Umntwana ukhubekile esikolweni esiprayimali nabantwana afunda nabo, iingcebiso zeengqondo

Ukuqala kwesikolo ngumzuzu obaluleke kakhulu kumntwana kunye nonina. Ngokwenene le nyathelo lokuqala kumntu omdala, ubomi obuzimeleyo. Yaye le yinkalo yokuqala ebalulekileyo ekufuneka iyanqotshwa ngumntwana. Namhlanje siza kuthetha malunga nokwenza ntoni ukuba umntwana ukhutshwe esikolweni esiprayimali ngabafundi afunda nabo, iingcebiso zeengqondo.

Phakathi kwezinye izinto, isikolo somntwana yindawo apho ehlala khona kuqala, nangona kubancinci, ixesha ngaphandle kokunyamekela abadala, kunye nabafundi afunda nabo. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba iintsebenziswano kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo azinakongeza? Ukuba abanye abantwana ababahlobo nabahlobo, kodwa ungumthombo wokuxhalaba kunye nokuba yingozi?

Ingxaki yobundlobongela esikolweni kwiminyaka yakutshanje ibaluleke kakhulu. Kwaye bonke abazali kufuneka bacinge ngezinto ezinokuthi zenziwe ukuphepha iingxabano zabantwana. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukunyamekela imeko kwintsapho. Ngokuqhelekileyo ixhoba lobundlobongela esikolweni ngumntwana, enentsapho yakhe ihlala iphikisana, apho ukuthetha kuqhelekile kwiitoni eziphakamileyo. Abantwana abakhula kwiimeko ezinjalo bafumana lo mzekelo wokuziphatha njengesiqhelo kwaye bazithumele ngokuzenzekelayo kwimeko entsha, eyenza unxibelelwano lunzima.

Ukuba intsapho inamandla, abazali abanomthetho abaphelisa ngokupheleleyo intando yomntwana wabo baze bathathe zonke izigqibo kuye, ngoko umntwana owela phantsi kwinqanaba labantwana, ngokuqhelekileyo uhlaselwa kunye nokubetha afunda nabo.

Ngoko ke, okokuqala, qaphela oko umoya ophakathi kwintsapho, mhlawumbi oku bekuyimfuneko yokuba ulwalamano lomntwana wakho aluxhamle kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo.

Nangona kunjalo, iingxabano zivame ukuvela kubantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezisemgangathweni, ingakumbi xa umntwana wakho ekhethekileyo: ehlukile kwabanye abantwana ngokuphakama, ubunzima, ukubukeka okungavamile, okanye nje izinto ezithile zobuntu kunye nokuziphatha. Ukuhlaselwa esikolweni kunokuba luncinane kakhulu, luphakame kakhulu, luzele okanye lunqabile, luboya obomvu, lubi, luhlazo okanye lukhuni kakhulu umntwana. Kodwa nangona i-kid yakho ingenayo nayiphi na le mpawu, kuyafaneleka ukuba ubuze ukuba ubuhlobo bomntwana bakho nabo bonke abanye abantwana bubani. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba unyana okanye intombi yakho ibe yinto yokuhleka, kufuneka ungenele ngokukhawuleza kwimeko leyo, kuba ukuhleka usulu kudla ngokuba yinkinga enkulu ngakumbi - ukuxhaphazwa kwabantwana. Kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ngokucophelela ukuziphatha komntwana kwiintsuku zokuqala zesikolo. Akubakho ukuhlukunyezwa okuvulekileyo okanye ubundlobongela, kunokusasaza (ukungathandi ukuhlala kwidesiki enye, ukudlala kwinqela elifanayo) okanye ukungawunaki umntwana (ungamnquli, ungamthobeli). Konke oku kuphazamisa abantwana ngaphantsi kokugxeka nokuhleka.

Sinokujamelana njani neengxabano zabantwana esikolweni kwaye sincede umntwana?

