Ngako oko, uthando lunalo ulwahlulo oluhlukile, iinkcazo ezahlukeneyo kunye neenjongo. Kwaye ezinye zazo ziphumelele kakhulu. Ngalinye i-analalogi ithatha olunye ulwazi kwaye ngexesha elifanayo isimo sengqondo, umthunzi weemvakalelo. Uthando lunokuthelekiswa kwamanani amaninzi, ngokuqhelekileyo lugqithiso kwaye alithwali naluphi na ulwazi oluthile, alubonakali intsingiselo yothando. Kodwa kukho ininzi enxulumene nesayensi okanye ifilosofi. Ngoku siza kuzama ukucinga uthando ngocingo lwezoqoqosho, kwaye siya kufaka inkqubo ngokusebenzisa i-analalogies yezoqoqosho.
Yintoni efika engqondweni yakho xa uva "uthando njengendlela yoqoqosho yokutshintshiselana"? Mhlawumbi, kuni kanye nangoko kukho abantu abathuthunyiswayo okanye intombazana edibana nomfana nje ngenxa ye-vodeneg yakhe. Kodwa eqinisweni, kweli nqaku, asiyi kuthetha ngemali, kodwa i-axis of love, ekwahluke kakhulu kwindawo efana nezoqoqosho.
Iingcali zengqondo ziye zaphawula lo mfanekiso ukususela ekupheleni kweMfazwe Yehlabathi yesiBili, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uluntu, uqoqosho kunye nendlela yokuphila kwethu yaqala ukutshintsha. Enyanisweni, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu buhlala buguquka, kuxhomekeke kwimpembelelo yembali, ekuphuhliseni iteknoloji kunye neengqondo zelizwe. Ucinga ukuba uphi, uninzi kangakanani uluntu olutshintshile ukususela ngaloo ndlela? Yintoni esiyibonayo namhlanje kunye nothando? Yaye bafumana phi ifomu namhlanje?
Ingqalelo yakho, enye yeengcamango zengqondo, apho isimo sengqondo sabantu sifana nesenzo sokuthenga nokuthengisa kwimarike.
Iimarike, iifom zokuthengisa
Ngamnye wethu unempawu kunye nobuso bakhe kuphela, kodwa ke sonke sinempawu eqhelekileyo, iimpawu, iimpawu. Omnye umntu oqiqayo, umntu onetalente. Nangona kunjalo, elowo kuthi unxulumene noluntu, sijonge ezinye iinjongo, eziza kubonisa kuthi, oko kubekayo. Sonke singena "ubudlelwane bemarike", sifuna "ukuthenga" iimpawu ezithile, ukunikela ngokubuyisela oko esinakho.
Ngamnye wethu sele esazi oko akufunayo. Ukuba asiyikuqonda ngokupheleleyo le nto, ngoko ngexesha lethu liya kutyhila ngokungazi kakuhle. Xa sifuna umntu omthandayo, kwaye ekukhangela kwakhe ukucinga kunye nokuba sinokuhlala sisisigxina, sele sinekimu elithile, isaziso, isicwangciso senzo. Mitak okanye ngenye indlela bahlalutya abaviwa abazungezile, ngokumalunga nomgangatho esiwufunayo. Njengekukhangela umkhiqizo kunye nezixhobo kunye neepropati eziya kufunwa epulazini. Ngokuqhelekileyo sinomdla okwehlukile, kodwa kusekhona into efanayo, okuyixabiso elikhethayo iqabane elifanelekileyo. Sifuna uhlakaniphile, omhle, onomdla, onomdla, onobukroti, onenkalipho, enomntu ozinzileyo. Njengomthetho, zonke ezi ziimpawu ezintle zinezikhundla zokubaluleka kwazo, imfuno yesidingo, kodwa ke abaninzi babo bahlala bedibana neenhlu "zezifiso" ngamnye. Ngomnye wethu ufuna imveliso eyahlukileyo - umntu uxabisa ubuhle, kwaye umntu unobulumko bengqondo, ukuba umntu obaluleke ngakumbi kukubaluleka komlingiswa wakhe, kwaye abanye badinga ukuthobeka nokuzithoba. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunengqondo ukulinganisa abantu abaneempahla, kodwa ngamnye wethu unenani lexabiso lexabiso. Abazali bethu batyala imali kuthi, bafundisa izinto eziyimfuneko size sikhule ukuba "sizithenge ixabiso". Ihenyukazi ngokuphathelele kulo mzekelo oqaqambileyo kunye nomsebenzi ongazithengiyo wokuthenga umfazi - sidinga imilinganiselo yakhe kwaye kulo mzekelo singathenga umzimba wakhe, ubuhle, uthando kunye nokuhlawula imali. Esi sisenzo esivulekileyo, apho umfazi, umntu wenza njengempahla. Isenzo sokuthenga nokuthengisa apha siphinde sigqitywe ngokusemthethweni, njengokuba sisenzo somthetho somtshato. Ukwahlukana kuphela kukuba sithenga ibhinqa iyure okanye ubomi. Yintoni esiyidingayo: umzimba okanye umlingiswa, umphefumlo womntu?
