Ukunyameka ngokwesini kubangela ukuphulwa kobutyebi bezenzo zesondo, kunokuphazamisa ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye nolonwabo. Ngako oko, umbuzo wendlela yokunqoba ukuqina komntu wesini usebenza ngokufanelekileyo. Ukuqwalaselwa ngokubanzi malunga nokuziphatha kunokuhlala kufumana isizathu. Oku kungaba yimiphumo yeziganeko ezedlulileyo, mhlawumbi kufuneka uhambe nesiganeko esicasulayo kwithuba leshumi elivisayo, uziva unetyala kunye nokuxhalabisa okubandakanya ukulala ngesondo.
Bambalwa abantu abakwazi ukuphepha iingxaki ezinjalo ebomini kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo azibalulekanga kangangokuthi banokunciphisa kakhulu ubomi bethu bobulili. Njengomgaqo, sinokulondoloza inkululeko kwiimeko kunye nemisebenzi esenza sizive singakhululekile, kodwa kwiimeko ezinzima, ukuphazamiseka kungaphazamisa ubomi bobulili ngokwaneleyo, ukusiphoqa ukuba sithintele iimvakalelo zethu kunye neemvakalelo okanye siphephe ngokupheleleyo isondo.
Inkqubo yokuncedisa i-self-help program ichazwe ngezantsi. Injongo yalo kukunceda ulungelelanise indlela oziphatha ngayo, utshintshe indlela engafanelekanga ngesondo, ubeke izenzo zakho ngokutsha, ziguquguquke.
Iwayini yezesondo. Ndingayinqoba njani? Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, xa uvakalelwa kukuba unetyala xa ulala ngesini - ufunde ukulala ngesondo, zinike ilungelo lokuzifumana, zithokoze kakhulu kwinto eyenzeka ngexesha lokuqala, ukulala ngesondo.
Ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo ziya kunceda ukuphucula ubulili bakho. Kubalulekile ukuba ungagcini iminqweno yakho yesondo, kufuneka uqale ukuzicingela njengomntu onomdla kubomi bobulili.
Yenza ucinga. Kuhle ukuba uqale umsebenzi ngokwakho emisebenzini kwimfono, kuba kulula ukunqoba ubunzima kwimicabango yakho kunokoqobo. Ukuba kunzima ukuba ucingisise, sebenzisa iincwadi kunye namaphephancwadi ecacileyo ngesondo ukuvuselela ingcamango. Musa ukuxhalaba ukuba iingcamango zakho ziza kuba nawe kuphela umlingane wakho, kodwa kunye nabanye abantu okanye uza kubonisa iziqephu eziza kubangela ukuphazamiseka. Ukucatshulwa kwimeko yethu kuyindlela yokufunda iimvakalelo, ixesha elide likhutshwe kwaye akubonakali okokukhethayo. Akuthethi nantoni na oya kuyenza kwixesha elizayo uqala ukucinga ngendlela enyanisweni.
Thanda umzimba wakho. Ukuqwalasela kwakhona indlela yokuphila ngesondo. Khawucinge ukuba umntu omdala onokuhlangenwe nakho uza kuhlola njani isimo sakho sengqondo ngesondo. Cingisisa nantoni na inkolelo, njengokuba ufunde ngabo okokuqala ngqa. Ngaba zisekelwe kuphela kwiimvakalelo, kwaye ngoko kunzima ukuzithethelela ngezizathu? Ukuba kunjalo, zama ukubalahla kanye kanye.
Yiba ngumntu onobomi. Sitshintsha isiphakamiso: "Naluphi na ukuzonwabisa ngokuzonwabisa akuvumelekile." Ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda aphikisana, ethwala umthwalo onzima wesondo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba usebenza kwaye uphumule okuncinane, awuchithekanga kuphela kwizinto eziyimfuneko kakhulu, akunakwenzeka ukuba uzonwabela ubomi. Ukuziva unetyala ngenxa yendlela engafanelekanga yobomi kuya kuba ngumqobo. Zama ukwenza ngokwakho ukuthobela iintlobo ezininzi zokuzonwabisa, ukukhulula ebomini indawo yokuzonwabisa ngokwenyama - ngomculo, ukutya okumnandi, imifanekiso okanye uncwadi lwezinto ezithandayo. Oku kuya kwenza kube lula ukuphatha isondo njengomthombo obalulekileyo wokuzonwabisa.
Ukuba kunzima ukuba uvume ukuba iimvakalelo zesondo zivumelekile, kuyacaca ukuba unengqiqo engqiqo yokuziphatha kwakho.
Ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, umntu kufuneka abe namava kwaye abe namava, ayeke ukuba abe ngumlindi. Ukuziphatha ngokwesondo, zama ukugxila kwizinto ozifumanayo ekuqhagamshelaneni nomzimba womlingane.
Musa ukugodla, ukwesaba ukubonakala ungcikivo, usengozini okanye ungakufanelekanga ukunakwa. Musa ukunyanzelwa. Mhlawumbi uhlale ulala ngesondo, ukuze ukhange ingqalelo kwizenzo zakho okanye ngesizathu sokuba awuboni ukuba kuyimfuneko ukubonisa ukuzonwabisa kwakho nokuziphatha ngokuthe tye.
Ukulwa nokuqina okunjalo kwisondo kunokukwazi ukulahlekelwa ukuzithiba kwisondo. Umzekelo, unokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho ngokukhala, ngokuphefumula kakhulu okanye ukunyakaza komzimba. Bonisa ukuzonwabisa nganoma iyiphi indlela eyanandiphayo. Mhlawumbi okokuqala kuya kuba lula ukwenza ngexesha lokuhlaziya i-masturbation.