi kumhlobo wesetyhini - "Bonke abafazi bayisiphukuphuku", umhlobo onobuqili oyingqondi, nangona uya kuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba umhlobo uya kuqonda kule meko. Ubuhlobo ngaphandle kokuzibophezela phakathi kwendoda nomfazi abanako ukuhlonipha omnye kwicala elinye. Ubudlelwane phakathi kwezidalwa zesini esithandanayo kunye nobuntu abunqabile nje ukuba buhlobo, kodwa umntu uhlukile kwizilwanyana, ukuba uyisidalwa esicinga ngayo, kwaye ucinga ngomntu wesini esahlukileyo kungekhona nje into yokuxhatshazwa kunye nokuqhubeka kwentsapho, ngoko ubuhlobo obungenazo izibopho phakathi kwendoda engaqhelekanga ibhinqa liyakwenzeka.