Xa bekhangela amaqabane angamaqabane angamadoda, ezi zilandelayo ziintlobo zamaqabane ahlukeneyo ngokwasemthethweni: umhlobo-wesilisa, onyana-ndoda, umthandana-ndoda, indodana yindoda kunye neemeko zeminyaka ezahlukileyo ezikhethwa ngumfazi.
Iingcali zengqondo zibonisa ngokucacileyo umahluko phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini. Abasetyhini ababonanga ubudlelwane bezesondo njengobudlelwane bokwenyama, kaninzi banokutshintsha amaqabane, kaninzi banokucinga kunye neengcamango zabo zincinci kunabantu. Kubasetyhini, intlupheko ebalulekileyo yobudlelwane.
Kwindoda xa ukhetha iqabane, ubuhlobo bobudlelwane bokwenyama bubaluleke kakhulu (akubalulekanga ukuba usapho lulwalamano okanye ulwabelana ngesondo).
Ukukhetha umlingani yinkqubo yemvelo, engalawulwayo. Abafazi baqonda inani elikhulu lamadoda, okuvela kuye umntu omnye. Ndingathanda ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye naye, ukugcina ubudlelwane obusakhulayo. Kwintombi, indoda enye inako ukuzalisa yonke indawo yayo, ubomi bayo bonke.
Kukho eli binzana elithi: "Indoda ikhangele ibhinqa elisuka kwimbambo yakhe" - imeko efanelekileyo apho babini bafumana khona, kwaye bafanelane kakuhle. Xa bekwazi ukufumana ubunzima obukhulu kunye neengxaki kunye. Olu lonwabo olukhulu.
Umzimba wesondo usebenza ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokwemvelo. Umfazi usoloko ekhetha yena umhlobo, kungekhona nje umntu onjengaye. Uzikhethela kuqala kubo bonke abalingana nabo, umthandi ofanelekileyo.
Ukukhetha umlingani yinto ephazamisayo ngokusekelwe kulwalamano lwabantu abangabonakaliyo. Ukususela ekubeni abantu abangabonakaliyo bayabonakalisa.
Ksenia Ivanova , ngakumbi kwisiza