Unxibelelwano kunye neqabane lamashishini lunokuthi lwenzeke ngendlela ephosakeleyo, kwaye ngexesha lesidlo izihlobo zakho aziyi kuqonda ithoni yakho ebonakalayo. Mhlawumbi, ngamnye wenu waqaphela ukuba ukuthetha ngokumalunga nezikhundla ezisemthethweni, kwizifundo, emsebenzini, kaninzi kukho ukuvakalelwa kokungathembeki kokunxibelelana, uhlobo. Ibhinqa elithatha indoda, indoda ekhangele ibhinqa, kwaye ayikrokreli ukuba idlala umdlalo wengqondo wengxaki.
Unxibelelwano lunikeza abantu uvuyo, uvuyo, impembelelo entsha, bayamnceda ukujamelana nomsebenzi wobomi bemihla ngemihla, ngokunyamezela, kumsebenzi wobugcisa kumphakamisa kumanqanaba amatsha. Ukunxibelelana yinkqubo yophuhliso kunye nokusekwa kobudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, babonisa ukuqonda, ukwabelana ngolwazi, ithuba lokuqonda.
Indlela yokubonisa iingcamango zakho?
Ukukwazi ukuthetha nabo kukukwazi umntu ukuba achaze iingcamango zakhe. Kunzima ukuthetha nomntu ongenakukwazi ukuchaza oko akufunayo. Kwaye lo umzekelo ocacileyo ukuba udibana nomntu oseburhulumenteni. Unengcinga ezininzi zefilosofi, kodwa akakwazi ukuzithetha ngamazwi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, eli lihle kakhulu, kodwa kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla, wonke umntu onobomi unesigama esisisigxina.
Ngamnye wethu wadibana ngokuphindaphindiweyo nendoda leyo, ukuze ivakalise iimvakalelo zakhe, ayizange ibe namagama anele ukuchaza iingcamango nemifanekiso ehamba entloko yakhe. Amanye amagama aphindaphindiwe, iiphambuka ezinjenge "em" zifakwe entetho, njalo njalo. Mhlawumbi unayo? Emva koko unenkinga ngeengcamango zengcamango, yinkinga encinci, kuba le nto ingenakunqandeka. Sinokukuxelela indlela yokuphuhlisa ubuchule bakho kulo mbandela.
Indlela yokufunda ukuthetha?
1. Funda ezinye iincwadi.
Ukufunda ukubonisa ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo iingcamango kufuneka ube nesigama esikhulu. Ukuzalisa isigama sakho-ukwandisa iqondo lakho lokufunda, kufuneka ufunde iincwadi, amaphephandaba, iimagazini, iincwadi kunye njalo. Uza kuhlehlisela amagama anentsingiselo efanayo, kwaye intsingiselo yamagama amatsha oya kufunda kwiizalathisi.
Ukuthetha ngakumbi .
Ukunxibelelana nabanye abantu kwaye uxoxe ngezihloko ezahlukahlukeneyo nabo, unokufunda okuningi. Amagcino amaninzi amakhulu, ngokuqinisekileyo oku luncedo olukhulu kunxibelelwano, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukwakha isethi yamagama ukufumana intetho ehambelanayo. Ukuba kunzima kumntu, ngoko unokubonisa iindlela ezithile zokuphuhlisa intetho yakho.
Zama ukwenza izinto ezithile:
1) thabathe nayiphi na igama kwaye unike inkcazo ngesimo sesigwebo esipheleleyo, njengokuzibuza: "Kuthetha ukuthini ... ukuphefumula? "," Yintoni ... ukumomotheka? ".
2) uqikelele wena 2-3 nawaphi amagama kwaye wenze ngosizo lwabo isibonelelo, kwaye ngaphezulu kwabo baqulunqwe, bhetele. Ku luncedo ukwenza loo mvavanyo kunye nomntwana omncinci.
Ubunzima bokuthetha nabantu .
