Sizakuzama ukukunceda uphendule umbuzo: "njani ukuqinisa uthando kumlingane." Omnye "kodwa": nimele nifuna ukuqinisa uthando omnye komnye, ngaphandle koko iinzame zenu ziya kuba zilize.
1. Phawula iMelika.
Ubudlelwane obuqinileyo bubonisa ukuba kukho ithemba kunye nokuqonda ngokuvisanayo ubudlelwane. Kodwa, nayiphi na ibini ayiqinisekisiwe kwimizuzu xa iqala ukubonakala ngathi ayikho ikamva lolwalamano lwakho. Indoda nomfazi bayeka ukunomdla komnye nomnye, abayonwabi nayiphi na imisebenzi edibeneyo.
Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Cinga ngezinto ezinokubangela ukuba nonke nibe nandipha. Thetha ngesi sihloko, wabelane ngeminqweno yakho namaphupha. Ukuba ufumana isizathu esivakalayo ukuba wonke umntu athande, oku kuya kukusondeza kakhulu. Mhlawumbi uza kufumana into entsha kumlingane wakho, into ongayiziyo malunga nomnye ngaphambili.
2. Awuboni ngathi? Jabulela.
Iqabane lakho lihambelana nxamnye nawe? Awuyithandi kakhulu ekuziphatheni kwakhe?
Mhlawumbi uya kumangaliswa, kodwa akukho bantu bafana neli hlabathi-ngokuziphatha okufanayo, ukuthanda, iimvakalelo. Musa ukuzama ukutshintsha iqabane lakho. Cinga malunga nantoni na ongeyithandiyo. Fundisisa zonke iimpawu zomntu wakho ngendlela ekhethekileyo.
Yenza iqabane liye lithathe inxaxheba kulo mdlalo kwaye yenza uluhlu lwezo zimpawu eziza kuwe, kodwa akanalo. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kwazi kakuhle. Ngokuzivumela ukuba ube - usondele, uqinise ubudlelwane kwaye uqinise uthando lwakho kumlingane.
3. Inyaniso nantoni kodwa inyaniso.
Musa ukuzisa imeko kuloo ndawo. Xa ngamnye wenu ekamelweni liza kubuthana ezininzi zamagqabi. Vula uvule iqabane lakho, makangesabi ukuxelela izimfihlo zakho okanye iimfihlelo.
Impikiswano nganye, emva koko ayifanele ibe neenkcazo kunye nencoko, ikhokelela ekwakhiweni kobunzima obuninzi phakathi kobudlelwane bakho, obungayi kukwazi ukuhlanganisa kunye nabani na.
Zama ukwakha ubudlelwane kunye nokudala umoya onjalo ukuze ngamnye ukhululekile kwaye engesabi ukwabelana ngemibonakalo. Ukuba iqabane lakho lavulela umphefumlo wakhe kuwe, apho wafumana ukunyanzelwa kwamangqina, ukuthotywa kunye nokunye ukuphazamiseka, ndiqinisekile ukuba akayi kuvumela loo mpazamo.
Ukuba kukho into engakufanelanga, yithetha ngako ngokucacileyo, ngaloo ndlela, uya kuba sisondelelana komnye nomnye. Uya kufunda ukuthembela lakho iqabane kwaye uxabise ubuhlobo bakho.
4. Ungesabi ukubonisa ubuthathaka.
Ukusondeza imiphefumlo kunye neentliziyo zakho kunye neqabane lakho, uqine ulwalamano lwakho. Ungesabi ukuwela ebuntwaneni uze ubonise ubuthathaka bakho kumlingane wakho. Sitshele ngezo zinto ophuphayo njengomntwana. Ungesabi ukuhlekwa usulu, umntu onothando uya kuhlala eqonda kwaye exhasa iqabane lakhe.
Ukuze ukomeleze uthando lomlingane, khumbula idilesi edibeneyo, khumbula zonke iinkcukacha. Zama ukusinda kwi-grey routine, libale zonke iingxaki. Khawucinge nje, kutheni uye wakuthanda le ndoda? Ngaba ucinga ukuba utshintshile? Ewe, mhlawumbi uphumelele ngaphandle kweenguqu eziliqela - akayena mfana osemncinci owayegijimela ngaphaya kweebhuloho, ekubambe eengalo zakhe. Kodwa, eneneni uye wathanda ukuba ungabonakali, kwaye kunento ebaluleke kakhulu - ngenxa yeempawu ezilungileyo okanye izenzo.
Jonga nje iqabane lakho kunye namanye amehlo - kwaye awuyi kuba nemfuneko yokuqinisa uthando.