Iqabane eliseleyo, ngaphezu kwentlungu entliziyweni, ijongelwa ukwesaba nokuxinezeleka, kaninzi kukho ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okubangela ukuphuhliswa kwengqondo yengqondo.
Ukulahlekelwa ngumlingani wedwa kunye nehlabathi langaphandle ekuqaleni kunokuba luncedo. Ngokukodwa kuyimfuneko ukuphepha "abaduduzi" abafuna ukuxhamla ubuthathaka besikhashana. Ngamanye amaxesha baqhubeka bebuza ngobomi babo kwaye bazama ukufumana imali kule nto.
Kwiindaba zokufa komlingane, umntu ngamnye uyasabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Kuxhomekeke kubuntu bakhe, uhlobo lomlingiswa, ukukwazi ukuthwala ukubetha kwexesha elizayo. Ngokutsho kweengcali zengqondo, le mpendulo ihlukaniswe zibe zigaba ezine, kwaye ukubonakaliswa kwazo akuthathwa njengento ephosakeleyo kwimimiselo. Ekuqaleni iqabane, elishiye yedwa, libonakala lidakamizwa kwaye lingazange liyiqonde. Ngokuqhelekileyo eli nqanaba lihlala kwiiyure eziliqela, kodwa lingaba lide (ngamanye amaxesha eli lizwe liphazanyiswa kukubandezeleka okanye ukuhlaselwa komsindo). Emva koko ulandela isigaba sokudabuka kunye nokukhangela iqabane, elihlala ixesha leenyanga, okanye iminyaka. Eli nqanaba lihamba nosizi olukhulu kunye nesijwili. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uyaziphumla, uhlala ecinga ngomlingane oshonile, uyakhathazeka ngenxa yokulala. Kukho nokuba unomvakalelo wokuthi umfi ufuphi, kwaye iimpawu zobungqina bakhe zingabakho, umzekelo, ukuba zivile izandi ezithile.
Le meko igqithisa ibe yinqanaba lesithathu - ukudumala nokuhlaziywa. Ekugqibeleni, isigaba sesine kukuhlaziywa kwangaphakathi kobuntu. Iqabane, lishiye yedwa, lisetyenziselwa ukulahlekelwa kwaye sele likwazi ukuvavanya ubomi obuchithwe kunye neqabane, njengokungathi zivela ngaphandle, ukuba neengqondo ezintle.
Into ephambili kukuba zonke izigaba ezine zidlula ngokuqhelekileyo, i. wayenokuqala nokuphela. Intlungu nokulila akufanele kube yindlela yokuphila.
Okokuqala, umntu osiliweyo kufuneka athabathe iimbetho zexesha elizayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bunzima kangakanani. Kubalulekile ukudibanisa nokulahlekelwa ngumlingane. Umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukufa komntu othandekayo akunakwenzeka. Umntu oye wafumana ukulahlekelwa ngumthandayo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzama ukuzifumana kwakhona. Kufuneka ukuba utshintshe ngokukhawuleza kwimikhwa yakhe yokuziphatha, kuba kuphela kule ndlela iindlela ezintsha zokuvakalelwa kunye nokwenza izinto zinokwenzeka. Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukwenza oku, uya kuzincama kwikamva.
Iziganeko ezibulalayo ezenzekayo ebomini zihlala ziphazamisa utshintsho lomntu ngokwakhe: umhlolokazi kufuneka afunde ukwenza imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo yemihla ngemihla, kunye nomhlolokazi-ukunyamekela izindlu, ukubonelela ngemali enkulu. Ukuba kukho abantwana, iqabane eliseleyo kufuneka lizalise imisebenzi yabini bobabini abazali. Ubungcono umntu olawula ukufumana inxaxheba kwindima entsha, othobileyo, ozimeleyo uya kuziziva, ukuzithemba kwakhe kuya kubuyiselwa kungekudala. Ngaloo ndlela ke ubomi bakhe buya kuzaliswa.
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zesifo esibuhlungu: isifo esingapheliyo kunye nokuqonda okugqithisileyo komfi. Ezi ntlobo ezibuhlungu zingaba ngamazinga ahlukeneyo. Ezi zigulane ziphathwa ngugqirha.