Isiko esilumkileyo
Abaninzi bayazi ngesithethe sokungabonisi umntwana ngenyanga yokuqala yobomi. Kwiintsuku zokuqala ezingama-40 zobomi, unina owayenomgca wayekuhlambela (kubakho kwithuba elidlulileyo kwakukho indawo ecocekileyo) phantsi kolawulo lombelethisi kunye nezihlobo eziseduze. Kwala malungu entsapho amakhulu kunye nabangane, ukungena kwintsana kupheliswe. Zonke izalamane zineembopheleleko ezinzulu. Banyamekela unina, bahlambulule, bapheka, bamfundisa indlela yokunyamekela umntwana, badlala nabantwana abadala, kodwa abazange baphazamise ukusekwa koxinzelelo phakathi komama nomntwana.
Yintoni okhokho ababefuna ukusifundisa?
Esi siko sinentsingiselo enkulu yengqondo. Okokuqala, ngenyanga yokuqala yobomi bomntwana, umama kufuneka azicwilise ngokupheleleyo kuwo, angaphazanyiswa yintsapho okanye iindwendwe ezingena kuyo. Ufuna ukuqonda iimfuno zentsana, ufunde ukuzinelisa kunye nokuqhagamshelana nomoya. Eli nqanaba lifunda ukusebenzisana nomnye, amazwe abo axhomekeke kakhulu kumnye nomnye ukuba ukuba omnye unobungozi, omnye ufumana ukukhathazeka ngokomzwelo. Ingane leyo umama ahlala esebenzisana nayo kwaye eziphatha ngayo iyancipha, oko kuthetha ukuba umama uya kuphumla Uza kuziva ngathi unina ophumelelayo kuphela xa umntwana wakho eqala ukubonisa iimvakalelo ezintle, kwaye ngenxa yoko kufuneka "uhileleke" kumntwana, ufunde ngokufanelekileyo, uyinyamekele kwaye uqikelele oko akufunayo kwangoku ngaphambi kokubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezibi (ukukhala) Ulungele kwiimvuthu, ufunde ulawulo lwakhe lokutya, uvuke kwaye ulale.Ukufunda indlela yokugcina iimvakalelo zomntwana kwizinga elihle.Kodwa xa unxibelelana rhoqo nomntwana uya kuqonda oko akufunayo. Okwesibini, abancedisayo kufuneka banyamekele umbutho wokhathalelo lomama kunye nosana, kunye nabantwana abadala, ngaphandle kokuphulaphula ukuxhamla komama kunye nabantwana abadala. Okwesithathu, ukuba kucingelwa ukuba ngowomnyaka wokuqala wokuphila umntwana uya kuthathwa ngumnye umntu, kubandakanywa nomntwana, ngoko kungcono ukuseka uxhumo lwengqondo kunye nosana ngexesha leintsana.
Ubani obumbuso obaluleke kakhulu?
Ngoko, ukuqala kuphi? Ukufunda iimfuno zentsana, ukuwanelisa, ukulungelelanisa kuyo, ngaloo ndlela ukudala izimo zobomi. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umama wenza iphosakelo 'lokufaka' umntwana ekuzalweni ukuya kwishedyuli, esicinga ukuba (esoloko isekelwe kwiingcebiso kubazali abanolwazi oluninzi), kufuneka umntwana afune ukukhala, ukulala nokutya, ngenxa yokuba ufuna ukufumana unina kwiingqungquthela zakhe, ukuzilungelelanisa, ngokuba ngexesha lokugula, unina akahambelani nombuso awawuthileyo. "Kunjengokuthi ukuxelela unina ukugula kwakhe kukuba: Kubalulekile ukulungelelanisa kum, kwaye kungabi ulungelelaniso lwam urhulumente kumbono womntu. malunga nesimo esifanelekileyo. " Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba unina emva kokuzalwa komntwana uqala ukulungelelanisa naye, akadingi ukuba agula ukuba angqina nantoni na. Ivele ikhule kwaye ikhule iphilile. Kodwa ke, xa ushukunyiswa usana, umsebenzi womama wakho kukuthatha zonke izinto, ngokuba sele esazi nje iimfuno zentsana, kodwa nendlela yokuwanelisa ngayo .Kusesebuntwaneni, unina obeka ulawulo lomntwana, ukuba ngeveki nganye yeemfuno zakhe zihluka ngobuninzi okanye ubunjani, kodwa isitshixo sabo asitshintshi. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ubunzulu beenguqu kwaye badibanise kwishedyuli yabantwana, nje ukuyihlaziya.