Iimpawu ezixhamlayo kwiimarike zobudlelwane
Khawuqwalasele lo mzekelo: umfazi omhle ufuna indoda. Ufundela, ufunda kakhulu, ukhangeleka kakhulu, unomfanekiso wesibhakabhaka kwaye ukhange abaninzi abameli besondo esinamandla. Unomntu ongeyena unobundlobongela, uzinikela ngokuzithemba, ukudala. Ngako oko, "into enqwenelekayo" kwiimarike zothando kwaye unezinto ezahlukeneyo kunye nokukhetha, ngenxa yokuba iimfuno ezininzi njengomfazi onokuthi uyazinelisa. Kule nto kuvela ukuba akunakwenzeka ukukhangela umntu oyisiphukuphuku, umntu ongendawo ongeke akwanelise iimbuzo zakhe. Ukhangele umntu ofanelekileyo ukutshintshisiswa kweempawu, oko kukuthi yintoni efunekayo ngokwenenekazi namhlanje - indoda ekhulile ephakamileyo, efanelekileyo, inomdla wokuzihlaziya kwaye ngendlela yakhe inomdla obumnandi nobumnandi.
Ubuhle bowesifazane kunye nesimo senhlalakahle yindoda yiyona nto inenzuzo kwaye ifunwa rhoqo namhlanje. Ziyalingana ngokulingana ngamandla. Ubuhle bowesifazane ngumpawu zakhe, xabiso. Ingenisa inzuzo encinci kumthengi, kodwa iyimpawu enamandla yendlela yokutshintshiselwa. Ubuhle bunikwa umfazi ovela ekuzalweni, kukuvisisana nomzimba wakhe kunye nempawu, unokunyamekela nokugcina ukuvumelana. Indoda, ukuze inqweneleka kwiimarike zothando kunye nokumela into efanelekileyo yokutshintshiselana, kufuneka usebenze kakhulu kuwe. Ukufuna isimo sezenhlalakahle, ukuhlakulela impawu zobuntu, ukufunda ukungaqiniseki, ukuqonda nokuqonda, ukuhlonipha kunye nokufunwa kwabasetyhini, ukuqonda iingqondo zabo ... Indoda yenza umgudu onokufunwa kwaye uyathandwa ukuze uhambisane nemimiselo yoluntu. Kumfazi, ubuhle bunganikwa njengesipho ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi azixhomekeke kuyo. Ukungabikho kobuhle kudla ngokumbulala kwakhe kwaye apha ukukhangela kuncitshiswe kuphela kwinhlanhla.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubuhle njengento enokubaluleka ukulahlekelwa ngenye imini, ngelixa elifanelekileyo njengokuba isimo sezentlalo samadoda kunye nemilinganiselo yezinto eziphathekayo zikhuselekileyo.
Ekugqibeleni,
Ngaba uyayiqonda intsingiselo yezi zifundo? Ngaba uyavuma ukuba namhlanje ubudlelwane bunjengezenzo zokuthenga nokuthengisa, kwaye uthando lunikezelwa ezininzi njengendlela yoqoqosho? Nangona kunjalo, ngamnye wethu unendawo yethu yokujonga kunye nesimo sengqondo kwinto esisijikelezile. Omnye uyazi ukuthanda, ukufuna ukutshata, ukucula ii-serenades nokubukeka ubuhle bomphefumlo womnye umntu, uziva uxhamano oluyimfihlo phakathi kwesiqingatha ", uyazi indlela yokufumana uthando lokwenene nolunyanisekileyo ebomini. Ubuhlobo babanye bunyani bufana nokutshintshiselana kwempahla kunye nokukwazi ukuwela umda wokuzingca kwabo. njengoko sithandayo - sinquma kwaye sinye kuphela.