Uninzi lwabazali kule meko linikezela umntwana ukuba ahlangabezane naso, ukuze ahlakulele ukuzimela. Ukuba le nto iyingxabano encinane nomntu ofunda naye eklasini engabikho kwimiphumo emibi, oku kuyindlela enhle ngokwenene. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ingxaki inzulu kwaye umntwana ejongene neqela elikhulu labantwana okanye nalo lonke iklasi, akakwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kootitshala kubazali kunye notitshala.

Kukho isigqibo esichasayo - ukuhamba nokulungisa ingxabano ngokwakho. Kwimeko enjalo, abazali banokugxeketa abantu be-hooligans, okukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi: abaphulaphuli baqala ukusongela ixhoba labo ngokugxeka ukubika ingxabano kubazali babo. Imizamo yabazali ukuyiqonda imeko kunye nabazali baxhaphazi, nabo bahlala bekhokelela.

Iingcali zengqondo kule nkalo enzima zikwacetyiswa ukuba zifundise umntwana ukuba azikhusele. Kwaye asithethi amandla okwenyama, kuba iindlela zamandla zisoloko zingasebenzi kumdla wokuziphatha. Nangona ngamanye amaxesha ukudlala kwezemidlalo kunokuba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma: umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ugxeka ngenxa yobunzima obukhulu okanye ukuhlazeka, ukudlala imidlalo kunokumnceda ahlakulele amandla, ubuchule, anciphise umzimba kwaye athole ukuzithemba. Kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu - ukufundisa umntwana ukuba azihloniphe yena njengomntu, kuphela kulo mzekelo umntwana uya kuba nako ukumhlonela abanye. Kwaye oku kufuneka umncede. Umntwana uyazibonela ngokuzimela kwakhe "njengabantu bonke". Ngaloo ndlela, ngamanye amaxesha kuncedo ukuhamba naye ngezinye izihlandlo: ukuba umntwana uhlaziswa yinto ethile yeengubo zakhe, kwaye ufuna ukuba "njengengane yebhokhwe," zama ukwenza njengoko ufuna - mhlawumbi, kuya kumnika ithemba ngokwayo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuzalisekisa zonke iifom, kufuneka kubekho umlinganiselo kuyo yonke into.

Ncedisa umntwana wakho ukuba enze izihlobo nabalingana nabo. Buza kuye, kwiziphi izicwangciso, ujikeleza bakhe abahlobo abatsha baya. Mhlawumbi umntwana wakho uya kuba nomdla kwezinye zazo. Leli thuba elihle kakhulu lokwenza abahlobo nabanye abantwana ngokubhekiselele kwiminqweno efanayo. Khuthaza ukukhulumisana phakathi kwabantwana abangaphandle kwesikolo, mhlawumbi kufanelekile ukumema abanye abantu emakhaya abo ngezikhathi ezithile. Ngokukhethekileyo ekuhlanganiseni izikolo zesikolo okanye imisebenzi yokufundela eklasini. Lawula inxaxheba yomntwana wakho kwimisebenzi enjalo.

Ngaba ngabazali abangakwazi ukufundisa kakuhle umntwana ukuba axubushe kunye noontanga, bamnike umzekelo wokuziphatha okuchanekileyo, bafundise ukuzimisela nokuzimela. Kodwa ungazami ukuxazulula zonke iingxabano zodwa. Kwiimeko ezinzima, xa umntwana ekhutshiwe eklasini, kunengqiqo ukubandakanya ootitshala, utitshala weklasi kunye neengcali zeengqondo ekuxazululeni ingxaki. Imizamo ehlangeneyo iya kubakhokelela ekuphumeleleni kwaye umntwana wakho uya kuba lilungu elipheleleyo leqela, fumana abahlobo kwaye azive ekhululekile esikolweni.

Ngoku uyazi ukuba wenzeni ukuba umntwana ukhutshwe esikolweni esiprayimali nabalingana nabo, isiluleko seengqondo.