Ukuze umntwana aphuhliswe ngokupheleleyo, ufuna ukudweba. Bonke abantwana bathanda ukudweba! Kodwa kukho iifana ezinomzimba onqabileyo onqabile ukupenda, ukumemeza: "Andifuni!" Yintoni enokuyenza ngayo? Okokuqala, ungakhathazeki kwaye uphuze, ungacingi ngokukhawuleza ngomntwana wakho ophantsi. Qonda izizathu zendlela yokuziphatha kweemvumba kwaye uzama ukuthanda umdlalo webhokhwe.
Ngenxa yintoni eyenza i-crumb ikwenzele ukupenda? Ngokomzekelo, namhlanje umntwana akasenayo imvakalelo okanye akanakuziva, mhlawumbi ngoku ufuna ukwenza ezinye izinto ngaphezu kwalokhu.
Nangona kunjalo, le nto ingaba nye okanye amaxesha amabini, kodwa kuthekani ukuba inkwenkwe ayifuni ukuyipenda yonke okanye iyenqabe ngezikhathi ezithile? Apha, ewe, kukho ezinye izizathu ekufuneka siyiqonde.
Kukho nesizathu esinjalo sokuba inkwenkwe ayifuni ukudweba kwi-tutemu ukuba iyabuzwa, ingakumbi ukuba umntu omdala akazami ukuba nomdla kumntwana nangayiphi na indlela.
Abazali bahlala bethumela umntwana ukuba enze into ethile, kwaye ahlale, umzekelo, kufuphi neTV. Abantu abadala bathi bathi: "Hamba ufumane into ebalulekileyo, upende ngeyona nto!" Nangona kunjalo, umntwana akayiqondi isizathu sokuba uphazamiseke kulokho akwenzayo ngoku, ukuze ahambe kwiipensela kunye neziqhumane?
Xa abantwana bepende kwi-kindergarten, ootitshala kufuneka bafike ngezinye izinto zokuzonwabisa, ezonwabisayo kunye ezimangalisayo, kodwa abahlala bekwazi ukutsala ingqalelo yintsana.
Ngokomzekelo, ukuba utitshala uthi kubantwana: "I-bunny encinci isifikile kuthi, makhele i-carrot!", Ke oku akunakwenzeka ukuba banomdla kubantwana. Ukuba ngaba uthisha oqeqeshiweyo akanakuhlala enomdla kwisihloko esithile somculo, ngaba abazali abayi kuphumelela nangakumbi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana abafuni ukudweba kuba abanakufumana into enhle ukuyikha okanye ngenxa yokuba abaqinisekanga ngamandla abo. Iintsana ezinjalo zihlala zilahla naziphi na izipho zokudweba, ngaphezu koko, zihlala ziqala ukukhala. Kwaye onke amaxesha athetha la mazwi: "Andinanto yokuzuza! Andiyazi njani! ".
Okungenani uxazulula le ngxaki okanye ubuncinci be-smootheneee, kufuneka uhlale ecaleni kwesiguqu kwaye umbonise indlela odweba ngayo okanye umbonise abanye abamkeliweyo abatsha. Mhlawumbi uya kuzama ukuchazela umntwana ukuba awukuzi kakuhle, kodwa uyayithanda. Ngoko umntwana unako ukukhawuleza ngokukhawuleza aze asule iinyembezi, ngokucokisekileyo aze athathe ipencilisi okanye ahlaziye kwaye aqale ukupenda, kwaye imidwebo ayiyi kuba yimbi kunabanye abantwana.
Ezi zinyana, ewe, ziyakwazi ukudweba, zisoyika ukuba abayi kuphumelela. Ucinga ukuba imisebenzi yakhe iya kuhlekwa ngabanye abantwana okanye nangabantu abadala, kwaye mhlawumbi iyancatshiswa ngu-karakuli.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana banentembelo kakhulu kwizakhono zabo kwaye balungele zonke iintlobo zezenzo kunye nokuxhaphaza. Ukuba, umzekelo, cela umntwana: "Ngaba unokubhabha kwindiza?" Okanye "Ngaba unako ukwakha indlu?", Ngoko ke umncinci uya kuphendula: "Ewe!". Bonke abantwana abancinci banokuqiniseka ukuba banokwenza konke, nangona eqinisweni abazange bazame ukwenza.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iziphumo zentsana azisoloko zikhangele ingqalelo, ziza kuba zingathandeki okanye zibi ngaphezu kokungafumani ukuphononongwa okulungileyo kakhulu, ngoko ngokuqinisekileyo uya kunika imisebenzi yakhe kwaye akayi kufuna ukuthaka. Mhlawumbi, abayi kubonakalisa nayiphi na iminqweno kwaye baya kuqala ukwenza umsebenzi wokuthayipha, kungekhona ukuzama konke, umntu omdala ngokwenene akayi kuneliswa ngumsebenzi wakhe.
