Inyaniso endala ithi indoda ayikwazi ukutshintshwa. Nangona kunjalo, yonke intombazana emphefumlweni inethemba lokuthi mhlawumbi yena, intanda yakhe, akafani nabanye abantu. Kuthekani ukuba uphumelela ekutshintsheni? Zonke iintlobo zothando zamabali abahlobo kunye nabaziyo malunga namandla omlingo wothando, oluguqulela kakhulu umntu, luyomeleza le themba kuphela. Ngombulelo ngokufanayo, amaninzi amabali adibeneyo, umfazi uzama ukuqonda ubunzima bakhe obude kumntu ococekileyo, ngelixa ephethe izizathu ezininzi zokuziphatha okungalunganga.
Ukuqala ukuhlala nendoda, ibhinqa linyanzeliswa ukuba lihlale likulwela nezilungiso zakhe. Kulo mzabalazo onzima, akukho xesha okanye amandla okufumana unonwabo lwesikhathi esabelane ngaso. Kukho uluvo kuluntu ukuba ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha imeko, ungazama ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo kuso. Ngokomzekelo, umlinganisi ombi uloyiko nje kuphela nje ngokuba sicinga oko.
Yintoni "isimboli esinzima"?
Amagama omntu onzima kakhulu ukuba ahlangane nommandla omnye, kuninzi. Ngokuqhelekileyo ebomini bemihla ngemihla unako ukuva ezi zinto zilandelayo - "umqhubi", "umgungqele", "beech", "inkani". Ukukhethwa kwezinto ezifunwayo kuxhomekeke kwiimvakalelo zowesifazane, oqhele ukuveza iimvakalelo zakhe ngokucacileyo, okanye ngokuthe tye ukhetha ukukhetha ifom yokuzola, ukuze angayonakalisi i-idyll yentsapho.
Ziziphi iinkalo kufuneka zibhekiswe kwiimeko ezinzima - kunzima ukuthetha. Akukho mntu unokukwazi ukudweba umgca phakathi kweempawu ezamkelekileyo kunye neziphene ezingamkelekanga ngokupheleleyo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho umlinganiselo omkhulu weengcebiso, ukucebisa ngexesha lokuba uhlale uthe cwaka okanye uhlupheke, ukwenzela ukuba ungayifaki loo nto ingxabano enkulu.
Ukufundisa umntu ukufezekisa inzuzo yakhe
Amadoda kufuneka afundiswe njengabantwana. Umsebenzi wowesifazane ukuchaza, mhlawumbi ufundise umthandi wakhe ukuba enze imisebenzi ethile ekhaya kwaye engenakho izikhumbuzo ezingaphezulu, ukuba athathe inxaxheba kwisigqibo seengxaki zasekhaya, nokuba ngaba unokuchasene nale nto.
Kwiingcinga zabasetyhini, ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa, umnqweno oqinileyo ungakhethi nje kuphela ukufumana ingcamango yokuxazulula ingxaki, kodwa ukuhlakulela kumntu iimpawu ezingekho phantsi kwembono yakhe. Ngenxa yoko, uxanduva olukhulu luwela kumahlombe entombazana, ngokukodwa nje uxanduva lomntwana wakhe, okumele lulungele ubomi besikhathi esizayo. Ukwahlukana kukuba kuphela ukukhuliswa komntwana kungekudala okanye kamva kufanelekile, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuthetha oku malunga nomthandayo.
Umfazi unokuhlala efumana izizathu ezininzi zokulwa neziphoso zesintu. Phakathi kwazo kukho enye ibaluleke kakhulu: kuba umfazi ukuguquka komntu yindlela eya kubomi obude kwaye obonwabileyo, ngaphandle kweengxaki kunye neengxaki. Vumelana nale nto okanye akunjalo - nganye intombazana kufuneka ikhethe isigqibo. Umzekelo, unokwenza uvavanyo olulula: ukwenza uluhlu lwamakholomu amabini, apho kwicala lasekhohlo libonisa ukufaneleka kwalo, kunye neziphoso ezilungileyo. Uvavanyo olunjalo luya kukhumbuza umfazi into eyithandayo ngumntu oyithandayo kwaye yiziphi iimpawu azithandana naye.