Ngenxa yentlungu eyenzeka emphefumlweni womfazi, abameli bezesondo ezihle bayeka ukuvavanya ngokwaneleyo amadoda. Bathi ngabanye babone uhlobo oluthile lweziphene, ezingahambelani noluvo lwabo lonwabo. Kodwa ke, amantombazana amaninzi afuna ukufumana ulonwabo kwixesha elizayo. Yintoni enokuyenza xa, ngenxa yokudumala, akunakwenzeka ukuphatha amadoda njengabaviwa abafanelekileyo? Indlela yokwenza ngokufanelekileyo, indlela yokutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo, ukukrazula iingcamango ezinzulu kunye nokuvula intliziyo yakho ngokuphathelele ubudlelwane kunye neemvakalelo?
Thatha ixesha lokuhamba
Amantombazana amaninzi enza iphutha elikhulu, azama ukuphoqeleka ukuba atshintshe isimo sengqondo ebantwini aze aqale ukuthandana nomntu. Oku akunakwenziwa nakweyiphi na imeko. Umntu ulungiswe ngendlela enokuthi, ngexesha lokuvalelwa kwengcinezelo, uya kuthanda-akayi kuphazamiseka. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuba ubomi bakho buququzelele ngokuthe ngcembe, okokuqala kufuneka ulinganise umphefumlo wakho. Nangona ungazenzi oku, akudingeki ukuba ucinge ngezinye iintlobo eziqhelekileyo. Ngoko vula nje. Funda ukuziphilisa kwaye uzicabange ngawe. Emva koko, umfazi omdala onomdla ozithandayo kunye nezinto ezithandwayo. U-Woti uzinikele ixesha lakho kwaye unake ingqalelo kwinto oyivuyisa ngokwenene. Kumele uphumule kwaye ujabulele okwenzekayo kuwe. Nguwe omele abe ngumbindi wendalo yakho yonke, kwaye akukho mntu uzama ukumthanda, kodwa awukwazi, kuba awuzithandi. Futhi ungacingi ngendlela ozivakalelwa ngayo ngabantu kunye nento eyenzekayo kuwe. Awufuni ukunxibelelana nomdlalo, oza kuwe ukuba azi kakuhle-ungathethi. Akukho mntu owakunyanzelanga ukuba uphinde ulungele. Ukuba indoda inguHamit - uphendule efanayo, kuba akukho lungelo lokunyuka kwindawo yakho kwaye uphawule imvakalelo yakho. Futhi ungalokothi ucinge ngezinto ezichasayo nezikhubekileyo ziza kuthetha ngawe. Umntu oqhelekileyo nolaneleyo uya kuqonda. Kwaye ukuba akafuni ukukuqonda njengokuba unjalo, kuba kutheni ukhathazeka ngokutshintshana amandla akhe kunye nomzwelo walo mntu? Ukuze uhlaziywe ngamadoda, umntu kufuneka afunde ukuhlala ngaphandle kwabo, ukuba afunde indlela yokujonga ngayo imeko yakhe ingabi buhlungu, kodwa uvuyo. Ukuba uziva uzinelisekile kwaye unoyolo, ngoko ngenye indlela uyaqonda ukuba awusayi kuba nomsindo kubantu, ngenxa yokuba awuxhomeki kubo nantoni na. Yaye xa umntu emele, kulula ukubaphatha abanye ngokunyaniseka, kuba aba bantu banika isizathu esincinane sokudumala.
Izicelo ezininzi
Ukudumala kumadoda, ibhinqa liqala ukunyanzelisa abaviwa ukuba bafumane inxaxheba yendibano enokuba yinto enamandla kakhulu. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ngako, intombazana iqala ukukhangela umntu ogqibeleleyo, ongabikho nje. Kulowo mntu ngamnye kukho iigesi, sinokubamkela, kunye nabanye ngabanye.Tooom, ukuze ningadakali kwamadoda nangakumbi, ziqhelise ukuba ucinge ngokwaneleyo nangokwemilinganiselo, unqamle iimvakalelo zakho kunye nentukuthelo. Njalo xa ufumana umntu into ongayithandiyo, cinga ngendlela le nto inokuchaphazela ngayo ubomi kunye nobudlelwane, nokuba luyikeka kakhulu.
Umsebenzi wakho kukufunda ukungazilungeli kwaye ungayithobeli i-muzhchin emehlweni akho, kodwa ukuba ubone ukuba ngubani ngokwenene. Wonke umntu kufuneka abe neziphoso, kuba ukuba azinjalo, unokudibana nelosi (kunye nokuba iingelosi zipheleleke), okanye zivele kunye nomntu ongekho ngokwenene. Naliphi na umntu unobungozi abathile. Umbuzo yintoni isidima esinokuziqhayisa ngayo. Xa umntu evumela ukuba abone oko ekunjalo, kwaye akunjalo oko yena ngokwakhe umele, ukudumala okungakumbi kunokwenzeka ebomini bakhe, kuba uqale walungiselela ukuba abantu abajikelezayo bangenza iimpazamo, bacaphuke, benze izinto eziyintliziyo, njalonjalo. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza uvavanya kuye ukuba ungayifumana phi umlinganiselo omncinci, kwaye ngubani okungcono ukuba angabandakanyeka, ekubeni lo mntu akafanelekanga kuye ebomini. Ngoko uzama ukucinga ngokucokisekileyo kwaye ungayi kwiintliziyo, zombini ezilungileyo kunye nezimbi. Emva koko uya kuba nomngcipheko kwaye uza kuba nokukholelwa ukuba amadoda akwazi ukulungele, onobubele, athembekileyo kwaye uthembekile.
Nazi abafazi abasondeleyo
Ewe, ukuze ufunde ukukholelwa emadodeni, kufuneka ubone emva kwakho abo banokwenene. Utata, malume, bazalwana, bahlobo, ngokusondeleyo kuni kufanele ukuba nihlale ningamadoda enokuzithemba ngawo nanini na. Ekubeni ubomi babo bonke abesifazana kukho abo besondo esomeleleyo apho bangekhe badikibala. Kuloo madoda kufuneka ukhangele ukuba ukhumbule ukuba kwihlabathi kukho abo bafanele ukuchitha ixesha labo kunye nengqalelo yabo. Xa uvakalelwa kukuba awukholelwa loo madoda, khumbula ukuba umkhulu wakho umkhulu wayefuna ugogo wakho, nangona wayeziqhenye kwaye engenakufikeleleka. Emva koko unokunqoba ukudideka kwakho kwaye ufumane umntu oya kuba ngumntu ofanayo, onako ukuthanda, ukuxabisa nokuzinikela ngokupheleleyo kumfazi wakhe.