Kukho esinye isizathu esithile sokwenqaba ukudweba, esidibana neqabile kakhulu ngokuthelekiswa neyaphambili. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba wonke umntu uhlukile kwaye wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe kunye neenkolelo zakhe. Kukho na bantwana abanjalo abathandi ukudweba - abayithandi ukwenza. Nangona kukulungele ukuzama ukucela umntwana, akayi kuvuma, ngokuba umzekelo, uyathanda ukufunda iincwadi kwaye uqoke iipuzzle ezinkulu.
Ndingayenza ntoni ukuba umntwana wam ukulungele ukupenda?
- Akukho nto!
Oku kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuya kuba ngcono ukuba awuyikukhumbuza intsana yakho nento oyifunayo okanye oyithandayo. Mshiye umntwana wedwa kwaye ube nethuba lokuzibandakanya kwaye uthathe inxaxheba kulokho akuthandayo. Ngamanye amaxesha unokumnika isahluko sephepha kunye nopende okanye ipensela, kodwa ungagxininisi kwaye ungaxhomeki kumntwana. Mhlawumbi emva kwexesha umntwana uya kubonisa umdla ekudwebeni, kwaye mhlawumbi oku akuze kwenzeke. Emva kwakho konke, abantu abadala bathanda izinto ezithile, umzekelo, amaninzi amabhinqa akafuni ukupheka nonke. Nangona uhlala unikezela iincwadi zokupheka kwaye uchaze zonke iingenelo zokupheka, ngoko awukwazi ukupheka.
Nangona kunjalo, kumntwana ngamnye unako ukuphakamisa inzala kunye nothando ngesiphulo, ufuna nje umnqweno kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ixesha.
Ungazama njani ukuvusa ekuthandeni kwenkwenkwe yomntwana?
Kule meko, into ephambili kukuba usebenze kakuhle kwaye kungabikho nantoni ukuba ube neentloni kwaye ungabonakali ukunganeliseki kwakho. Yazi ukuba abantwana bethu banxulumene nathi nipsihologicheski, ngoko siziva siziziva ngathi, kwaye xa uqala ukuva okanye ukhathazeka, ngoko ke i-crumb iya kuba yintliziyo.
Ukufakela uthando lomntwana wokudweba, kunokwenzeka ukuba uzame iindlela ezingavumelekanga. Umzekelo, qalisa ukudweba ngokusebenzisa i-stencil, udwebe ngeminwe yakho okanye ufefe ngemibala. Ukunikezela umntwana oko akuthandayo kakhulu, ngoko ke, ukuvela kwimoya.
Ukuba i-kid ayifuni ukuyiba, ke unganyanzeli. Yenza nje, kodwa ungabonakali. Ukuba i-crock iyayenqaba enye, ngoko-ke yesibini ayifanele iphinde iphinde iphinde icetyiswe ukwenza enye into.
Ukuba umntwana uqala ukudweba, musa ukumkhathaza. Abantu abaninzi abadala baqala ukulungisa umntwana, benyuke ngeengcebiso zabo, indlela yokulungisa into ethile. Yiba ngaphezulu. Vumela umntwana asondele njengoko akwenzayo. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza uphazamiseka kakhulu ngotshani obomvu okanye inja enesibhozo ezisibhozo, uze uchithe kule ngxoxo ingxoxo nomntwana, kodwa emva kokugqiba umzobo.
Musa ukwenza nayiphi na imibono! Zonke ezibonakala ngathi ziphosakeleyo kwaye akunjalo, inkunzi ibonakala iyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ifanele ibe. Qala nge mibuzo. Xa umntwana ebonisa umfanekiso wakhe, mbuze ukuba kutheni wawufaka ngale ndlela. Mhlawumbi wathabatha ingca ekhula kunye nabafokazi, kwaye inja ayiyena inja, kodwa isilwanyana esidalwa ngumntu ongazikwazi ukuhlangabezana nayo kwimpilo yakho yemihla ngemihla.
Ungalibali ukuhlala udumisa umntwana wakho, kuba kubaluleke kakhulu kuye. Nangona kunjalo, khumbula ukuba abantwana bayazi kakuhle, ngoko ke udumise loo mizuzu oyithandayo, into edibeneyo.
Ukuba ulandela imigaqo elula, unokufaka umdla wolomntwana kumdla.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuba inkunzi ingasetyenziselwa ukudweba, zibuze umbuzo, uthanda ukuzithoba kakhulu ???