Kukho umnxibelelwano!
Esinye sezidingo ezibalulekileyo zintsana kukuqinisekisa ukuba uqhagamshelane nomama wakho! Injongo yoxhumo lomzwelo ngumthando, uthando kunye nokuzonwabisa ngokuthetha nabanye.
Ukunxibelelana ngokomzwelo
Ukuba ngumntu, umntwana kufuneka akhe ubuhlobo kunye naye kwaye aqonde indawo yakhe ebomini. Oku kungenziwa kuphela ngunina: indlela umama endiphatha ngayo, ngoko ndiya kuzinyatha. Ukwenza uxhulumano oluhle lwengqondo kunye nosana lwakho, kufuneka ukwazi kwaye ulisebenzise izixhobo zoqhagamshelwano lomzwelo ekusebenzisaneni naye. Uthetha ntoni?
♦ Ukuthintana amehlo kwamehlo (ubumnene, ukubukeka okufudumele).
♦ Bomama.
♦ Intetho yokubeletha, ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza (ukuthetha okanye ukuhlambalaza, ukusebenzisa amagama abathandekayo, intetho yokunyuka kwenkulumo, izikhalazo ezilula, izithintelo zokunciphisa, njl njl).
♦ Uqhagamshelwano olunxibelelwano (unxibelelwano lwesikhumba ukuya kwesikhumba, ukukhwaza, ukumanga, ubuso obuthintekayo).
Ekuqaleni, phantse yonke into ixhomekeke kumama: okokuqala kukufunda oko umama akwenzayo, kodwa akaphenduli (akakwazi okwenzekayo). Kodwa kungekudala umntwana uya kufunda ukuxelisa unina aze amphendule. Emva koko umama uya kuqala ukuvuyela ukuba umntwana uyamncoma. Kuba umfazi lo mpu melelo, kwaye ngenxa yokuzicamngca kwam ngokwalo kweli hlabathi: umama wayedla ngokumomotheka, kuba ndilapha, kwaye ngoku uyamomotheka kwaye ngenxa yokuba ndiyakwenza into! Ngoko, ndiya kufunda ukwenza enye into ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuze ndibone uvuyo.
Ukuzonwabisa okuqhubekayo!
Ukutya, ukulala nokuvusa nazo ziyimfuneko ebalulekileyo. Ngexesha lokuzalwa, kubalulekile ukuwanelisa ukuze umntwana aqonde: ukutya, ukuhlala uphapheme nokulala kukhangele kakhulu.
Ukutya
Ukuba umntwana ulambile, akukho nto inokuthetha ngayo ngokuseka umnxeba, ngenxa yokuba indlala ibangela ukuphazamiseka. Kodwa ngokwalo inkqubo yokondla, umgangatho wayo wokubambathisa awuchaphazeli. Ulambile kuyimfuneko, kodwa akwanele. Ngako oko, kungcono ukwanelisa ukulamba kunye nokwakha intsebenziswano kwimvakalelo emihle, kubandakanywa nokutya zonke izixhobo zokuseka uqhagamshelwano. Kule nkqubo kufuneka uhlangane, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka nayiphi na into.
