Ngokuqhelekileyo izibini ezinokuthi ziba nexesha elizayo elivuyisayo ngenxa yezikhalazo ezingenangqondo kunye nokuxabana, zikwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo kunye nexesha, zixubushe ngokukhawuleza iingxaki eziye zavela kulwalamano. Ngokuqhelekileyo ezi zikhalazo ziyinyani kwaye zincinci. Ukuba umntu uyithandeka kuwe, awukwazi ukuyishiya ngenxa yezinto ezintle. Uyakwazi ukuxoxa ngoku kunye kunye nokufumana ingcamango. Yaye ukuba ayisebenzanga, ngoko unokuzidibanisa neentsilelo ezincinci zintanda yakho, ukuba le nto iyinto engabalulekanga. Emva koko, ukulahlekelwa komnye nomnye kulula, kwaye kunzima ukuxolelana okanye ukwakha ubudlelwane obutsha nomnye umntu.
Kwenzeka ukuba intukuthelo ilungele ngokupheleleyo, kuba umntu othandekayo wenza into enyantyileyo, kunokuba wakubangela intlungu. Kule meko, ukuxolela izikhalazo kunzima kakhulu. Kule meko, kuyimfuneko, okokuqala, ukuba ulinde iintsuku ezimbalwa kude kube lula ukuvavanya imiva, kwaye unako ukuvavanya imeko leyo. Okokuqala, cinga malunga nokuba isenzo sakho sithandekile okanye asiyingozi kakhulu njengoko ucinga ngayo. Mhlawumbi uhlakulela imeko kwaye uqonde ukuba bayagxininisa ubugwenxa babo kwaye benze ngendlela yokuziva, kwaye ngoku bazimisele ukumxolela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu wakho othandekayo uye wenza ngokunyanisekileyo kangangokuthi wakubangela ukuba uhlupheke kakhulu ngengqondo ngesenzo sakhe, ngoko umcimbi unzima kakhulu. Okokuqala, cinga ukuba uyamthanda, nangemva koko akwenzileyo. Ulibale imizuzu embalwa malunga nentukuthelo yakho kunye nesenzo sakhe kwaye uzive, ufuna kwaye uya kuba naye, ucinga ngaye, ukhumbule ixesha lakho lonwabo lolwalamano. Ukuba ebunzulu bomphefumlo wakho phantsi kwezikhalazo kwakukho uthabatheka wothando, ngoko ulwalamano kufuneka lugcinwe. Ukucaphukisa umntu omthandayo ngokusondeleyo kusondeza uthando lwethu ngaye kunye neemvakalelo zethu zokwenene. Ngokuqhelekileyo, phantsi kobuhlungu bonke abathandekayo, kukho uthando kuye.
Cinga "iindidi" zentukuthelo. Uluhlu "lokuqala" lokucaphuka ngumsindo, ukucaphuka. Isibini "uluhlu" luyintliziyo yakho. Okwesithathu ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo kunye nolwalamano lwakho. Okwesine ukuguquka, kodwa ukuguquka ngenxa yokuba nawe, inxalenye yesohlwayo saloo myalelo womntu othandekayo okanye ukuba abazange bawuthintele iimvakalelo zabo baze bavumela ukuxabana ukuba kuphephe ngamandla. Eyesisithandathu uthando, ke, uthando. Emva kwakho konke, eminzini yomphefumlo wakho uyamthanda lo mntu kwaye akafuni ukulahlekelwa nguye. Yaye uyacaphuka kuye ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba uyamthanda. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba umntu ongeyithandanga ngokukodwa, oko kuya kuba okufanayo kuwe.
Nangona ukugxekwa kuchanekile, umntu akufanele akwazi ukuchasana nemigaqo yakhe. Kusoloko ufuna ukunika umntu ithuba lokuphucula. Indlela efanelekileyo kukuthetha nomntu othandayo ngokunyanisekileyo nangenyaniso, kuphela ngaphandle kwemizwa kunye nokuxabana. Chaza ukuba uye wakwenza kakubi kakhulu ngesenzo sakhe, kodwa uyamthanda kwaye ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho, ngethemba lokuba akuyi kuphinda kwenzeke kwakhona.
Kukho okulungileyo kakhulu-ukucamngca, okubizwa ngokuba "Izikhalazo Zokuxolela Abathandekayo", kunceda ukucoca umphefumlo wakho wecala. Emva kwakho konke, amatyala kumntu owenza kakubi kuqala okokuqala, umphefumlo wakho uphethwe yinto engalunganga, kwaye oku kungakhokelela ekuphazamiseni imiba kunye nezifo ezininzi. Ngaba uyazi ukuba iyiphi enye inguqulelo, yintoni isifo somhlaza? Ezi zikhalazo ezingenakuthethelelwa, ezixhomekeke kakhulu emphefumlweni kwaye ziphatheka ngokomzimba. Ukuxolela umntu owenze kakubi kuwe! Lo msebenzi ulula, kodwa unikezela ngempumelelo. Kubalulekile ukuvalela egumbini, ukuze kungabikho mntu ekuphazamisayo, cima iifowuni, kungcono, ukuba kukho ukuthula okupheleleyo, unokuvula umculo njenge "Enigma" ukuba ummelwane wakho uthetha kwigumbi elilandelayo. Thetha phantsi uze uphumule uze ucinge wena elunxwemeni, kwindawo elunxwemeni elunxweme. Ukuza kuwe uyintanda yakho. Nangu weza kuwe. Ngoku ungamxelela ukuba uphukise, kodwa uyamthanda kwaye umxolele. Khawucinge ukuba uyakuncenga, uyangqamba kwaye uthi uya kukuthanda. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokwenzeka, phinda lo msebenzi. Ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho lomelele, ngoko awuyi kuva nomphumo phambi ko-5-7. Ngethuba lo xolelo lwengqondo, umphefumlo wakho uhluthwa kancinci, kwaye emva kwexesha uya kuba nokuxolela ngokupheleleyo umhlobo wakho.