Kungekudala, abameli bezesondo ezibuthakathaka baye batyelela i-psychologist. Umbuzo oqhelekileyo abawubuzayo kukuba umyeni wam unqwenele ukufuna, ndimele ndenze ntoni? Wayeka ukumthanda?
Kwasekuqaleni kwakukholelwa ukuba ukungafuni ukuzinikele kwizinto ezithandana ngokwesondo - isithwathwa samabhinqa. Yaye inyaniso yokuba isondo asikwazi ukufuna umntu-into eqhelekileyo kwaye akufanele uloyike. Sincoma ukuba siqwalasele izizathu ezinokubanda ngesondo kwendoda kunye nesisombululo sabo.
Ixhoba lokuziphatha kunye neengxaki ezinxulumene nemfuza
Indoda ebethelwa ngumthwalo weengxaki ezinjalo iza kuqala ukufumana ubunzima kwiindlela zesondo. Amaphesenti amathathu amadoda anesigxina sezinto eziphathekayo kumgaqo wesini obuthathaka kwaye abahlali ngesondo. Iingxaki ezinjalo ziba ngumphumo wokunciphisa ubundlobongela bomntwana, ngenxa yokugqithisa kakhulu. Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba umntwana akhula kwimeko yesini efanayo. Konke oku kuchaphazela nokuphuhliswa kwakhe ngokwesondo. Amadoda anjalo anako ukutshata, kodwa ahlala efumana ubunzima ekujonganeni nabasetyhini, bobabini ngokwengqondo nangokwenyama.
Kukho indlela eyodwa kuphela yokuphuma: awukwazi ukuyicombulula loo ngxaki ngokwaloo nto, ngoko, landela ukuhanjiswa koogqirha abachwephesha, njengogqirha wezesondo okanye wengqondo. Umfazi kufuneka ancede kule ngxaki kwaye axhasane nomthandi wakhe.
Isiganga sokukhanya se-neurosis
Umsebenzi wesondo uchatshazelwa ezininzi izinto. Ngama-nimotnosyatsya: amava onke kwiindawo ezahlukahlukeneyo zobomi babo, ukukhathazeka malunga nokuba yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle kwaye ingaba kuya kuba neentlekele, kunye nesimo sengqondo sengqondo sabanye. Ngaphambi kokuba umthwalo onjalo kunzima ukumelana.
Isiphumo: phelisa izinto ezikhokelela kwingxaki.
Iingxaki ezivela rhoqo
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ukungabikho komnqweno kudibaniswa ne-sublimation. Umntu ulawula amandla akhe ngokwesini kwindlela enye. Imizekelo yale mi sebenzi: ukubonakala komsebenzi weeyure elide, umdlalo omtsha, ithuba lokufeza umklomelo, umzekelo, ukwakha indlu yakho.
Isiphumo: emva kokuba uqedile umsebenzi wakho, iya kuba yindawo yayo.
Ubudala
Akuyiyo imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuba uneminyaka yobudala, indoda inzima kakhulu ukudlulisela umthwalo wesondo oqhelekileyo. Ukuba ngeli xesha, iqabane liza kufuna into engaphezulu kunokuba ingamnika, unokuba neengxaki, kwaye umntu uya kwenza konke ukukhusela isondo.
Ukuphuma: ibhinqa lifanele liqikelele imeko. Ukuhlambalaza, ukukhala kwezinyembezi, akunakuguqula imeko. Ukuba indoda yakho endala, xubusha ngale ngxaki kwaye ufumane isisombululo sokuba ujikeleze.
Inkxalabo kwintsapho
Ukuba umntu uyeka ukuziva ekhululekile nomfazi wakhe, unenkathazo. Uguqulela ezininzi izinto ezixabisekileyo, ubulili ngenxa ye-neugustrachivaet ukukhanya kunye nokuzimela, akukho nto entsha, ngaphandle kwezikhundla ezifanayo ayitshintshi, ezininzi iingcamango azizange zenzeke kwaye isondo liya kuba lincinci.
Phuma: Xoxa rhoqo nendoda. Ucinga ukuba uyazi yonke into ngaye, kwaye unokuqikelela ukuba naluphi na ukuthanda kwakhe, kodwa oku akunjalo.
Amadoda amaninzi akholelwa ukuba abanako ukubonisa ubuthathaka nokukhalaza ngeengxaki zabo. Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuba siqonde ukuba ukuthula ngeke kube ngokwaneleyo, kwaye oku kuya kubangela ukutshatyalaliswa komanyano onamandla.
Thetha kumntu malunga nento afuna ukutshintsha ngayo ebomini, into ayithandayo nento engayithobeliyo. Yiba ngumhlobo othembekileyo kunye neengqondo zomntu, onokuzithoba kuzo zonke iingxaki zakhe. Xoxa ngesondo. Qaphela ukuba akasayi kuphinda athathe isenzo esisebenzayo.
Ukhohlakele
Iimpawu eziphambili ezithetha malunga nokungcatshiswa komlingane kunokunyuswa ukucasula kumntu wakho, ukuphepha iingxoxo ezingenangqiqo nokungafuni ukulandela iminqweno yakho.
Phumani: ukuba unomdla wokujongana nenyaniso, zama ukuqhuba ingxoxo yeprophylactic nendoda. Zama ukuqaphela ingxaki. Mhlawumbi ulwalamano olutsha, lo ngumzamo wokubalekela iingxaki. Kwaye mhlawumbi uthando olutsha. Uzama ntoni, kwaye ufuna ukuza kuphi? Ukuqhubela phambili kulo, yenza izigqibo ngokuphathelele ukuqhubela umtshato okanye ukutshatyalaliswa kwalo.