1. Ukuba umntu uthetha nomnye umntu onamazwi angaqondakaliyo .
Akunakwenzeka ukuba akhumbule ubunzima obuvela xa uthetha, xa umntu ethetha ngamazwi angaqondakaliyo kwabanye abantu. Ingaba ngamazwi angcolileyo, isethi yamagama e-slang, isigama sesayensi, esilunzima ukuqonda. Inokwenzeka ukuba, ingxaki ihambelana nemfundo kunye nenkcubeko, kwenzeka ukuba entetho yakhe umntu usebenzisa amagama angaqondakaliyo kwabanye. Kule meko, kufuneka uzive unxibelelwano lwakho, ukuba uyakuqonda kwaye ukuba kukho imfuneko ekuchazeni intsingiselo yamagama angaqhelekanga.
2. Indlela yokunxibelelana.
Le ngongoma ebalulekileyo kwindlela yokunxibelelana. Unako ukukhetha amagama kulaphulaphuli apho ukhona. Le yindlela yokuthetha, indlela. Kufuneka ukuba kusetyenziswe isethi yamagama aya kuqondakala kwaye afanelekileyo kule ngqungquthela yabantu. Kumanqanaba ahlukeneyo, unxibelelwano lwakhiwe, ukuba unesangqa sabangani bakho okanye kwiintlanganiso zoshishino.
Ukuze uqonde amagama akho okanye cha, zibeke kwindawo yomntu ojongayo, kwaye uzihlole, njengokungathi uvela ngaphandle. Kungcono ukusebenzisa amagama kunye neengongoma zeemeko ezithile. Ukuba uza kudliwano-ndlebe kwaye ubingelela ngokugqithiseleyo abaqeshi ngegama elithi "Inhlonipho", ngoko ubeka ingozi ekubhukuda emnyango. Kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu ukuthetha nje. Unxibelelwano luboniswa ngumbono kumntu odibeneyo kunye nomlinganiselo wenzalo yakhe njengomntu.
3. Inqanaba lokuthetha eliyimfuneko.
Kuya kuxhomekeka kwimeko, ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwentetho kulungile kwimibango eshushu, kwaye kwezinye iimeko intambo yokuthetha kufuneka ihambe. Kodwa into ephambili kukuba intetho yayisisigxina kwaye ilinganiswe. Nangona kukho ukunyuka kwemvakalelo okanye kunomnqweno wokuzisa iindaba ezibangel 'umdla, kufuneka uzame ukuqala iingcamango ezifakwe entloko yakho ngentetho ehambelanayo, ize ibe ngamagama.
Kukho umziselo ovumela ukuba uvakalise iingcamango zakho ngendlela efanayo. Xa uhamba, tshela into, kwaye akufuneki ukukusho ngokuzwakalayo, kwaye zonke iinqanaba zithetha inani elifanayo lamagama, malunga namazwi amabini ngesibini, kwaye uzama ukuvakalisa amagama amabili isinyathelo.
Xa ufunda indlela yokubonisa iingcamango ngokuchanekileyo, kuya kukunceda ukulahla amagama angadingekile ("em", "mfutshane", "kakuhle"). La mazwi angayivakala kubantu abangenalo isigama esilungileyo, kodwa banokuvavanywa kubantu abathetha ngokukhawuleza.
4. Ukuzihlaziya .
Naluphina unxibelelwano alukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwendlela yokuhlaziya. Ngoxa uncedo lwamahlaya unako ukuthoba imeko. Ngaphandle kwintlanganiso yezoshishino, kufanelekile ukuba ube nehlaya elifakwe ngexesha.
Ngoku siyazi indlela yokufunda ngokuchanekileyo, ukubonisa iingcamango. Zisebenzise ezi mpawu, mhlawumbi ziya kukunceda kwaye zikuncede ukuthetha kunye nokuvakalisa iingcamango ngokuchanekileyo.