Iphupha
Ekubeni umfazi efunda nje ukuba ngumama omuhle, umntwana akakwazi ukulala kakhulu ekuqaleni. Emva koko, umntwana usenokuphumla kuphela xa evakalelwa kukuba: Umama uyazi kakuhle into ayicelayo kwaye uya kuyanelisa. Nangona oku kungenzeki kangangexesha, i-crumb iya kuba nexhala. Masiphinde: ukuhlala rhoqo koomama yimeko esemgangathweni yokuphuhlisa nokuzinza kwengane. Kwaye akukho ukulala. Ngoko ke, ukulala kuya kuba nokuzola, kwaye umntwana uya kuvuswa kuphela kuphela ukuba umama wayekufuphi. Ngaphandle kwiphupha, uvakalelwa isingoma kunye nesitayela sokunyakaza, iphunga kunye nesandi sikaMama. Ukuba uya kulala naye, umntwana uyanelisa ukuvumba kwakho kunye nezandi zokuphefumula. Ukuba kuphupha ebusuku, ke umntwana olala nje kwigumbi elinye kunye nomama kodwa nakumgama omkhulu uya kuvuka rhoqo ukujonga apho umama. Ukuba umntwana ulala ngasecaleni kunina (ekukude akukho ngaphezu kwengalo evulekileyo), uvuka nje kuphela ekudleni. Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza ukuba ngumhla, kwaye awukwazi ukulala naye, kuba kukho izenzo, kwaye akukho ncedisi? Ngoko kulungele ukuthatha i-crumb nawe kwaye uyigcine ezandleni zakho (ukulungelelanisa le njongo). Inkwenkwe iya kuziva isitayela esiqhelekileyo kunye nesingqimba sentshukumo, kunye nokuvumba, oku kuthetha ukuba kulula ukulala.
Ukuvuka
Ngenyanga yokuqala yobomi ngexesha lokuvuka komntwana ophilileyo, kukho ixesha elincinci lokunxibelelana usebenzisa onke amacandelo okuseka umnxeba. Kakade emva kweveki ezi-3 uza kuphawula ukusabela kokuqala kwintsana kumntu lowo uwajonga "wakhe". Ngelo xesha, umntwana uya kusabela kwizwi lomama, xa engakaboni. Ngeveki yesine umntwana uqala ukumomotheka. Kwaye kwimihla embalwa kukho ukuvakasha: uzama ukwenza izandi. Ngelo xesha, kukho imvuselelo yemoto: ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kunye nokuguqulwa okunye nokulungiswa kwamalungu, kunye nokuqhawula. Ingxaki epheleleyo yeempendulo zenzeka kwinyanga yesibini kwaye ibizwa ngokuba yi-revitalization complex. Ukuba ibonakalisa ngokugcwele, ngoko umntwana usakhula ngokuqhelekileyo. Ixesha lesisandul 'ukuzalwa seluphelile, ixesha lokuqala kwasebuntwaneni liqala.
Yintoni enye efuna ukuyifumana malunga nale ngxaki?
♦ Inkathazo ye-animation, umntwana akabonisi nje impendulo, kodwa ukhankanya nomntu omdala, ukuba kuyimfuneko ngoku.
♦ I-Kid isebenzisa izixhobo ezahlukeneyo zokuvuselela izakhiwo, kuxhomekeke kwimeko. Umzekelo, ukuba umntu "wakho" usekude, ngoko ukutsala ingqalelo yakhe, i-crumb iya kubonisa imifanekiso yezithuthi kunye negama lakhe: kwaye ukuba "wakhe" uyasondela kuye okanye umntwana esesandleni sakhe, uya kujonga ngamehlo akhe.
♦ Olu bunzima luhlala malunga neenyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezine, kwaye ke izakhi zalo ziguqulwa zibe ziinkqubo ezintle zokuziphatha. Ngomnxeba wokuvuselela ukuvuselela, umntwana omncinane ubonisa uvuyo oluchanileyo, obonisa ukuba unina usondele, umntu othandekayo, ukuba uthembele kwaye uyakuthanda! Ukuba ufumana ukuqonda okunjalo - isiseko sobudlelwane obufudumele phakathi kwakho sele sele ubeke!